Teacher that I don't care for...
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Teacher that I don't care for...
I found out Blake has the teacher we were hoping he would not get this year. Years ago when my 9th grader was in 2nd grade, he had this particular teacher. He shut down that year. He would come home crying at one point during the year he was in her class. She was awful! She would stomp her foot, point, yell, throw things across her desk, called a student stupid, etc...I nearly started balling when I found out we will have to go through another year of this.  I am not sure what do. I hate to send him to class on Monday if I think I am going to push to change him to a diff teacher. I could just send him to this class and tell him to suck it up, when he starts complaining. lol We all end up with a crazy teacher at some point or another in our lives. The majority of teachers are wonderful!! I even thought about putting him back in the private school we loved so much. I probably won't do that. However, it did cross my mind yesterday. ha ugh... I'll keep praying about it. I am sure there is a reason we were put in her class again. Maybe she has changed. (no, she hasnt, the other moms were still complaining about her last yr. lol)
If she makes fun of my sons speech problem, I will be waiting on her in the parking lot and deck her. lol Brad said she made fun of a kid in his class that had a facial 'tick'...she would mock him. I may have to quit my job and volunteer in my babies class everyday and protect him. lol
If it were me, I would go in on Monday and have him changed to another teacher. I would not let him even step foot in the class.
We've been through this before, too. Last year R got the teacher he did not want. I knew nothing about her but he insisted she was mean, etc. Was very upset about the first day...
With everything that was going on last year, I asked to have him switched to a male teacher. Could you try that tactic...any male teachers in your son's grade level?
You could also tell the principal that this year needs to be a smooth one for your family. If she thinks this is the best fit for your son. Principals know their teachers and she might be able to match him with someone else.
Also some kids do well with teachers that another child might not and vice versa.
It's a tough call; hopefully you'll get some other suggestions 
Ditto. Did you just find out teacher assignments? Call the school on Monday am and request a meeting with the principal. Explain that your son and this teacher were not a good mix and that you had a frustrating year with her. You do not want to repeat the experience and you are requesting a class change. Be kind, but firm and don't let them convince you to try her out. You may have to play the "I would hate to have to make a formal complaint about this teacher and her less than professional methods". If you are enough of a PITB you will get your way.
Ame
I'd do the same as everyone else above, if it was in my power to do so I would do what I could to change it and you as the parent have the power to change it. I wouldn't subject him to that, especially with your other son's past history with this teacher. How old is she? I had a fifth grade teacher that was between 65-70 when I had her and she was past ready to retire. I was a bad math student and back then there wasn't really any extra help and she was very mean in her comments and just an all around bitter teacher. Now as a parent if there is anything that I can do to spare my kids within reason I do it. Good Luck Conni....
I would try and have him switched. I would be honest and tell them that one of your other dks had this teacher, so you know her teaching style, and you feel it is not a good fit for your ds.
My ds had a teacher in 1st grade that we had A LOT of issues with. A new school was built last year, and my kids started going there. This teacher moved too, and was now teaching 3rd grade. I filled out a request for ds not to get her again. I told them ds already had her, and did not have a good experience with her.
Yesterday we found out he does not have her. He has a great teacher, in fact, the one we really wanted.
I would not subject my dks to a teacher like you described. I would not feel comfortable sending them to school each day, knowing they may be dealing with that!
While everyone has to deal with a not very nice teacher at some point, 2nd grade is much too young. I agree, do everything within your power to get a change. Point out that your older son told you of this teacher mocking children with disabilities and that your son has a speech problem, and that it would be totally wrong to put your son with this teacher.
I agree with everyone else, that he should have a different teacher. Emily had a teacher in 5th grade, that she didn't care for, but it was her general teaching style. She really didn't pick on Emily. I didn't change it, but now, 6 years later, she still complains about that teacher sometimes!
I think there's a difference between a teacher who may be strict and a teacher who really shouldn't be teaching.
There are 4 kinds of teachers out there:
1. The lazy (The kind that like to show videos every day.)
2. The young and learning
3. The seasoned and learning
4. The ones who think they're god.
I think the ones who think they're god and can get away with treating kids like that are absolutely horrific. They're the worst ones out there. Ironically enough, they stay in the profession even though they probably don't enjoy it much. Why? Unknown, other than they enjoy the "power" of being a teacher. A power that is bestowed upon themselves by themselves and a paycheck.
I'd go in and ask for a different teacher, in writing and in person. Note that, if refused, you are going to make a request with the school board. Most principals know they have a "problem teacher" but can't do anything legally to get rid of them. Then, on top of it, they have to hide this "problem child" from the school board. One mention that you'll take that next step and they'll agree with you and you'll be on your merry way...
Sorry, this always strikes a major chord with me!
I am also going to say switch. We had a bad teacher fit in 3rd grade, my son still repeats comments made by her. It really damaged my son.
Also if you know this about the teacher, you won't be the only one requesting a switch, most people will wait. It will be harder to get a move if you are person 5 or so on the list.
I would simply make an appointment with the principal and explain that, your other son had this teacher. You and her don't see eye to eye on teaching and it is in everyone's best interest to have your son moved. If she hems and haws, just simply restate, my child needs to be moved, what do I need to do to make that happen. Don't take no for an answer, don't take well give it a semester. Say no, I have done a full year and I refuse to have another.
Were you able to switch?
Definitely another vote for switch!
NO child should ever be made fun of/humiliated/embarrassed/called names by a teacher in front of a class full of other kids. It is cruel and abusive. And IMO, any teacher who can't control his/her temper and throws fits in a classroom doesn't need to be teaching.
I know that teachers deal with a lot of kids, a lot of stress, a lot of responsibility, blah blah blah. But no other place of employment would tolerate that behavior so why should a school?? Just because you are in a position of power is no excuse to mistreat people.
So what did the school have to say?
I'm sorry. I have been very busy this week! On top of everything my washing machine quit. Fun!!! I am going to post anon, too, because my inlaws are following me around on the internet.
In my original post I said I was going to think about it/pray about it for the weekend. I did. I talked with a friend over the weekend whose dd was in her class last yr. She said they had no problems. She reminded me that it's been 7 years since my middle ds had her. She felt like the teacher had chilled out or something? Also reminded me that we have a new principal and assis. prin. now and they don't tolerate anything. She told me the Mom that complained about her last yr, had a ds that was having problems, in general... (won't go into detail. lol) Anyway, I decided to give it a try. She seems thrilled to have baby brother. Ds has come home happy everyday. We had a very minor misunderstanding one day about something and she called me 3x until she reached me that evening making sure everything was ok. Then emailed me about something else. So, her communication has improved 100%?? (maybe because she already knows us?) Ds has 5 kids in his class, that were also in his class last year-so he is happy about that. There is also a family friend in his class. He has already spoken with a speech therapist this week??? I will have to find out on Monday about that. If they are actually going to get him some help, that would be GREAT! I have asked about it every year since he was in Pre-K and have been told every yr that either A) it isn't severe enough to warrant speech therapy or B) he'll simply outgrow it... he hasn't, he is 8 now. I would hate for him to be 18 and say to his girlfriend "I weally love you Wachael!" ;)
My middle ds and youngest ds are different. I decided to keep that in mind too. Middle ds was more senstive at that age.
I plan to keep a very close eye on this, obviously.
Thanks for checking on us!!!
I hope it works out for you. It does sound like it's better now.
Sounds good...glad she has changed! Regarding the speech therapy, he should be eligible... I think they are supposed to outgrow them by 7 yrs of age, but you might want to try to contact Pam??
Good luck!!!!
I am glad it is going well. It sounds like she has gotten her act together.
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