Make a 7 year old boy understand that he can't have a brother. My ds cries and cries because he wants a brother. he has 2 older sisters and a twin sister but don't understand that they have each other and he dont have someone. Today he came home from school crying because hs is lonely and wants a brother and it hurts my feeling to know end and I have even thought about having my tubes untied to try for another but truly thats not happening. I just wish I could help him in some way to where he don't hurt. dh and I talked about adopting but we would have no clue where to began and if they would even let us adopt. Has anyone else gone through this or some words of advice
Thank you all

By Hol on Friday, April 18, 2008 - 08:14 pm:

Poor little guy! Adoption is not all that difficult. There are (unfortunately) loads of kids who need good homes, in every state in the country. We adopted two half brothers in 2003. They had been foster kids most of their lives, since they were removed from their birth Mom when thet were very young. They are WONDERFUL boys, and every bit as much OURS as our birth kids.

Since they were "state" kids, and their mother's rights had been terminated, the state paid all of the adoption expenses. I am sure that there are babies and little kids available as well.

One thing that you might consider is becoming a "visiting resource" for a little boy. My boys had them before we met them. They are people who apply to the state DCF, and get certified. They have to pass a background check and go through training like foster parents. The difference is, you become someone that a child can come spend weekends with. Someone to take them to the zoo, the lake, whatever, with your own kids. It gets them out of where they are living, and provides company for your children. My DS Michael still stays in touch with a family who was a visiting resource for him, and he is now 19.

That might be the way to go. You don't have to have a lot of money; just a love for kids. It would give your DS something to look forward to. And...sometimes kids THINK they want something badly until they get it. LOL! Maybe he'll decide that being the only boy isn't so bad. LOL!