This is going to be dh's first Father's day after the death of his parents. His first mother's day was rough for all of us, but we were really caught up with taking care of his dad, and then this past mother's day was the day I came home ffrom the hospital so the focus wasn't really on mother's day. I think he just wants to forget about the whole day, but I'd like to acknowledge his feelings without overstepping. I know the day is going to totally suck for him, we became so close to his dad the last year of his life, and I just want to make it be a little better. any ideas? going anon to protect dh's privacy but you probably know who I am.

By Texannie on Wednesday, June 11, 2008 - 03:50 pm:

i am so sorry. those firsts all suck.

By Karen~admin on Wednesday, June 11, 2008 - 04:17 pm:

I'm sorry, I know how hard all those *first-year-holidays-without* are - we lost our three surviving parents in 2005, so 2006 was a really hard year for us.

I don't think I have any really good advice for you, but maybe something like this:

Prepare a meal or part of a meal that includes one of his dad's favorite dishes;

Say a prayer or read a poem or just say what's in your heart and release some balloons;

Remind him of the good qualities his dad had, and how much you appreciate the qualities you see in him;

I don't know, probably most of you think those are really corny ideas, it's hard to know what to say when you don't know the person.......

Sorry I can't be of more help, but I DO understand!


{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGSS}}}}}}}}}}}

By Pamt on Wednesday, June 11, 2008 - 09:24 pm:

No advice, but prayers and hugs.