Just need to vent about my day
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Just need to vent about my day
So my ex calls on Thursday and says that he'll be by today to get the rest of his stuff out of my garage, this is an AWESOME thing because I have stuff in my house that I've been waiting to be able to put in my own garage. I only have a one car garage and with a washer and dryer, couch and loveseat, coffee tables, tv, microwave, etc out there I hardly have enough room for my lawn mower because I have some of my own personal things out there as well.
So I rearrange my whole weekend to accomodate him and getting his stuff out of here once and for all... He calls my house about 3:00 this afternoon and says he'll be there in about 20 minutes, then he calls back and asks if I'll have the cars out of the driveway so he can back his truck in the driveway. Sure thing, no big deal. In fact I left so that I wouldn't have to see him, my mom said she'd be here when he got here.
I saw him pull in as I was pulling off the opposite end of my street, I ran to Kroger to pay a bill then to Sonic to get a drink and figured if he wasn't done he'd at least almost be done and I could just keep driving around until he left.
I pull in my driveway and he's not there, I can still see EVERYTHING in my garage and my mom was back in the pool and she was mad. I go back to ask her what is going on and he didn't bring anyone to help him get his stuff and all he took was a couple bags of clothes and the receivers for his TV. He took that stuff and said that he'd be back on Monday to get the rest. Ummmmm, hello NO. I called him and told him he had until 8:00 tonight to get his stuff out of here or I was putting it to the side of the road, I was not rearranging another day for HIM and his BS.
Well he said he'd call the cops if I did that and I said go ahead, it's on my property as far ast they are concerned it's all mine and I can do as I please with it. Well apparently he DID call the cops and they came over to the house, I met the officer outside. I was just about to call them myself to see what I could do about all of this.
While the police was here I talked to them and I told him about how I was scared of him on some levels and he said that I could get an order where he can't come on my property without a police escort. If he does come on my property he goes to jail. My ex showed up while I was outside talking to him and tried to BS his way out of everything and the officer told us the best way to handle it all. He then talked to him separately telling him if he came on my property he'd be arrested. Once J leaves the officer and I talk and he tells me to write up a contract with 30 days from last Friday and that's how long he has to get the stuff out of here, after that I can charge him a storage fee (not like I'd ever get it really though).
I've wrote out the contract and emailed it to him, Tuesday copies will be mailed to his dad's house and his work if the stuff isn't gone by then. The latest thing is he called again this evening to say he'd be over tomorrow to get it all, I said that was fine after I got home from church.
IF the stuff is gone tomorrow or Monday, Tuesday I'll be changing my email address and calling the phone company to get my number changed. If he so much as steps foot on my property I can have arrested, I'm done with him.
The baby is going to have my last name and as much as I don't want it to say it, I'm not naming him as the father. I know in my heart that he won't press the issue of seeing his child and I know it's for the best. Later on in life if his child decides to contact him, HE can be the one to explain just why things were the way they were. He/she will have my family who will love them and will never need for anything, I can do it without him.
{{{HUGS}}} What a challenging day. I hope he comes and gets this stuff, so you can be done with him.
Thank you Dawn.
Thankfully he, his sister, uncle, and someone else are here now emptying out his stuff with the police and my mom watching.
After Tuesday I can be done with him. I'm so thankful.
Like you need this stress. Big hugs and I hope by now everything's gone, including HIM for good.
Thanks Cat.
It's all gone and so is he. It's funny he had the police say something to us about not wanting any communication while he got his stuff out and no mouthiness, etc... it was his sister and him who they had to get onto, he was ticked off that I wasn't out there watching, etc and his sister really showed what a witch she can be. The police finally had to tell her to get off the property.
I'm glad it's over with.
Oh how stressful! Hopefully that will be the end of that kind of behavior. (((HUGS)))
That's all very stressful. I'm glad it's over for you. Does he even know about the baby? Hopefully, he won't try and claim to be the father just to try and make things harder for you.
Ame
oops! Double post ...
Wow, they both sound like a piece of work. I'm glad that is past you now!
I know how glad you must be to see the last of him. Best of luck.
Amazing how people change, huh? Hopefully this is the end of it. Take some big breaths and move on... (((hugs)))
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