I went to the grocery store today with Rylee. She doesn't like to sit in the cart for very long if she doesn't have a balloon and they were out today. If I'm not in a hurry, I will let her help me push the cart with the bar on the back wheels of the cart. This is what we ended up doing today. While we were walking, I spotted something that I wanted to look at, so I picked up Rylee and she immidiately started crying and arching her back and throwing her arms up because she wanted down. As soon as she did this, this lady with her child in the cart walks by and says, you are being such a good little girl and that baby isn't. I gave her the dirtiest look. I didn't say anything because that is not who I am, I just bit my tounge, put Rylee down, and continued on with my shopping.

By Tink on Sunday, November 28, 2004 - 08:25 pm:

As if her child has never acted up??? Wow, she must be doing a great job with her little girl! Maybe she can join Momsview and teach us all how to have perfect kids! Oh yeah, I don't like people like that. Can you tell?

By Christylee on Sunday, November 28, 2004 - 10:45 pm:

Lol at Cori...

You did MUCh better than I would have, I'd probably "talked" to Rylee about how RUDE she just was (the lady)... Some people.

By Kym on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 08:09 am:

I heard a great suggestion, maybe here, to take a box of crayons and let the little ones draw on the boxes of cereal crackers etc that you are buying! Now a days you do have to be careful they don't black out the bar codes though

By Rayanne on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 08:31 am:

That's a great idea, but Rylee puts the crayons in her mouth still. Maybe when she gets older though. Thanks for the idea.
The balloon usually works for me, but they were out this time.

By Mrsheidi on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 08:55 am:

Can't believe she said that...truly grade A obnoxious.

By Pamt on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 09:03 am:

Ugh!

By My2cuties on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 09:23 am:

What a way to treat such a beautiful little girl... I hate that this happened, but at least she is too little to understand. I guess there are some real big jerk moms out there, which doesn't really make since, my girls humbled me, when they were younger, more than anything.. spit up on my shirt out in public, breastmilk leaking through when I forgot to put on a nursing pad..and the list goes on..

By Eve on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 09:59 am:

Oh man! That would have ticked me off! Just remember, what goes around, comes around! Even the most "perfect" children have bad days!!

By Dawnk777 on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 11:43 am:

Sometimes, I just giggle to myself, when I see a toddler having a meltdown, because I have been there done that! LOL! Then I'm glad those days are over for me.

Oh yeah, teenagers do have meltdowns, but it's about different stuff.

By Unschoolmom on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 01:03 pm:

I just heard a thing on the radio today where a woman went on about how kids today have no respect for people. No wonder when adults treat children with as little respect as that mother did with Rylee.

By Imamommyx4 on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 05:04 pm:

I wasn't there and I didn't hear the tone the mother used when talking about Rylee, but I have made similar comments if taken out of context. Just today we were at the mall and dd who is almost four was playing and behaving nicely. There was a lady leaving with her 2ish ds and he was having a major fit. DD commented on how that baby was having a fit. My comment to her was that yes he was having a fit and she was being good now but we have had our times having fits too so let's be nice and not point or make a big deal about it. His mommy was having a tough enough time as it was. I didn't realize it at the time but she walked behind me at the part about the little boy having the fit and dh said she looked at me real hard. Heaven knows I don't look down on her or her ds for his fit. We've all btdt. But she heard just a part of my conversation with my dd and probably was hurt just like you were.

By Annie2 on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 08:09 pm:

I've done the same as Debbie. I do point out to my kids when behavior in public is less than I expect. Along with better ways to act, express feelings, etc. When they are in the middle of a meltdown they can't "see" how they look and how it ruins the outing.
I'm saddened that your feelings were hurt but take it with a grain of salt. I can guarantee you will do something similar to show Rylee poor behavior in public. Now you know not to say it in the earshot of the mom! LOL

By Cat on Monday, November 29, 2004 - 09:23 pm:

Wow. You showed SO much more restraint than I would have. With a child like Robin, I've got comeback lined up just waiting to be used! lol Hugs

By Dana on Tuesday, November 30, 2004 - 12:53 pm:

I'd have to say I have said the same thing about another childs behavior in a public place. Not because my child never acts up, but because I am noting how it looks when it is going on and why I repremand DD. I try not to say it in ears shot of the other mom, but you never know. But anyway, it is always in a comparison of how DD has been know to act vs the proper way she is acting at that moment. I compliment her on her good behavior and compare it to what she has already noted on her own. Usually she brings up that other child's behavior before I do. I also make sure to point out to DD that we all have bad days.

So Rayanne, don't feel badly. It is possible that the other mom meant nothing what you heard. As you know, there is not a mother on earth who has not had her fair share of bad behavior in a public place. Esp under stressfull conditions. You are parenting just fine!

By Rayanne on Tuesday, November 30, 2004 - 03:30 pm:

Thank you everyone. I feel a lot better now. I just wish that Rylee would enjoy going to store with me. She doesn't like to be sitting down for too long, and I don't mind her walking with me, or helping me push the cart, but it scares me too, because anything can happen in the blink of an eye. I never let her wander off or anything like that, and if she's helping me push the cart, she's between my legs, and if she's walking with me, she's holding my hand. I guess I just wish she'd just sit in the cart and just be happy.