to see what all we need to do or if it is even possible to adopt a sweet little baby boy. He's almost 5 months old. His birth mother is 17. She signed guardianship over to a friend of mine the day he was born. She had intended on adopting him herself but with circumstances beyond her control she will not be able to continue with the adoption. I have been around this baby since he was 3 weeks old and have grown quite attached to this little guy so you can imagine how heart broken I was when she said she was going to turn him over to social services. She brought him to me last night and dh, dk's and I agree it just wouldn't be right to let him go into the system. I'm going Annon because I have family that periodically lurks on here and I don't want to let them find out this way. We have decided not to say anything to our family until we know for sure that we are going to be able to do this.

By Brandy on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 07:17 am:

awe...

By Annie2 on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 07:31 am:

What a beautiful person you are. I hope everything works out for you, your family and the baby. (((HUGS)))

Please keep us posted.

By Mom2three1968 on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 07:37 am:

Oh, I do so hope it works out for you! I'm adopted too and what a wonderful thing it would be if you could give this little angel a home!

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 08:11 am:

I hope it works out for you!

By Vicki on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 09:01 am:

Prayers that it all works out for you.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 09:01 am:

I am so hoping this works out for you... I can't wait for you to come out and let us know who you are... That little man, you and your family are in my prayers....... What an assume thing and for you to let us be a part of.... Please keep us posted, you know we all want to hear....

By Justanaunt on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 09:23 am:

Hope it all works out for you!

By Tripletmom on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 09:40 am:

Wow,good for you.I hope it all works out for you!

By Sandysmom on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 10:51 am:

I sincerely hope it all works out for you. Please keep us updated.

By Cat on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 11:17 am:

Thoughts and prayers. I can't wait to hear and update!

By Debbie on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 01:44 pm:

I hope everything works out for your family. What a wonderful thing for you to do.

By Brandy on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 04:09 pm:

also wanted to say i hope everything works out for you but didn't know how to word it = )

By Jewlz on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 04:37 pm:

this is totally awesome good luck to u and the lil one!!!

By Bellajoe on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 04:55 pm:

awww that's so sweet and wonderful! I look forward to finding out who you are! I will be thinking of you and the little guy!

By Brandy on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 09:54 pm:

how did everything go?

By Bobbie~moderatr on Wednesday, March 21, 2007 - 10:00 pm:

Wondering myself??

By Insaneusmcwife on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 06:39 am:

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By Insaneusmcwife on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 06:39 am:

so much for going annon ....sorry for all the typos

By Sandysmom on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 06:51 am:

oh sweetie, I am so sorry.

By Dana on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 07:42 am:

prayers for you family and this little boy.

By Mom2three1968 on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 07:49 am:

I'm sorry..., I feel for all of you.

By Vicki on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 07:50 am:

So sorry. Maybe she will change her mind after she has him for a few days and can see what all is involved in it. Prayers for the little guy.

By Brandy on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 08:06 am:

i'm sorry the mom isn't willing to cooperate = (

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 08:07 am:

I'm so sorry!

By Debbie on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 09:33 am:

I am so sorry. Like someone else mentioned, maybe after a few days of caring for him, she will change her mind.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 10:28 am:

I will pray that she does what is right for that baby... Using him as a ploy, is so not right and I hope she will recognize her freedom has much more value to her... Maybe she will recognize your love for him when she picks him up and will decide to bring him back when she wakes up and realizes the reality of being a mother... I can only pray that she has half a heart in this whole situation from what you have said....

I know your heart is breaking, we are here... And we are all praying for the little man.... Blessings be on all of you.... My heart hurts for the little guy and I hope for him all the best.... to be swapped around so young, terrible............. **shaking my head**

By Insaneusmcwife on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 11:12 am:

I have been waiting for her to come since I got off my morning run at 9 and she didn't show or call until about 10 min ago. We are now going to meet her at 530 at Denny's. df was talking to bm when she called and said that she sounds very hesitant now to pick him up. Hopefully this is a good sign. I'm going to go spend the rest of my break cuddling with Joey. I'll let you all know how this evening goes.

By Tonya on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 11:19 am:

Good luck prayers are coming your way. God will make this work for the best interest of Joey you wait and see!!

Love him now that is all you can do!!

By Justanaunt on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 04:10 pm:

Good luck that things will work out for what's best for the child.

By Bellajoe on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 04:15 pm:

I've got tears in my eyes right now. The poor little guy is getting bounced around and is now going to some lady who looks scary to him and who probably won't take good care of him. I hope she figures out how much responsibility he is and gives him back to you. I will be praying for you guys!

