I posted several weeks ago about my best friend and her choice to get back with her boy friend. Well, I struggled with the choice to drop her or what. We had a little medical crisis at our house (my dd had lost vision, had a stumbling spell, crazy). Anyway my friend is a nurse, so I called her the next day. We talked about my dd, we were awaiting some test results (they found nothing). I decided I would just pray about the wise choice. Well, I haven't heard from her. Not a follow up on my dd, nothing about the tenative plans we had made for the next week, when my husband was out of town. I spent last week cleaning out the house, and came across a necklace of hers. It came from the ex, she was trying to decide to return it to him or pawn it..LOL. I was keeping it until she decided. Well since I hadn't heard, I called yesterday, she was at work, I talked with her son 16. He is devastated at her choice, thinking about living with dad. Anyway, he was going to be over here on my side of town and I met up with him and gave him the necklace. Just said to tell his mom I found this and didn't know what she wanted to do with it. Anyway, so I went with the theory that she dropped me (we talk almost daily, it has now been 3 weeks to the day). Well, she called while ago. I am still struggling with what to do. I didn't get the phone, i was in the shower. AAhhh...just venting. I keep trying to remind myself that kindess is always the wise choice.

By Dandjmom on Tuesday, June 24, 2008 - 02:11 pm:

I can't read her mind, personally speaking if I was her and you where you. I would say that maybe the reason she hasn't been calling daily or as much as she used too is because she knows how you feel about the sititution and if her son isn't happy with her choice, I'm sure she knows that your not happy about it either. And again if it where be I would feel so guilty in taking him back (as if I was choosing him over my best friend) that I would distance myself from you.

I know that friend come and friends but I can understand the hurt, and disappointment over any friendship ending especially under these circumstances.

I hope this turns out to be worth it for her, but more so I hope that she is safe and happy.

And I hope that you are happy also.

By Kaye on Tuesday, June 24, 2008 - 02:54 pm:

I think you are exactly right. I think he probably has required her to drop me actually. Only because he knows that I don't support this. It is sad to lose a friend, I am working on dealing with this. We have been best friends for 15 years. I have had 3 children, buried two mothers, she has divorced, gone back to school to be a nurse and survived her mother's cancer. It seems so stupid that a boy, who isn't very good to her can throw all that away. The sad part is, she knows he is mr good times, we actually have refered to him as "mr for better, richer and health", he doesn't do bad times at all. When we found out about her mom's cancer, he gave her a 3 month break to deal with it (oh and found a woman on the side). Crazy, crazy choice.