knock on wood
You all know my story...it does not put me or my kids in a better financial place but I'm going to gloat for a few hours.
Bad Karma, I know. His unhappiness does not make me happy. At least his actions had reactions that were out of my control.
I've stuck to my guns, my life, my kids and have been feeling so much better the past few weeks.
Wanted to share

By Cat on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 02:30 pm:

Is it final???

By Tayjar on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 02:35 pm:

You go girl. Mama always said what comes around goes around.

Gloat away. Heck, make a pitcher of margaritas and drink them all while you gloat.

By Tayjar on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 02:35 pm:

You go girl. Mama always said what comes around goes around.

Gloat away. Heck, make a pitcher of margaritas and drink them all while you gloat.

By Reds9298 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 02:45 pm:

Ditto Tayjar!! {{HUGS}}

By Emily7 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 03:00 pm:

I am happy for you and proud of you for sticking to you guns!
I think those margarita's or a nice bottle of wine sound perfect!

By Tarable on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 03:01 pm:

Good for you!!! it is about time!

Ditto Tayjar!

By Mrsheidi on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 05:10 pm:

Annie, I'm so happy for you...you are so strong and a good mommy!

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 05:30 pm:

{{{HUGS}}}

By Dana on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 05:49 pm:

I recall all the issues that started your last year (or more?), but lost touch most of last year with my business. So what was happening most recently?

By Annie2 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:17 pm:

The bid D is far from final but "chickie" and dh have broken up. He is now living in the basement aka mother-in-law apt.

By Yjja123 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:23 pm:

moo haw haw haw
The putz got what he deserved LOL

(((((hugs)))))

By Tarable on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:24 pm:

LOL... that is TOO funny!!!!

By Cat on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:27 pm:

Aw, poor baby. NOT!

By Missbookworm on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:36 pm:

awwwwww poor baby!! LOL no sympathy from me ;)

I truly admire how strong you are being through this (((((((( hugs )))))))))

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:39 pm:

They broke up? Awww, poor baby. Now he's really in a bind, huh?

By Ginny~moderator on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:55 pm:

Oh my. Well, I saw that coming. Whose basement?

As others say above - "what goes around comes around".

By Emily7 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 07:57 pm:

LOL, wonder how long him and mommy will get along!

By Mom2three1968 on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 08:26 pm:

Woo hoo!!! Definately what goes around comes around, got what was coming to him, that's for sure.

By Vicki on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 09:01 pm:

My first thought was the same as Ginnys... whos basement? I also strongly believe in what goes around comes around!

By Dana on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 09:21 pm:

Well, I would be smiling too! Serves him well for walking out without a care in the world.

By Tonya on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 09:50 pm:

As strong as Annie has been I doubt it is her basement!!! KARMA what a B@@C @!!!!!

YOU GO GIRL!!

By Insaneusmcwife on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 10:04 pm:

When I read your first post I got really excited for you thinking that that the D was final but then I read your 2nd post and I'm sorry as evil as it is I had to laugh. Karma can be a wonderful thing. Maybe now he can get his priorities straight and focus on having a relationship with the kids. I have not been on a lot lately so I have missed a lot I'm sure but I do admire how strong you have been though all of this.

By Tarable on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 10:09 pm:

I was thinking that if it is his mom's basement he is probably not paying rent so maybe he can start sending more money your way.. doubt that would cross his mind but we can all hope!

By Tayjar on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 10:58 pm:

Mommy's basement? Oh man. Gotta love karma.

Well, on the bright side, he's not really going to be able to bring anyone else home for awhile, is he? Can you imagine the pick up line? "Sure, babe, we can go back to my place but you gotta be quiet, my mom's a light sleeper. And you can't stay. She doesn't let me have sleepovers on weeknights."

Make those margaritas and bein the gloating.

By Marcia on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 11:27 pm:

LOL Dora!!!
Great news, Annie!

By Wandilu on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 11:37 pm:

Oh, Annie, this is WONDERFUL news !!! I have had a rough day, but this has really perked me up !! So ,"Chickie" flew the coop, huh? I agree with the others...he got what he deserves ! How are your DK'S doing? I think I may have missed some of your threads,too, because my computer was off for a few weeks.Anyway, you should be very proud of how you handled yourself throughout this whole horrible mess ! You obviously are a real lady, and an outstanding mother !!

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 11:46 pm:

Hmmm, Karma..

Annie, please clarify, Is he living in an apartment in your basement, aka the mother in law suite?? Or is he living at the mother in laws?

Also how long has it been Annie, it was this time of year if my memory serves me right, am I mistaken?

By Bellajoe on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 08:16 am:

Where ever he is living, he is alone which is what he deserves!

I'm really happy for you Annie. Karma is a B*&%@

By Karen~admin on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 09:04 am:

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Annie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

You can sleep when you put your head on your pillow. *He* has a jillion things going through his unethical, selfish, mean-streaked, self-absorbed mind............clearly YOU are the better person. And I agree - Karma is a B**CH!! And I truly hate to wish evil on others, but IMO, he is just beginning to get a taste of what he deserves.

By Annie2 on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 10:55 am:

Thanks girls.

He is living in the chickie's basement...in the house that they lived in. She is on the lease;he is not. I guess the basement is a mil's apt with it's own entry. That's where my kids would stay when they visited.
She wants him out as soon as possible. Who knows...they may reconcile but at least I know there is trouble in "paradise".

We spoke on the phone a few times yesterday. He answered many questions for me. Some things were upsetting to me but I know I needed some explanations to help me find closure. We spoke about the kids, how I am dealing with all of them, all by myself, him not taking them, they not wanting to go, etc. We haven't really "talked" in such a long time, where we were both listening. That was a good thing.

It will be two years in Jan when he left.

I have no idea where he will go or anything. I do know he looked at a place...in the same area yesterday...of course not towards his kids. He will always think of himself first.

By Debbie on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 11:41 am:

I am a firm believer in what comes around goes around. It looks like he is getting his.

You are right, he will always think of himself first. And, if he gets in another relationship, he will do the exact same things....lying, cheating, etc.

At least you can hold your head up high, and know you did what was right! And, for your dks sake, I hope he takes this time to fix his relationship with them.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 12:14 pm:

Yes he will always think of himself first, but I am glad you are working towards finding peace with that. You have done a great job with dealing with him, from everything I have heard, and you should be proud of yourself.

By Emily7 on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 01:15 pm:

Well I totally read that post wrong, i thought he moved in with his mom. LOL
That is sad that the kids stayed in the MIL apartment when they stayed with him instead in the actual house with their dad.

By Colette on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 02:25 pm:

****WOOT****

What comes around goes around!

By Rayelle on Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 02:57 pm:

Evil laughing here Annie! My jaw dropped for a second since I thought it was about the divorce being final as well. Even though he should have before I bet he is really regretting his choices in life.