By Bobbie~moderatr on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 04:24 pm:

So sorry, you remain in my thoughts.. Hopefully Joey will have a wonderful life no matter where he ends up.. More blessings from me.... We will be here...

By Conni on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 04:30 pm:

My guess is that you have a chance if you want to take her to court and fight for him. She sounds like a total loser. She has many strikes against her already. (has had nothing to do with her own child for 5 months??, for example...) Has she supported him financially at all? I doubt it. Sounds like she pretty much gave baby up.

I am confused...

By Bobbie~moderatr on Thursday, March 22, 2007 - 09:19 pm:

Conni, it isn't that easy, the CPS laws set up to protect the child are so full of holes.. If she files a complaint, they have a bunch of red tape to get through before they can even remove the child.. She is not a blood relative to the child so she can't just file in a court for custody.. The bio mom would have to have him removed by CPS or a bio Relative. The bio mom would have to have her rights removed, another court hearing. And if she agrees to treatment, counseling etc, then there is a stay until she has time to complete her treatment. At the end of which would be yet another trial.. And all of this would be conducted through CPS meaning that Joey will go into foster care, he has to be in the care of family or a certified foster home... which it doesn't take much to certify but still this all means a lot of time..

Which honestly, in this day and age, even if the mom signed off all it would take is the bio dad showing up and wanting him for him to be removed again... Parental rights have more weight in our system than child safety does.

By Insaneusmcwife on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 06:36 am:

She took him back last night. I was too upset and it was too late to post when we got back last night. I'll give you all the full scoop tonight.

By Brandy on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 07:53 am:

= ( i'm so sad to hear this...your in my thoughts and prayers ...

By Mom2three1968 on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 07:58 am:

awwwwwwww I'm sorry Kristy.

By Debbie on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 08:30 am:

I'm so sorry, Kristy. {{{{Hugs}}}

By Tonya on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 10:37 am:

I am so sorry. Maybe she will realize what she is doing is wrong after having to be a FT mom for a few days. Prayers for little Joey and for your family.

By Tayjar on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 10:40 am:

I'm so sorry. Those words don't seem adequate but please know we are all thinking of you and praying the birth mom will realize her son is better off with a family who truly loves him and wants what is best for him. (((Hugs)))

By Sandysmom on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 11:57 am:

I'm so sorry. This totally stinks.

By Insaneusmcwife on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 11:08 pm:

Its ok, really. I had a long talk with her at Denny's and I know that she is sincere. We gave her an earfull and she held her ground and was very defensive when answering the questions we were asking her. She wrote a novel of notes on all the info we were giving her about Joey and when it was time to change his diaper she looked nervous so I took her in the bathroom and showed her how. While she was changing him, she looked at me and asked if I though she was doing the right thing. My answer to her was "You are his MOTHER, he is your flesh and blood, he belongs with you. We just want whats best for Joey, we want him to be taken care of and loved and if you are sincere in taking him back then yes, I think you are doing the right thing." We called her tonight because I noticed her number on the caller id. She is not feeling well and wanted to know if I could pick him up in the morning and take him on my field trip. (I'm driving the middle school restlers to the state finals). She was going to meet me there so we could talk more but she is not feeling well so she is going to stay home. We went by to see her and take her some meds. She showed us all that they had bought for him and how she has everything set up. And what she has learned so far on her own. She said she has wanted him back from the very begining but was scared and she is young so that is understandable. She has found that she has a lot more support than she had thought and she seems very happy to have him. I feel that she is going to do right by him and that is all that matters. We just want him to be loved and taken care of. Her boyfriend (not his daddy) is very much in love with him already and so is bf's mom. Dh and I both feel that we were the bridge between my df and the bm. I am very grateful that she is willing to call us and let us all stay in his life. He is one LOVED little man! We are all going to try to help out as much as we can. I better get in bed its late and I have to be at the school in less than 7 hours.

By Reds9298 on Friday, March 23, 2007 - 11:12 pm:

I hope that everything works out for the best for this little boy, his mother, and all of you. I'm sure this has been an emotional roller coaster. {{HUGS}}

By Bobbie~moderatr on Saturday, March 24, 2007 - 07:54 am:

A child can never have enough love and if she will allow you to play a role in his life this is great.... Keep communication going, they both are going to need all the support they can get... Big hugs to you all...

By Conni on Sunday, March 25, 2007 - 09:15 am:

(((HUGS)))... Thanks for the update. You are a very special person.