Ok. I am having a real ordeal with my neighbor. I don't know her very well, it is her, her son, and her parents living in the house. She is young, early twenties, and moved in with her parents after having the baby.

She randomly comes over and asks if her kid can play with mine, maybe once every month. I was fine with that, she hung out for awhile and left.

Well, about 3 months ago, she came over at 5 PM and said "my mom isn't home yet to watch him, and I have to go to work, will you watch him?"
And I did, but I couldn't believe she would leave him with me, because she hardly knows me!
Since then, she has asked to borrow my computer, asked me to go to the store for her, and (this is the best one) she asked if my husband could watch her child EVERY Mon, Wed and Fri. I told her no, because he is in school and very busy.

Well, at least twice a week, while I am at work, she comes over and asks him to watch her child. He says no, of course, but I cannot believe her audacity!!!!
She hasn't gotten the hint after a couple of months of Jimmy saying no to her! It makes me mad for so many reasons, but mostly because I told her he couldn't and she is going behind my back!

I don't know what to do with her, but I just can't believe that she keeps coming over here and asking that!! My husband works two jobs and is in school, there's no way he wants to be responsible for another child (who, by the way, screams the entire time he is here)

Oh and her dad is disabled and can't drive, so when it is too rainy/cold/stormy to walk to the store, he comes over and asks us to go to the store to buy him beer!!!

I guess she comes by it naturally!!

By Amecmom on Saturday, March 15, 2008 - 10:21 pm:

LOL! Can you just not answer the door? Sorry I don't have any more constructive advice. Just hugs. It's never easy when people are just determined to take advantage of you.
Ame

By Ginny~moderator on Sunday, March 16, 2008 - 02:31 am:

Start rehearsing until you can say it without thinking - No, and don't ask me again. I will not go to the store for you. I will not loan you my computer. I will not watch your child and my husband will not watch your child. Don't ask again, because the answer will always be no.

Not - no, I can't today, or No, I'm too busy. Just No, and don't ask again.

It's sad - it sounds like a whole dysfunctional family. But you can't let them make their dysfunction yours. Obviously being polite and giving explanations doesn't work, so it's time to take the gloves off, stop being polite, and start being blunt - both you and dh.

By Jelygu on Monday, March 17, 2008 - 07:42 pm:

Thanks... I'm determined to say that next time Ginny!! I'll let you guys know how it goes!

By Dandjmom on Tuesday, March 18, 2008 - 10:45 am:

Boy the nerve. How about NO, I've tried to be nice about it but you just choose to hear what you want, but for once and for all the answer is no, don't ask again because it will be NO. My husband has his own kids to watch and can not watch yours so NO. Why can't she goto the store for her father.