Do any of you feel like you live like roommates? Do any of you ever feel like you are a single parent, even though you are married?
This is how I feel, and yes my spouse knows how I feel. It does not change anything. I learned I have to change myself and how I react to things?
For those who live like this, how do you do it? Does it just become 2nd nature after awhile? I am getting to the point that it is not a big deal anymore.

By Jtsmom on Saturday, December 2, 2006 - 07:38 pm:

I will be honest with you, I feel like this quite often. It gets too easy to get in a rut or routine. I love my husband very much, but it isn't a big deal to me anymore. I know I am not help, but you are not alone.

By Sandysmom on Saturday, December 2, 2006 - 08:25 pm:

Sometimes the cares of life and the ongoing same ol' routine can cause things to become stale. And, recently, it has been hard for us to keep things fresh. I would have to say that what you are going through is normal up until the point where you said that you are getting to the point that it is not a big deal anymore. That's when things start getting dangerous. Do whatever you can to shake things up(in a good way). (((((hugs)))))

By Sandysmom on Saturday, December 2, 2006 - 08:56 pm:

I also wanted to mention that I too have been trying to learn how to change myself and how I react to things. However, it is soooooooooooo irritating when you are the only one who sees that you need to change something about yourself and others seem perfectly content to just continue on in their own little irritating idiosyncracies. (sp?) Know what I mean?

By Tsa on Saturday, December 2, 2006 - 11:37 pm:

This was totally me a year ago. I just thought well, this is life. Then a friend told me to read the book PROPER CARE AND FEEDING OF HUSBANDS by Dr. Laura Schlessinger (sp?). It totally changed me and my relationship with my husband and therefore, my family. It is brutally honest and it does tell you that in order for the relationship to change it starts with you. I love it and thank God for that book every week. It really has changed me and my husband. He now treats me like a Queen and I don't even have to ask or remind him. He actually wants to do it. I also treat him like the King and he eats it up. Good luck!! The book should be in the library but it is defineately worth the purchase.

By Conni on Sunday, December 3, 2006 - 07:14 am:

No advice, just big (((HUGS))) !!!

By Debbie on Sunday, December 3, 2006 - 08:47 am:

Dh and I have been married 10 yrs, and we have definitley had ups and downs, and times where we have felt like roommates. I think it is part of being married. However, I never got used to it, and I always made steps to get things back on track. Usually, all I have to do is start being more affectionate and loving, and dh will fall into place with me. This summer with all our moving around, life got really hectic, dh and I got "disconnected" We are just now getting things back on track. I love Dr. Phil's books. His Relationship Rescue really helped me the first time this happened with dh. I like it because it has exercises, and steps to take. I promise if you read it and do what it says, your dh will start changing also, even if he doesn't read the book.