I'm getting very anxious even though I know I don't have anything to worry about. Little dd & I have a very close bond to each other. It's just that there is so much negativity going on in our agency right now between the foster parents and the caseworkers and supervisors. I have kept myself and my family out of it but they don't know that. Please say a prayer for me & little dd.

By Tripletmom on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 09:56 am:

I'm sure you're very anxious.I'm anxious for you.It will all work out.They will see the bond that you have between you and you're DD.((PRAYERS)) to you and you're family.You're the best person for her and I hope they just see that and let you move on in you're life as a family.((HUGS))

By Sandysmom on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 09:59 am:

Thx, Sherri!

By Luvn29 on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 10:23 am:

Trust me, in an agency like that, they know the ones causing any trouble, problems, or just negativity. And they know the ones who aren't.

Just go in there with your love shining for your daughter like you do everyday on this board, and you can't go wrong. That's something that you can't "put on" and it's something that you can't hide. That's what they are looking for. They'll see how comfortable your dd is with you, and you with your dd. That's what they are looking for. And they want to see that you are a mother to her. So if she starts crying, don't be afraid or nervous, just do what you would in any other situation. And if she starts acting up, do the same. They want to see the mother in you. And raising a child to behave and act properly is part of that, too. So if she does something you would normally tell her no, and not let her do, then don't change things there, or she will pick up on it, and it will all be downhill from there.

Like I said before, pretend it's just a bunch of nit-picky older grandmothers (no offense to anyone, not everyone is this way, I know!) that are watching your mothering skills in a waiting room of some type. We always want to show everyone we are the best mother when we are out in public. Just breathe, relax, and take the time to just enjoy being with your daughter.

But a tip...If you happen to get a new book, stuffed animal, or small toy of some type, take it completely out of the package beforehand so you don't have to deal with an impatient toddler there, AND so they don't know you are using a new toy. Nothing wrong with doing it, we all do it. Just have it completely unwrapped and in the diaper bag, so you can pull it out ready to play with there.

Many prayers and hugs to you.

By Sandysmom on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 10:36 am:

Thank you!!

By Crystal915 on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 12:21 pm:

Your family will be in my thoughts. Just try to stay calm, and keep a positive outlook. We're here for you!!!

By Bemerry84 on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 12:31 pm:

Ditto Luvn29!!! Just show your love. I sure can tell what a wonderful mother you are by what you post. You'll be fine.

By Sandysmom on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 05:29 pm:

Thanks everyone!!!

By Karen~moderator on Friday, June 2, 2006 - 07:28 pm:

Ditto Adena! Many positive thoughts heading your way.....

By Luvn29 on Monday, June 5, 2006 - 08:33 pm:

Well, how did it go today????

By Sandysmom on Monday, June 5, 2006 - 10:35 pm:

It went great!!! I was very pleased but also very glad when it was over. I didn't get home until 6:30 and then had to go directly to church for a study I'm taking. It has been a long day and I'm anxious to talk to the caseworker tomorrow to get some feedback. I'll update when I find out more.

Thanks to everyone for all your thoughts and prayers.

By Crystal915 on Tuesday, June 6, 2006 - 12:07 am:

I'm glad it went well, let us know how the meeting with the caseworker goes!!!

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, June 6, 2006 - 12:19 am:

I'm glad it went well and I'm anxious to hear what the caseworker says.

By Tripletmom on Tuesday, June 6, 2006 - 02:14 pm:

I'm really glad it went well for you Sandysmom(((HUGS)))Keep us posted

By Sandysmom on Tuesday, June 6, 2006 - 04:23 pm:

I talked to the caseworker a little while ago and she was pleased as to how everything turned out. She hasn't heard feedback from the supervisors but she said they usually keep their opinions to themselves, so, we play the waiting game. When I hear something, I'll let you all know. Thanks again for your prayers and support.

By Crystal915 on Tuesday, June 6, 2006 - 04:50 pm:

YAY!!! Glad to hear it!

By Luvn29 on Tuesday, June 6, 2006 - 05:10 pm:

That sounds promising. Thanks for letting us know and be sure to keep us updated!