Our car is of course beyond repair. We've been using my mil's car and today it broke down. It had to be towed to a garage but the battery light came on. I wish I were kidding. At least our car was pretty old.

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, May 1, 2008 - 11:17 pm:

I'm sorry!

By Mom2three1968 on Friday, May 2, 2008 - 07:33 am:

Oh wow... sorry to hear that!

By Bobbie~moderatr on Friday, May 2, 2008 - 07:55 am:

Rayelle, As I have said I can so feel for you, I have had similar situations happen through out my life. Sadly, when something goes wrong, I just have to wait a bit, and something else bad will happen. You can ask anyone that has been around awhile, some times it feels like the only luck I have is bad luck. I don't know why and it is so unfair but it happens. I often feel like I am in a boxing match, I get a few good blows in (head towards back on track), the next thing I know I am hit so hard I am reeling backwards, and then I am laying flat on my back again. All I can say is try to keep your head up and your face covered.

The good news is.... When good things happen they seem to happen in a groupings too, and it makes all my struggles in the bad time so worth it.


My major car issue, although I have had many... I had bought a used van on a four year loan, we drove it for just over two years, the transmission went out while we were driving down the road with four kids... WE had to have my mom and step dad drive both of their cars over to pick us up, and a tow truck to get the van. The new transmission was so much we couldn't afford to replace it. My mom and step dad car pooled and DH drove their car for five months while we saved as much as we could. We took that little bit of money and our income tax and we bought another used car out right from a buy here pay here dealership.. The used car was in fairly good shape for the price we paid, but it wasn't new thats for sure.. But it met our need. The used car was cheaper than the repair. The van sat in the driveway while I paid the car note off, I received the title and called the junk yard the same day. The old used car was a band aid. In time DH got a better job, we could afford another car note, and we bought a newer used van, four years later we were making more money and then we bought a newer used van.

This too shall pass Rayelle, from someone that has been there done that, you just have to remember, 20 years from now you will barely remember the current issues you are having, I promise. What feels like the end of the world while your in it, will make you stronger. I can tell you this first hand.

Is the car being repaired?

(((((((GOOD LUCK))))))))

By Rayelle on Friday, May 2, 2008 - 09:46 am:

Thank you. Fortunately our car is paid for. It would be better to take the $2300 it would cost to repair it and get another vehicle. The car will be going to the junkyard once we figure out what to do, but I want to wait right now since the tags are new. My mil's car is at the mechanic now but we haven't heard yet what that problem is. My husband's grandmother brought us in her van to use. She has a new car as well and said she can't see having 2 vehicles in her driveway when her grandson and his wife need to get to work and care for 3 kids. The van was his grandfather's most prized possession and he is no longer with us. It makes me feel kind of nervous knowing how special it is to her and the luck we seem to be having with vehicles. I'm grateful my husband's family is being so generous.

I know this too shall pass. I'm happy I haven't really wasted anytime being upset, just trying to figure out how who is going to get where. The van solves how we were getting to my sister's wedding tomorrow. I just can't believe our bad luck. Dh has an important job interview Tues., so hopefully things will turn around.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Friday, May 2, 2008 - 11:32 am:

Rayelle, I am sure DH grandpa would be glad/proud that his van/prized possession is going to good use and I am sure in grandma's case it probably does her heart good to be in the position to be able to help you two out. Keep in the right mind frame, this van will get us through until we are able to get back on our feet, nothing bad is going to happen, we will be able to get things right again soon, keep thinking/saying it. Negativity breads negative things. Some how we made a wrong turn, we ended up on a bumpy dirt road, but in time if we keep driving forward we will find our way to the smooth black topped road again, that is a certainty. I find if I give thanks, for my challenges, even when I feel like falling apart, I tend to make it through things quicker and with less bruises in the end. That doesn't mean I don't get upset in the moment, but I don't let it linger long. I can't... and I won't... Challenges are thrown in our paths to make us grow, to make us appreciate, and to make us have compassion for others. If we struggle well (lol irony in that, to some struggling can't be done well but it can) then the people around us are impacted by the fact that we push forward in the middle of adversity. We impact our children and those around us that see us not giving up. You can see in the lives of the others the ones that have struggled, witnessed struggle, are the ones that step up the quickest with a hand up when you fall. It will all work it self out in time, unfortunately in never feels quick enough for us, but it does happen..

Like I said you both will be in my thoughts...