Small update on DD and being held back in 2nd grade....
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Small update on DD and being held back in 2nd grade....
For those who recall, my daughter, today in 4th grade, was sent back to 2nd grade one month after starting 3rd grade. I had been requesting she be held back since kindergarten, but test scores did not allow for it. I told the teacher on the first day of 3rd grade (2 yrs ago now), "if you see what I see, I am ready to hold her back. Please don't wait" And the teacher agreed!
Well, DD is doing GREAT GREAT GREAT!!!! She has gone from being in the lowest reading group to the highest level. Her FCAT score was in the highest level with a stanine of 98%. Her math is simply on level.
This year she is blossoming! She gave a speech for Student Council (but didn't win, oh well). She has friends that like her and is not picked on by the other classmates now. Her confidence level has soared in her ability to do the work and is no longer fearful when she doesn't catch on. She now knows that if she just keeps working at it, it WILL happen. Sometimes there is fussing and complaining, but for the most part she has faith that she will figure it out. She is now seeing herself alongside her peers. She does not feel like the "stupid one" and is seeing that other kids are having problems with math too. She is no longer feeling alone.
I am so proud of her! and SOOOO happy we held her back. The repeat of 2nd grade was awful on an emotional level (lots of bullying, feeling different, etc) but time has healed that. And best yet, she learned from that experience and really doesn't let a bully tell her anything. She just blows them off (well, at least she makes them think they've been blown off.) She has said that even other kids are following her lead on not listening to the child with bad comments and saying "so, I don't care what you think" or something along those lines. And has come to the aide of kids as well, putting herself in line to be bullied. The bullying stuff really isn't happening this year in 4th...that was last year.
So for any parent who is faced with the question on holding a child back. You will get a very very very strong DO IT from me. It changed my daughters life dramatically. That first year was very tough on both of us, but honestly it made her so much stronger.
I'm glad it worked out so well!
It sounds like you made the right decision. I'm glad to hear she is doing so well now.
That's AWESOME!! My cousin was held back into a "pre-first" after Kindy, which meant even though he is 10 months younger than I am, he was 2 years behind me in school. He did great after that extra year, and went on to get his college degree. I don't think holding a kid back is right in every situation, but I'm very happy for your family that it worked out so well for your DD!
Glad to hear she is doing so well. We held one of my girls back in first grade. She was doing the work, making good grades but was clearly struggling to hold on.
She is now in seventh grade and doing fantastic, also. The only draw back she has is with softball. Since she is a year older she has to move up a year ahead of friends. But she knows all of the coaches and other girls her age so she doesn't become too worked up about it...and has actually made new friendships.
Glad to hear you dd is thriving. Good mommy instincts!
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