I posted a few weeks ago that my youngest DD has decided t move to Fl. It is almost here ! She plans to leave July 5th. Her DH has been there for about 2 weeks now.He has had some really good job offers, but nothing has materialised yet.As a mother, I truely want them to be happy.But, again as a mother, I am so sad that I can hardly function !! I am crying as I write this. I can't IMAGINE not being able to see her when I want to, or taking my dgk's places.Her 5 yr old DD, Hannah Rose,asked me if me and papa could move to Florida with them. I told her no because Papa had his work here. She said" Well, mommy works in a hospital here...but she's going to find another hospital to work at in Florida. Can't Papa find work in Florida, too...please" We are so close to these kids.I'm being very supportive to her and the kids when I am around them, or talking to them. I talk about all the fun things that they will see, things they will do. But, I feel like I am dying inside !! So does my DH. Crasy as this might sound, I feel torn between my DK's in Fl and my son and his family still here in Tn. It's like, I should be with them in Fl (they want us to come ther) and I should be here with him in Tn. And I feel like wichever one I am with...I am hurting or being disloyal to the other one !! I know that sounds crazy, and I am acting irrational or just plain stupid !! My son has made the remark ( many times, I just found out) that when my ddil's father passes away, that they will probably move out of state.To start with, that really hurt DH and me...meaning it would be no problem to leave us, only him.And we are very close to our DS. But, then secondly, what do you DO when ALL of your dk's are gone? My WHOLE life, since I was 17 ,has been wrapped around my DK's and then my DGK's. I wasn't always the perfect mother, but I always WAS their mother.Don't get me wrong, I'm not the type of mother that keeps her nose in her family's business...bossing them around...etc.Actually, I say too little,and probably do too much. At 54 yrs old, what will I do without my DD and DGK's. Two years ago, my oldest DD and family moved there...and now this! I am soooooooo rambling on, and if anyone has made it this far, THANK YOU !! I know that I can visit them and enjoy the truely beautiful state of Florida...but that doesn't even come close to wakeing up to my precious little red head saying" Mornin' Nanny" and giving me a big smile and a kiss !!!!! Are there any other moms on here that have had all or most of their kids move away?

By Dawnk777 on Friday, June 27, 2008 - 12:01 am:

{{{HUGS}}} Other than a few months, when I first got out of college, I've never lived in the same town as my parents! For nearly 10 years, I was 4 hours away, then we moved and were only 1-1/4 hours away. Now, we are 2-1/2 hours away, because they moved. We all still live in WI, though.

My dad is busy with helping people out with accounting/financial stuff. My mom knits like crazy. They are in a touristy area, so there is plenty to do. They take classes together, go on elderhostels together. Sometimes it's hard to find them home! My dad also makes beer. They are very busy with their hobbies.

By Kaye on Friday, June 27, 2008 - 08:58 am:

I am sure I have had said this before, but it bears repeating. Your daughter has so much to gain by moving away from you. My hubby and I lived 3 hours from his family, we visited often, my parents vistited us often. We moved to cinci. Makes it a 16 hour car trip. My family still came to see us 3 times a year (plus our 2 visits), his family came twice in 5 years. So we really learned to rely on each other. It was hard on us too, we did miss them. But our relationship really matured. I think it has made us stronger parents and a more stable couple. We ultimately made the decision to move back in state, because we wanted to be closer. But we really had some time to figure out what was important, how do we pass that on to our kids, etc. I know it was hard on our parents, but you can still visit, your relationship will change, but not all change is bad.

By Wandilu on Friday, June 27, 2008 - 08:19 pm:

Kaye, I totally get what you are saying.I understand the benefits for them moving away.And there is a big part of me that is excited about all the new things they are going to see, do and experience.But, allow me to be a bit selfish,maybe, and say that that is not what this thread is about. I just needed to have someone say that they understand that I am hurting , and maybe send me a hug .And, I agree that there is a lot to benefit from living away from family, but there is a lot to benefit for a child growing up around grandparents and cousins, etc., too.