Welllll ladies..we began having a lot of problems with our new CEO! Turns out she was having an affair with a married man, ended her marriage and he did/didn't (left his family for a week then went back). She started drinking, leaning on the office staff for support, planning crazy vindictive things, telling everyone she knows that he knew what happened (trying to trash his reputation)companies we work with what happened to her etc. Completely unprofessional and inappropriate behaviour. She repeatedly threatened our jobs etc. and that's just some of what happened. We went to the president of our board of directors and then he sent us to the personnel committee and they in turn brought in an HR person for us and since have put her on administrative leave (since yesterday). She's been given a week to respond to the allegations in writing and we've been told it's up to us to decide if we can work with her and if so she'll be back and if not then...

It's been a trying month!

I'm so relieved she's gone and yet I feel incredibly guilty that I played a part in her not having a job anymore even more so with everything that has gone on in her life since she started. I was finally at the point that if she didn't leave I was quitting and I love my job!

I am holding our biggest event of the year next week (I do events and seminars at my job) and I'm doing it without a CEO. To top it all off we've had a lot of staff turnover lately and at 2 years I'm second in line when it comes to seniority!

I've been so stressed lately and it's affecting every aspect of my life not just work. To top it all off I filed for divorce about a month ago and I'm still working on that!

I have to go anon because of the "sensitiveness" of this situation.

By Ginny~moderator on Saturday, April 19, 2008 - 08:28 pm:

You and the other staff did exactly the right thing - and I suspect that the President of your board is wishing that s/he had known of the situation earlier, if anything. If this woman loses her job, it will be because of her behavior, and if you hadn't gone to the Board President, her behavior could have seriously damaged the organization, which might have caused everyone to lose their jobs. I'm sorry for anyone who loses a job - I even feel sorry for the paralegal who made my life so uncomfortable and who was fired (for other reasons). But this woman and the paralegal created the situations that put their jobs in jeopardy, not you or the other staff (or me, for the paralegal). You and the rest of the staff have nothing to feel guilty about - you acted in the best interests of your employer, which is exactly what you should have done.

I'm pretty sure I know who you are, and I think you will handle the event just fine - just as you have been handling things just fine for as long as I've known you on the board. Cut yourself some slack, and tell your family that you are having work stress and would appreciate them cutting you some slack.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Sunday, April 20, 2008 - 09:39 pm:

I agree that you all did the right thing.. You might be working/planning with out a CEO but man she sure sounds like she would have been more trouble then help...

Your employer should be happy/impressed that you all stepped up and didn't pretend like nothing was going on. She could have cost the company a lot of money and clients..

I am pretty sure I have who you are figured out too by the way and You need to take things one day at a time. I also agree, it might be time for a sit down at home, telling them clearly to cut you some slack. The kids are old enough by now to understand what a stressful period of life looks like. I am sure they aren't unaware of the current situation.

(((((hugs)))))

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, April 20, 2008 - 11:11 pm:

Yikes! What a stressful situation. I agree, that the boss HAD to know, though!