Is there such a thing as a "free" one? I've searched high and low and everyone wants money. I just need something as simple a address, employment, criminal record.

Any ideas?

Its nothing bad. I can explain more later, i'm playing detective right now.

By Ginny~moderator on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 04:04 pm:

Mostly you have to pay for this kind of search, which you can do on the internet. Legally, criminal records are not supposed to be available unless the person signs a release or authorization.

The only option I can think of is if you have a friend who is willing to risk breaking federal law by doing a credit check on the individual.

By Rayanne on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 04:45 pm:

I think you have to pay for all of these unless you know someone, like Ginny said. Good luck.

By Boxzgrl on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 04:57 pm:

Darn! I knew I would have to pay. MY SIL is a mortgage banker and can get a hold of public records but i'm not trying to investigate a criminal or anything, i'm just snooping.

I have a second so heres why I was asking:

My Stepdad has been dating Lori for about 6 months, at least publicly dating her. They have made a few "oopsies" on many occasions with things they have said or comments they have made that lead me to wonder if this is the same Lori my Stepdad dated in high school and for a few years thereafter. They have both publicly announced that they went to the same high school but didn't know each other and grew up around the corner from one another. So, i'm just curious and as we all know.... Curiosity killed the cat.... errr, atleast me!

And really the only reason I care to know is because they are so hush hush about admiting how they met. Not that it will matter if she is, i'm just a nosy person, lol!

I tried classmates.com and she is not registered there. They've made a few comments about Yahoo! Personals but I don't think I can do a name search there, just a screen name search.

But if it takes me 10 years.... I will find out!!!

By Trina~moderator on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 05:22 pm:

Why does it matter??

By Boxzgrl on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 06:49 pm:

Like I mentioned above, it *really* doesn't matter, i'm just curious and would like to know. I actually think it would be neat if it is what i'm thinking.

By Cat on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 09:25 pm:

Well, being someone that really dislikes gossip and things like that, I'd come right out and ask them. Personally, I have so much more respect for someone if they ask me, up front about something, rather than going to someone else and saying, "Hey, what do you know about so-and-so?" I try to do the same for others. jmho, of course.

By Marcia on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 10:53 pm:

I'd ask them, too. Much better to be honest about it.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 11:40 pm:

I agree... Just ask.. and deal with it directly.... Sneaking around will only get you into trouble.

By Kaye on Tuesday, November 30, 2004 - 08:42 am:

Look for a class year book! Does your step dad have one, or are you near the school where he went, they usually have them in the library. I get why you are curious. It is really odd having your parent date nad it isn't as easy to ask up front. Also if they are hiding something which is what you suspect, then they wouldn't really be honest anyway.

As for why it matters, well, I know with my dad, I want him to be happy and women his age are just brutal (60). He seems to meet desperate women who will say and do anything to marry him. I kid you not, one woman has held a salad bowl hostage until he will take her out for lunch. He left the bowl by accident at a church potluck!

By Beth on Tuesday, November 30, 2004 - 09:45 am:

I don't think there is anything wrong with you wanting to know. Its not like you are going to share it with the whole world. It sounds like to me you think there is a love story there from way back and your just trying to crack the secret. It sounds like a mystey to me.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, November 30, 2004 - 11:14 pm:

So, what you are saying is... If someone in your DH's family is questioning you and the reasons behind your relationship that it would be okay for them to do a back ground check on you behind your back? How would you feel if you found out that your sister ran a police etc. check on your DH? Knowing Melissa as well as I do, I know she would be fit to be tied if she found out her mother in law had done a back ground check on her... It is 100% not her business.... It is not her relationship and not her life. This woman is not a threat to him, she isn't fearing for his safety. She is curious about the woman, that doesn't give her just cause to go snooping around. I am curious about my neighbor, that doesn't give me a right to snoop into their past with no just cause.. Is this clearly a case of, the shoe is on someone elses foot or what? Basically, it is okay because you aren't prying into my personal business? Whom her step father chooses to date is no more her business than who she chose to marry was his.... IF she has any questions she needs to go directly to the people and ask them. IF she doesn't feel strongly enough to ask them, then she needs to find something else to focus her energy on. Of course this is my personal opinion but I would find it hard to forgive if I found out that someone I cared enough to share my life with was snooping in my business behind my back... She might be setting herself up to create issues she won't be able to fix. And no.. She can't just look a little. And what difference does it make? If they dated before then they dated before. If they didn't they didn't... They have their reasons I am sure.... Melissa ask the woman..