What would you have done, venting here
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What would you have done, venting here
Sunday dh,Me and the kids were having a nice evening we just got home from playing baseball
with the kids and we get into the house and not even 5 minutes went by we here a knock on the door dh opened and we were quite startled to see a police officer standing there. he asked Dh if we were related to he said my Nephews name and dh told him that we were his aunt and uncle. that his mom was my sister. He then askes do you know were we can find him. Dh tells him that he lives in another town. The officer than reads off my sisters address and I had told him yes that was it. The officer said if I see him or my sister to please tell him that he is to turn himself in. I had no clue what was going on. I do know that he is in trouble all the time. I call my sister to tell her what had happened. She then gets mad at me telling its none of my buisness. I tell her it is when they come to my door. Well I guess when she was talking to my my Nephew calls and he is in jail that they had just arrested him. in the town next to them. Which I thought was pretty fast for what we had told him. well she bails him out 350.00 and to find out that he had 4 more warrents out for him. The one being here for meth and parafanilla (sp?) she then tells my Mom that its not him that its someone else. My sister tells us Saturday before this all happens that they don't know what to do with him he is on drugs real bad. I told her not to bail him out anymore let him sit in jail for awhile maybe that well help. But she is now mad at me. I wasn't going to lie to the police officer. I still can't figure out how they new we were related we don't have the same last names. its frustrating
Wow. Your post must have been written fast. I'm trying to understand what's going on.
I guess your nephew was arrested and they let him go even though there are warrants out there for him? Yikes.
It's always good to tell the truth. I wouldn't bail him out either. My stepmom did that with her son. Sounds like it's a little late to be a good parent now. Must be embarrassing for your sister. Let her know that you're there for her though. Sounds like the family needs to do an intervention.
What would I do? I would have told the officer where to find him. The only way this child will get help, is to not ignore or deny the problem. The fact that your sister wants to dismiss it, means he will not be held responsible (at least with his family). You did the right thing but you may need to distance yourself until your sister comes to terms with what is going on with her son.
Good luck!
(((hugs)))
I agree with Yvonne, you think you did the right thing.
I hope the he & your sister(for her denial) are able to get help.
I think you did the right thing. Covering up for him, won't help him one bit.
I also agree with Yvonne. You may need to distance yourself if you can. Your sis is in denial and isn't willing to step up to the plate and face the issue head on. Until she does, he will cycle in and out of jail until some judge gets sick of seeing him and throws him in for a good spell. Until then, there is nothing you can do, and you are better off focusing on your own family.
Best of luck and hugs to you.
You did the right thing to tell the truth, and you cannot force your sister/family to recognize the fact that your nephew needs to learn his lesson the hard way. (((((Shann))))
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