Wedding gift question
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Wedding gift question
My BIL is getting married in two weeks. I had been invited to the bridal shower, but couldn't make it and didn't send a gift. In the shower invitation was the registry information, so now I'm wondering if we should give them a wedding gift off the registry or just give them cash? Is it still customary to buy a gift for the wedding or is money now considered the wedding gift?
I have seen both done. Also I have only bought one gift. Either for the shower if I went or the wedding, but never for both
I would find something useful on the registry or find out where they are going on their honeymoon and give them a gift for that...dinner somewhere, etc.
I've never given money for a wedding and I doubt I ever will unless it's my own daughter. I always give a gift for the shower AND the wedding if invited to both, so maybe that's a personal thing. I would go with something off the registry personally.
I've always felt if i received an invitation to both, I;m obligated to give a gift for both. Depending on the person's financial situation,I have given money. Have fun at the wedding.
If I am invited to both, I give a gift at both. I usually give money for a wedding gift. I know we needed money when we first started out!!
I think this is a regional thing. When I married in texas, people either gave gifts at a shower or at the wedding not at both. Giving gifts though is not obligated for invitations. It is obligated if you attend.
I've usually given a gift for the shower, if I was invited AND the wedding!
I would get them a gift off the registry. I usually don't give cash.
I usually give a gift at the shower and give money as a wedding gift, but since I didn't attend the shower, and don't feel obligated to give a gift when I'm not attending an event, DH and I were thinking of buying something off the registry. I was curious whether that was still acceptable or not. I hate to say it, but it would be less expensive for us to buy them a gift than give money, as DH is very generous (too generous, sometimes) and we also have Mother's Day coming up as well as a few birthdays and my oldest graduating from high school. It's going to be a very tight couple of months for us moneywise! BIL and his fiance have been living togther for 5 years and this is a second marriage for both of them. While I'm sure they would appreciate the money, I hope a gift will suffice.
I always give cash for both. This way people can buy what they want. Ame
My BIL got married last summer. We just gave them cash. That was our favorite gift when we got married
I always give a gift for the shower and usually cash for the wedding, Cash is usually a lot more useful than yet another candle holder or vase
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