I wrote on a past post how my brother and sil said some hurtfull things and down right mean things to me and dh because dh was sil boss. Well I haven't spoke to him since I have seen him at family get togethers but I don't care to talk to him or her. Well I seen them at my parents yesterday. I had to pick up my kiddos because they spent the night with grandma and papa anyway. I didn't say anything to them and just visited with my parents. I get home spoke with my Mom about a rash on my ds and wanted to know if she knew anything about it. She said that my brother had called and wanted to know what my problem was. I don't think that I should have to explain myself when it is something they had started and I also don't think I have to forget anything had happened. Also a few days ago my brother called my Mom yet again wanting to know why my dh would send someone to her new place of work wanting to know how she was doing and if she liked it. Dh had no clue and the person who I guess went down was my sil friend who worked with her at dh place. but she tells this crap to my brother and blows it out proportions and I know some of it is lies. Dh hates my sil with a passion why would he want to know she is doing. But I am tired of them constantly going behind our backs saying this crap that is so untrue. I dont know what to do?? any suggestions

By Yjja123 on Monday, February 26, 2007 - 05:17 pm:

If you DO anything, you continue the drama. I learned a while ago (thanks to a lot of wonderful people on here) that to react gives the in-law-from-h*ll the response they are looking for. By not reacting, we have limited the "drama" from our inlaws the past few years. Simply move on and do not discuss the matter with your family. It is not right for your mother to try to get in the middle. Simply say it is between your family and his family and you do not wish to discuss it any further.
(((HUGS)))

By Ginny~moderator on Monday, February 26, 2007 - 05:55 pm:

Yvonne is absolutely right. Hard as it is, take the high road and vent here. I hope your dh has a way/place to vent also.

By Tripletmom on Monday, February 26, 2007 - 06:26 pm:

BTDT-((HUGS)) I took the high road and it took 2yrs for them to say sorry .We started talking at another siblings funeral.We talk, but we will never have what we did before I think it's worse when children are involved.For the longest time my dd asked to go visit her cousins and I always told her Uncle X was working and then she finally stopped asking about them.I'm glad things have worked out now.I get my nieces for sleepovers and I know my SIL's schedule so I try to avoid when she's home.I DO talk to her but I will never give my whole self to her for friendship again.I hope you can figure something out that you can live with.As for the crap that they're saying,we went through that too.Our family/friends know what type of people we are and knew she was nothing but trouble.Again,I'm sorry your going through this.It really sucks....

By Debbie on Monday, February 26, 2007 - 09:50 pm:

Ditto eveyone else. I would just ignore it. If your mom talks to you about it again, tell her you don't want to discuss it, because you don't want to put her in the middle of it. If you are with your brother and his wife at a family function, just be polite and say as little as possible to them. After awhile, when they don't get a response from you or your dh, they will stop.