Today is my wedding anniversary date. If (e)dh didn't mess up our family life it would be 18 years today.
I know you girls are probably sick of me talking about myself and this stupid divorce...uuughhghghgh!

By Colette on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 12:56 pm:

((Annie))

By Debbie on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 01:18 pm:

{{{Annie}}} We are not sick of hearing about it, that is what we're here for!!!

By Mom2three1968 on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 02:05 pm:

No not sick one little bit, I hope that soon you will get this all taken care of so you can go on with your life! (((Hugs for you)))

By Angellew on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 02:14 pm:

{{{Annie}}} Today must be hard. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

And you just keep on talking and venting!

By Rayelle on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 02:28 pm:

(((ANNIE)))) I'm sure that is a tough one. Vent away!

By Dawnk777 on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 02:46 pm:

{{{HUGS}}}

By Trina~moderator on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 02:50 pm:

(((HUGS)))

By Tarable on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 02:53 pm:

By Reds9298 on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 09:00 pm:

We are NOT sick of it! I think you've been so strong through all of this and I feel so terrible that it all happened to you. I'm sure this is a difficult day for you. Really big {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

By Cat on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 10:21 pm:

{{{{{Annie}}}}} Totally understandable. And we're always here to listen! We love ya, Girl.

By Annie2 on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 11:06 pm:

Thanks girls...I cried all day. Horrible conversation with dh on the phone, some kids not wanting to go to his house today, ds sent him a text on sat and his gf had the nerve to text me today saying that my ds needed to apologize! K and her boyfriend are breaking up; so I am dealing with her, M didn't want to go to her dad's and she felt guilty but wanted to go shopping with her friends.
All I can say is that tomorrow will be a better day...only two of my "kittens" are gone for a few days

By Wandilu on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 11:54 pm:

Bless your heart !!!! You deserve so much better than this !!!!! And the gf needs to know that its none of her business what is said between your son and his dad!! She's help do ENOUGH damage to your family, and now she wants to run interference between him, you and the kids !!!!!

By Conni on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - 07:18 am:

He is really going to look back and regret this. I bet he already does. My ex moved in with a girl that thought she wouod take over the parenting of our TEENS. It backfired BIG TIME with her. She had not earned the right. And the ex kept leaving her with them plus her small kids. And he set her up for failure over and over...they broke up last spring and she moved out.

HUGS!!!! I am SO SORRY!!! You know I am here for ya!

By Angellew on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - 10:31 am:

OMG Annie... I am sooo angry reading that SHE sent you a text telling you what your son should do!!! STEAM is coming out of my ears!!

You are a better woman than I am, because my Italian blood would have boiled over and I would have had some choice things to say about that text message... in TWO languages!!!

By Colette on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - 11:11 am:

I can't believe she sent you a text. You must have wanted to wring her neck.

I am sorry you are still going through so much. I hope today is a better day for you.

By Emily7 on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - 11:29 am:

DH's girlfriend needs to learn that you do not have to deal with her and not to even contact you. What a "B"!
I hope that you have better day, thoughts going out for you!

By Dandjmom on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - 02:11 pm:

I agree she had no right, it's non of her business. But between you, ex and you ds. You two created him, are his parents and will do the parenting. Now since your kids spend time where this heffer( can I say that) lives. I wouldn't tell what I think you should. But I would let her know that when it comes to parenting your
kid(s) you have it under controlled and no not and will not need her help and or interference. You would appreciate that if she has a suggestion or little idea on what you should do as a parent that she keeps it to herself, that your not interested and that there is no need for her to contact you regarding your kids again unless it is an emergency.

By Tarable on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - 03:01 pm:

I have a different thought on the whole gf texting you (JMHO).. 1) you should not have to have any contact with her at all EVER, I guess that maybe in an emergency but I would hope that my kids aunt or mom would call me not his gf and my feelings might be different if it were his wife but probably not. 2)not only is it not her business but really what your ds says to his dad isn't even your concern either.. that it between ds and his dad you can't and shouldn't try to buffer that at all. I am really easy going with my kids and my ex and their visitation... But my comment to everyone is that is fine with me.. you have to clear it with the other person.. if it is my ex saying he can't take the girls for whatever reason then he needs to call and tell them not me.. (it is nice that he lets me know too) and when it is my girls wanting not to go since I cannot interfere legally in that process (have been told I have to let them go unless we go back to court over it and we won't if nothing happens) I tell them if they don't want to go for whatever reason they need to call and talk to their dad about it and let me know the outcome.

I do not interfere with my girls and their dad having fights that is not my problem. I will give the girls advice on how to talk to him but they don't have to follow my advice. I can't interfere and it is not my place to, especially if one of them says something that upsets or was wrong to my ex.. he needs to talk to them about it or punish them if that is what is needed. Not me.. the only thing I do is if he punishes them and tells me about it I stick to the punishment (like if he says no tv or computer for a week it goes in my house too.. but he does that for me too)

Good luck with this but I would block her number from your cell phone (it is a wonderful feature) if it is an emergency she can use a landline or your ex's or one of your kids' phone. I would also tell your ex (maybe email him) that she did contact you and you don't want it to happen again.