I hate it when people tell me, after I gave them a gift or something, that it was "unnecessary". Just be gracious...it totally ruins the original act for me.

I wrote my stepmother and my dad a thank you note for our Christmas gifts and she emailed me today and said "That is sweet of you but not necessary."
I've always been taught to send a thank you note AT LEAST to your elders. If you live in the same household, then maybe not. But, if you aren't there to see them open the gifts, a thank you note is in order (I believe). I think she feels bad not writing one to us but honestly, I think she's too cheap to pay postage. (I was there one time when she YELLED at my dad when he accidentally used a 32cent postage stamp on a postcard. And, trust me, they are definitely not hard up for money by any means. She told me one time that she went to an ice cream parlor as a fun outing with friends but didn't buy the ice cream because she "couldn't enjoy" it while paying that price.)

So, maybe that's another topic in and of itself...but please don't tell someone it is "unnecessary". If THEY felt it was unnecessary then they wouldn't have done it in the first place.
Vent vent vent...

By Tripletmom on Wednesday, January 10, 2007 - 09:46 pm:

I think when people cannot be gracious they just don't know how to accept a compliment.I wish people could just say THANKS!!!I've felt disappointed a few times because of people's insecurties.I like to put alot of thought into people's gifts that I buy.

By Eve on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 08:07 am:

Gosh, sometimes I know I have said "Thank you so much! You didn't have to get me a gift!" I was just surprised when a friend gave me something. I wasn't saying it because I was not thankful. Is that something completely different? I've never said "unnecessary" as that sounds a little cold. Maybe that's the difference. She sounds difficult, Heidi.

By Reds9298 on Thursday, January 11, 2007 - 08:33 am:

My parents usually say "it was unnecessary", but I think they're saying it because they're thinking "we're your parents, you never have to thank us because it's what we do", that sort of thing. I've never thought about it I guess.

I think people just say things sometimes because they're not sure what else to say, or (like my parents) they feel weird getting a 'thank you'. On the other hand, my grandma would REMIND me if she didn't get a thank you card! LOL