Okay I will try and make this short. I have a co worker who was recently let go. She had knee surgery and then has been sick with some other ailments most of this year. She basically used up her sick time and vacation time and the hr department of our company let her go. Well her and I had worked together off and on for the last 7 years. The nature of our job for three of those years allowed us to become close friends. Work friends, but we did share a lot of personal moments. My son and her grandson were in the same kdg class and became good friend, her daughter has babysat for me. Her kids have spent the night and mine with them. Thats the background info. The situation is that this last weekend I had spoken to her daughter on Wed. and her kids were going to spend the night with my kids on Sun. I was going to call before I came and made sure they were home from church. I did that, in fact I left 2 messages and never heard anything. I left another message that evening saying I hoped everything was okay. I left a message yesterday and even mentioned wondering if she was still interested in babysitting. They are a couple of early dissmal days and I needed someone. I have still heard nothing. I extremely hurt. Not to mention my son is heartbroken. He really thought of this boy as like a best friend. I really just do not understand. I had nothing to do with her being let go. I do believe the company did the right thing they really had no choice. She knows how they treat people on the job. We have all been there including myself. I cried on her shoulder about it more then once. She knows that I am not a boss and I have no say. In fact my boss really would not talk about it in front of me because she knew that me and this women were friends. My co worker was laughing at me yesterday because he said I guess you are seeing what we all already knew about her. I bet you feel stupid for sticking up for her. Which I often did at my own exspense. I do feel stupid and hurt. More hurt for my child that thought that his friend was coming and that it looks like he has lost his friendship. What would you do. Would you try and call the coworker? I guess it has only been a few days and it could just be a misunderstanding but I can't believe that no one would have called me. I am at a lost. I prefer to go anymous just in case someone would stumble upon my post. Thanks

By Claire on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 08:48 am:

I would leave a message for her one more time & then let it go. I am sorry you are feeling let down.

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 11:13 am:

I'm sorry, too. Your son must be so sad. I think I would try to contact her one more time.

By Marg on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 12:15 pm:

It is not you.

After working for a company for 16 years and watching more than 15 people come and go (whether let go or fired). No one stays in touch because of the bad work environment. I tried with several and only stay in touch with 1. Seeing each other brings back too many bad memories. It's no one's fault but it has happened.

Once again it is not you, when this happened to me, I left a very good friend behind who had indeed took my place. I did not blame her but the memories were just too bad too deal with.

I believe she has issues on everything that has happened. I would send her a card telling her how much you miss her in every aspect of your life.

By Ginny~moderator on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 12:24 pm:

If it were me, I'd wait a week or two and send her a note, telling her you'd like to continue to be friends, if that is at all possible, and that your son misses her son. And ask her to give you a call when she is ready. And, of course, tell her how sorry you are.

I don't know what else you can do beyond that.

By Karen~admin on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 03:56 pm:

Ditto Claire and/or Ginny - and if she avoids you after that, then let it go.

By Hol on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 11:05 pm:

She is probably in a sort of "mourning" over being let go, even tho she had to see it coming. Maybe you are a reminder of the job right now. Given enough time to "recover", she may give you a call.

Or...she may have just considered you "work friends", and when her relationship with the company was over, she wanted to sever all ties.

I don't think I'd call her again. She already knows you called. I might agree with sending her a card, but I wouldn't expect too much. I think it's over.

By Crystal915 on Wednesday, September 6, 2006 - 11:50 pm:

You've gotten good advice already, so I'm just going to offer ((((hugs)))). I'm sorry you and your son are going through this, I hope she comes around!