For Christmas?
I haven't ever done this before. I've always just insisted that I don't need anything. I really wouldn't mind if I didn't get anything at all. I love to spend the money on the kids and DH and would prefer that I take the money that would be spent on me, and spend it on them.

But, my DH buys me something every year. He usually goes out at the last minute and finds something. He does ok, and I know it's the thought that counts.

This year there are several things that I really would like. This is the first year I can remember, as an adult, that there has been a few things that I would love to receive as a gift.

Would it be rude or tacky for me to write these things down and tell dh that these are some things that I would maybe like to get? I don't think he would be offended at all. He would probably be happy that I'm making it easy for him.

It just seems like I am being greedy if I tell him what I want. Do you know what I mean?

Do you write wish lists for your husband?

By Janet on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 03:49 pm:

I did this year, because my dh took my dds out shopping, and I knew they'd get something strange. I drop hints and even come out and tell dh all year what I'd like, but he rarely gets it! LOL So I thought I'd try a more direct approach. We'll see, right?

By Yjja123 on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 03:52 pm:

Absolutely!
My hubby has a bad habit of spending way too much money on a piece of jewelry I really will never wear. After the first year of being married where he bought 3 jewelry items I ended up taking back, I decided to guide him in the right direction.
He is thrilled that the stress of picking out a gift I enjoy is removed and I am thrilled that I get something I can actually use.
He does surprise me every now and then but after 12+ years he now has a better idea of what I like and don't like.
I started by making a wish list and asking him to do the same. It has a variety of items and price ranges and since I have no clue which he will get there is still a bit of a surprise. We do this mainly for Christmas and birthdays. On Anniversaries we try to get something for us, the house, or travel together.
Good luck!
Yvonne

By My2cuties on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 03:54 pm:

I don't write a wish list but when DH asks me I tell him a list and he gets me something that he thinks I would like the best from the things I told him. He is really good at being sneaky especially at Christmas and Birthdays, and always gets me something that I love.

By Laurazee on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 07:22 pm:

I sure do! He always manages to surprise me and get something that I love - e.g. if I say, "navy suit" he'll pick something that is cool, hip, good quality.

I also make him write a wish list, too. And I get wishlists for my niece and nephew. I think they're totally helpful. Not greedy at all.

By Vicki on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 07:31 pm:

You bet I do!! This year, I even went so far as to pick out a bracelet that I liked and told the guy to check into seeing if they could get it in a different size and if they could, to call dh about it. LOL

By Rayanne on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 07:37 pm:

I do tell DH what I want. If I don't write it down, then I show him.

By Breann on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 10:28 pm:

Then I guess I will go ahead and write those things down!
I'm sure it will help him decide what to buy. It's interesting each year, that's for sure

By Beth on Monday, December 13, 2004 - 11:57 pm:

Oh yes! I make a list, drop hints and go as far as to cut out the coupons or ads sometimes. My dh told me this year I was to controlling at christmas. Gee you think? So I have tried to step back a notch and not get so anxious about it. But I will say he has asked me for a list like three times. He will lose it or forget. So he definately wants a list and then for me to be hands off from there. I am trying really hard LOL!

By Imamommyx4 on Tuesday, December 14, 2004 - 02:06 am:

I used to make wish list sheets for everybody on the computer. I'd put each person's name at the top including one for dh and me along with some sort of Christmas picture. Then we put them on the fridge at about the first of November. Everybody understood that they could put anything on there, it was just a guide and DO NOT expect to get everything or even anything on the list. I think it helped all of us to shop for something each of really wanted.

By Fraggle on Tuesday, December 14, 2004 - 09:14 am:

I usually make a wish list on Amazon (it is actually for all of my family to add to and we send it to our family when they ask for gift ideas) But this year I just asked for a KitchenAid mixer-I told him that was all he needed to buy for my B-day and Christmas since it is a pretty big gift-well he ended up buying it for my B-day(last month) so I'm not sure what he has in mind now for Christmas.

By Eve on Tuesday, December 14, 2004 - 01:10 pm:

No, no lists. We haven't really been exchanging large Christmas gifts. If there is something I really want, I just buy it myself. LOL! If DH has to choose a gift for me, he does an excellent job, so no list is needed in our house.