Have been invited to a birthday party by SIL. No chance in H--l we are going. Many of you can understand why At any rate, an RSVP has been requested. If we do not answer, we will have it held against us. Of course, not going will too. Oh well, can't win. We are NOT going.
How do I word the letter to decline?

By Christylee on Monday, July 3, 2006 - 06:09 pm:

I wouldn't give a reason just say that you're unable to attend, you don't have to give an explanation in my opinion.

By Ginny~moderator on Monday, July 3, 2006 - 06:42 pm:

Ditty Christy - you don't have to give a reason, even according to Miss Manners and Emily Post. You simply say you will not be able to attend. And do it in writing - by letter or card - so you don't get a telephone argument. I know your dh will support you, as he has in the past.

By Mrsheidi on Monday, July 3, 2006 - 07:18 pm:

Yikes...I would also add that she may call your husband at work (again) and he might need to think of what you guys will be doing that day...ahead of time. She's good a cornering him into caving in, from what I remember.
Oh, and I would wait a little bit before you respond so that she doesn't change the date just so you guys show up. I don't know if it's just family or what, but it seems like she's a piece of work. If she has enough invested in setting the date, she won't change it a week before the big day.
Who's birthday is it? Maybe you could send a bracelet if it's a boy...just kidding. I would send a thoughtful gift, maybe via a family member so you know it got to the child.

By Crystal915 on Monday, July 3, 2006 - 07:45 pm:

I would say you have a conflicting event, that you cannot get out of. From the history with your SIL, this at least makes it less "your fault". Good luck!!

By Mrsheidi on Monday, July 3, 2006 - 10:44 pm:

Could you have your DH write the letter too? I know she likes to blame you, right?