My dd's birthday is in 2 weeks. This is the first year she wants a party with friends invited from school. She has formed a bond with 2 girls in particular, one she has been friends with since kindergarten. She went to both of their roller skating parties this year and had a great time. We told her she could have a roller skating party as well. It turns out neither girl is able to come due to vacation and a family reunion. I feel so bad for her. I told her there was enough time we could try to change the day if she wanted but she doesn't want to. It would be a hassle to send out new invites and I don't know that the skate rink isn't booked by now. I hope other friends of hers are able to come. I hope she is able to get past this and have a really fun day anyway. My grandmother bought all the things for the Littlest Pet Shop themed party. She is just crying and crying and there isn't anything I can do. I guess this is the beginning of the drama that comes from girls.

By Luvn29 on Friday, May 30, 2008 - 06:17 pm:

Awwww...poor thing. Yes, this is the beginning of girly drama!

Both of my kids have birthdays in July, so they have gotten used to the fact that most friends don't make it to birthday parties for them. During the summer, it is so hard to get anyone together due to vacations and just for the fact that it is summertime and the kids aren't together.

I'm sure that the pain will ease, and the day of the party, she'll have such a great time with the other kids, she'll be fine. Maybe you can get the the girls together for a sleepover or a day at the park or something since they can't come to the party...

By Tunnia on Friday, May 30, 2008 - 07:36 pm:

Poor thing! It's hard at that age because birthdays are just so important! We go through the same problem in our house every time one of my dks has a birthday party. Both their birthdays fall during Spring Break week every year so most of their closest friends are out of town. I can honestly tell you though that once the party gets here she will have a great time and everything will be ok. I think the idea of having a special sleepover or day at the park when the two girls are back in town is great!

By Tayjar on Friday, May 30, 2008 - 09:32 pm:

Poor thing. I've BTDT. This happens to my kids all the time. With summer birthdays and all of the travel teams the kids are on, it's really hard to coordinate dates. If their best friends can't make the party, I always just invite them over for a mini-party. We have them sleepover and then go do something fun.

By Jewlz on Friday, May 30, 2008 - 10:28 pm:

we have done the mini party too ... not as formal as the real bday party but a get together that maybe she can help plan and keep simple ...tea party or small back yard barbecue. is the family haveing a party ? can they come to that one ? im sorry she is so sad. i hope it works out for her

By Paulas on Sunday, June 1, 2008 - 09:12 am:

I know how she feels. DD always wants to plan a party in June before school is over but I'm a teacher and this is the worse time for me...report cards, year end, etc. I always think, next year I'll be able to do it but it never happens.

I like the idea of inviting them to a smaller celebration too or maybe even a little sleepover like Tanjay suggested.

By Rayelle on Sunday, June 1, 2008 - 08:07 pm:

We have had 2 girls say they are coming so she is getting excited now. I called the best friends mom and left a message asking about getting the girls together and to see if she really couldn't make it to the party. She told her she couldn't come before the invites were sent. I just wanted to see if it was a misunderstanding on the part of my dd or if she really couldn't come. I told her maybe they could go roller skating one day together and she liked that idea.

By Rayanne on Sunday, June 1, 2008 - 08:26 pm:

Poor thing. That must be hard on her. I like the idea of having a sleepover with the 2 girls

By Dramamamma on Monday, June 2, 2008 - 09:07 am:

It's funny, with my son's birthday in February I always am bummed because we can't do outdoor things and always wished he had a summer birthday. I never thought of that aspect when it came to planning things. I'm wondering what kind of issues I'll have with the new one being so close to Christmas.

I'm glad things are working out for her and I hope she has a great time!

By Rayelle on Monday, June 2, 2008 - 02:43 pm:

I have 2 in the summer and then one 6 days before Christmas! Her parties have all been family to this point. She'll start school this year so we'll see.

By Tarable on Monday, June 2, 2008 - 03:00 pm:

I have one that is always around Thanksgiving so we always either celebrate it a week early or a week late so it don't be on the weekend right before or right after Thanksgiving because I tried that once and only 1 kid was able to make it.

I am sorry to hear that your dd's best friend isn't going to make it.. I know how hard that is to deal with.

By Vicki on Monday, June 2, 2008 - 08:21 pm:

Dd's birthday is Dec 13. We always did her party before her birthday for the simple fact of everyone getting so busy for the holiday! We usually did it the first weekend in December. She is older now so it is usually just her close friends for a slumber party and it isn't so much of an issue anymore.

I hope all the other kids can come and I am sure she will have a great time!

By Crystal915 on Tuesday, June 3, 2008 - 01:16 am:

What a bummer!!! We decided to do Worlds of Fun this year instead of a birthday party, because with school out it's near impossible to round up even a small number of friends. Hope your DD has a wonderful birthday, and the sleepover idea should be perfect!!!

By Rayelle on Tuesday, June 3, 2008 - 01:04 pm:

The best friends mom called yesterday. Turns out she can make the party they just may be a little late. Now dd is very excited!!!!!! I am happy things are working out for her.

By Happynerdmom on Tuesday, June 3, 2008 - 01:41 pm:

Yay! I'm so glad it worked out!

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, June 3, 2008 - 02:18 pm:

That's great news!