As some of you know in the past I have had some problems with my brohter and his wife. Dh hired sil a few months ago(which was a huge mistake) anyway this past Sunday dh heard that she found her another job and that Tuesday was going to be her last day. Well she never told dh So Monday she he went in at noon like always. She never once mentioned or put notice in that she was quiting. So dh went on with his normal day Well at 4:30 he came home for lunch. and Sil went to the pharmacy and told everyone goodbye and that she was quiting she walked up to the front of the store threw her keys on the sesk and left. So my brother called me and started yelling at me saying that dh went to work early Monday and told everyone that she was quiting she had a new job. Which I tried to explain to him that dh didn't get work until 12 and that he never said anything to anyone. So he then goes on to tell me Dh is mean, a coward, and has no back bone. He's not a good boss he was really mean to sil and all this crap. That I should call down there and ask all the other girls about him because no one likes him they told sil all this stuff and I am sitting there thinking if he is so bad why do they ask dh and I out to go to bbq's, go to the night clubs and all this in my book if they didn't like him they wouldnt invite him to anything. He also told me that he never stood up for sil and that dh should call and ask her why she quit and that not right he shouldn't have to call her he wouldn't anyone else that worked down there. I told my brother that if dh was so mean and a coward and had no back bone that him and sil can take her dd back and forth to school because i wasn't anymore. If dh is that bad then why put your dd with him because he take them to school in the morning and he is the money maker in this family he pays the gas to take her and the car payment. I was furious and hurt that my brother took her word for everything and wouldn't hear nothing otherwise he said he had to believe her because she is his wife so It was a big mess and he was totally hatefull and dh and my brother were best friends before dh and I ever got together and for dh to be mean we have been together 13 years and have only seen him made once and that was when he got home Monday and heard all that my brother said about him. So as of now we are kinda not speaking. I told my mom that I am tired and done with it all

By Latonya on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 11:20 am:

I don't have any advice for you on this but I just want you to know that I am thinking of you. I am sorry this is happening with you brother and sil. I don't get along with most of my in-laws but I only have to see them on holidays.

By Sandysmom on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 11:21 am:

(((hugs)))) Situations like this are always difficult. I hope it will work out eventually.

By Kaye on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 11:25 am:

Sorry this has gotten ugly. Just a couple of thoughts..

First, you know when people are angry they say things they don't mean, and there are two sides to every story.

Second, do you love your husband? Do you think he is a great guy? If yes, then even if everyone at work hates him, who cares? If he is the man of your dreams when he is at your house, as long as he isn't breaking any laws, then it just doesn't matter.

There is probably some grain of truth in what your SIL said, there might be people that don't like your dh. They might of had many bash sessions. Or they might of done the big nod and grin thing as she was out the door because it was just easier that way.

((Hugs)) Hopefully you can get to a place of peace about all this. But remember the only person you can control is you and how YOU handle things.

By Bellajoe on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 11:28 am:

That's exactly why I won't go work for my brother. He and his wife keep hinting that they'd like me to be a sort of secretary for my brother's new business. I don't even want to go there because i dont want it to ruin anything.

I'm sorry this is happening with you guys. I hope it all get's worked out eventually! ((HUGS))

By Shann on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 08:12 pm:

Dh and I talked about this again today and he said that some of the times they probably don't like him he said usually its because he has to make sure they get things done so he has to constantly tell them so he said that he knows he makes them mad but thats his job and its there job