I feel like God is telling me, "All good things come to those who wait". We've been trying for a year now (really, 2 years if you count the year he was deployed when we were trying the first time and the army yanked those plans)... I waited over a year for Connor, adding a miscarriage, and now it marks our 2 yr waiting period for a second one.
I have a good friend who announced 4 weeks ago that they were "trying" for a 3rd baby and then announced 2 weeks ago that they are pregnant...seriously?? Seriously?? This is only a vent, but it made me think about what is "worth the wait"...and it soooo is. It's hard to remain positive, but it's worth it.

By Mrs_B on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 01:44 am:

Awww.... it took us 16 consecutive months to get pregnant with Nathan. It took 2 weeks with Kaitlyn! I know the frustration you are feeling. And I know you've probably heard this before (and it held true for me) but if you get too caught up in trying, it could be harder for your body to actually conceive. Once I felt like I was at that stage of "giving up", I was pregnant. I said "What the heck" and went out on our 4 year anniversary and got drunk. Shortly after that I found out I was pregnant. LOL

Good luck. BTDT.

By Jackie on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 06:42 am:

Yes it is worth the wait.I know it is hard to hear that when the thing you want the most is happening for other people.

As most of you know, before I had "Faith" I had 4 miscarriages in a row. People around me were having babies, getting pregnant, having fullterm pregnancies that resulted in healthy babies..YET... I was having miscarriages one right after another. Many people told me to give up(Including my own parents). I was in a dark place, and really didn't see any hope, but something inside of me said "keep trying"...
On Aug 13, 2004, Faith was born healthy and happy.

My point.. Never give up.. and always have a little "Faith", I did

By Marcia on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 07:16 am:

It is SO worth the wait!!! We went through many years of fertility treatments before adopting our first daughter. I was so completely happy and not thinking about another quite yet, when I was shocked with the news I was pregnant. I've been blessed to parent 7 children, but it was just that one time that I was pregnant. Each child came to us the way she/he was meant to, and they were all more than worth the wait!

It will happen...

By Kaye on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 08:18 am:

What I can say is, after having more than one child I can't imagine my life without that gift. So if I had a glimpse of what I had, then had to wait, I would be willing to do so, because it is so worth it.

However, it isn't good for you, for connor or for scott to be so stressed out about this. Maybe it is time to take a break from trying. I am big believer that things work out according to God's purpose. It may not be the gap you wanted, but there may be a reason.

I was told I could not have children. I got pg way too easily, twice the first month, once while on bc and using condoms..LOL. However after the little guy was about 2, we really wanted one more. That never happened. I still mourn that a little. But I also know my hands are very full, and my middle kid needs the attention that I wouldn't really have for him (he is the easy kid). We tried for 3 years. When we moved, my hubby had a vasectomy. We just decided that we needed to be done. It was sad, but I also knew the reasons we were making that choice were right.

But as long as you are all healthy and happy, don't stress about it. A baby at any time would be great. So if it is 5 or 7 years down the line it would be fun.

My aunt has kids who are 38,31 and 22. She she has enjoyed number 3 so much more than the others. Says it is fun to see those mistakes a little and be able to correct them!

By Imamommyx4 on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 10:23 pm:

When I read the title to the post, I was thinking "plasma tv", a new car or, a new house, remodeling the house. Something you have some control over and have to save for.

My heart goes out to you in your wait. It's a wait that you don't have any control over whether it happens or not. But I'll send baby vibes your way and a prayer or two.

By Imamommyx4 on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 10:27 pm:

When I read the title to the post, I was thinking "plasma tv", a new car or, a new house, remodeling the house. Something you have some control over and have to save for.

My heart goes out to you in your wait. It's a wait that you don't have any control over whether it happens or not. But I'll send baby vibes your way and a prayer or two.

By Reds9298 on Friday, August 8, 2008 - 11:52 pm:

I'm sorry that it's taking so long, and you've been given good advice. Try to go on with life and 'forget' about it, helping you to relax. I know you really can't, but just focusing on other things might help. I know it will happen for you when it's the best time, and in the meantime, I'll be sending baby vibes your way!

By Amecmom on Saturday, August 9, 2008 - 12:02 am:

Well ... my mom had my sister the year after she and my dad were married. Then, 10 years went by and she was sure there would be no more babies. In fact, she thought she was in early menopause, but was in fact expecting me!
If I had to answer the question was it worth the wait - I would have to say a resounding yes!!! Because of "me" she has two beautiful grandchildren ( my sister opted not to have children) and I am greatful that she didn't just give up and go on BC or have her tubes tied once she hit 40.
If it's too long though, you might want to consult with a doc. There could be some very simple, very treatable, medical reason why you have not conceived yet.
Oh good luck, and lots of baby vibes!!
Ame

By Imamommyx4 on Saturday, August 9, 2008 - 08:39 pm:

That made me think about a friend of mine. She had a son...barely. Meaning it was a very rough pregnancy, docs told her to have an abortion due to probable defects, they almost lost her and the baby a couple of times during the pregnancy and doctors told her that she would not ever be able to have another baby due to scar tissue, etc. But he was healthy and great. Fast forward 16 years and guess what? Now they have a beautiful little girl and she's healthy and great, too. Very much a blessing to her parents as the son got ready to leave for college. Maybe you want a baby now. maybe you'll need the baby later.

Easier said than done, but stop taking BCP or any other birth control and have FUN! Make fun dates for after your other young un has gone to bed, get a babysitter if possible and get a hotel room. Laugh as much as you can. It'll happen when it's time.

By Mrsheidi on Sunday, August 10, 2008 - 03:24 pm:

Thanks so much, gals! I think I have a hard time not being envious...and, on top of it, I've been putting off going on a diet all this year just so I could get preggers. I've felt fat all year! Ugh. I'm supposed to get A.F. any day now and it's such a waiting game.
And, to be truthful, we didn't put any pressure on ourselves at all until this past month. I'm also going to see a family specialist this Thursday just to see what's going on. It's with a new insurance (Kaiser) so I hope I'll like this new group of doctors.
Thanks for the encouragement too...I hate to whine but I feel like it's been 2 years of "can't have a baby" because of his army training/deployment and then another year of trying to have one and nothing is happening. I'm 33 now and I saw an add the other day asking for eggs from women 21-32 yrs of age...made me feel like my eggs are "over the hill"!! Not even good enough for someone else!!

By Conni on Sunday, August 10, 2008 - 08:46 pm:

LOL bout the eggs being over the hill!!! You are silly. {{{HUGS}}} I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Honestly, if you look back on the past couple of years...you have had your hands full with your Mother, Connor, preparing old house to sell, house hunting for new home in another state, moving, etc... So this next year would be the more optimum year to get preggers, no??? ;) AND you were able to do that awesome bike ride in the Rockies!!!

Here you are posting about not being preggers and before you know it, you'll be posting about the birth of your new baby!! I hope the new doc's are great.

By Rayanne on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 04:19 pm:

I have already read your other ost, but I know exactly how you were feeling sweetie! We waited 3 years with 2 miscarriages! It is definately worth the wait!!

By Imamommyx4 on Monday, August 11, 2008 - 06:42 pm:

My eggs were 38, when I got pregnant with dd.
And my goodness. There is a 41 yo mom of a 2 year old in the Olympics.

But I saw the other post and congrats to you and your growing family. I know you are so happy.