OK ladies if I don't vent soon I will explode. I still haven't found a good job my Unemployement has run out but I still have this side job he put me on payroll last week but it is only 1/2 the pay that I am use to. Christmas is coming and I cannot afford to get things for my kids. I need a new winter coat and so does Rich we don't have an old one to wear so we must get new ones. TImmy's script is $50 a month and I don't have it yet for Friday to get the script from the store.

Now for the rest we were robbed over a week ago and the insurnace co is not helping much in the matter fo getting my da@@ door fixed if someone wanted they could just come up and push hard and get in my house. They are argueing over what to paint and what not to. I have to find receipts for things that are over 9 yrs old and I have to go to the stores to give them the replacement value of the things that were in my house that were stolen.

I am tired fo looking for a job knowing that I have skills but am not getting any of these jobs I am tired fo struggling for money and not being able to buy my kids new cloths that they really need and I am tired of not being able to make ends meet. I just think thigns are going better and WHAM they go down hill again.

I don't think I would be so bad if it weren't for Christmas coming I have just ready to scream.

We promised Timmy a new bedroom set and new carpet and a new coat of paint in his room. His room never got redone when we bought the house. He keeps asking about it and I am tired of tellign him NO. It seems like that is all I do anymore. He wants to go to the movies we cannot do that.

I need a good job and soon or I am going to go totally insane.

By Kristie on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:14 pm:

(((((((Tonya))))))
This time of year is hard for us too. DH job is seasonal cuz you can't fertilize lawns when there is snow on the ground. I can't get a job with these new medical problems that keep popping up. Not only do we have Christmas but DS birthday is Dec. 23rd. DS asked the other day if we could go get ice cream and I said no. He asked why and before I could even answer he said "I know, we don't have any money."
It does break your heart. Is there any where in your town that gives coats to people in need. I also know where I live there is many places you can sign up for your kids to get Christmas presents. I had to do that last year. I know it won't put paint and a new carpet in his room but it would help with presents.
These are the times when I wish I had tons of money, cuz I would help you if I could. I have been and will be soon where you are. I will pray that things will look up for you and your family.

By Kellyj on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:27 pm:

Hi Tonya,
How big is your dd now? I have a snowsuit and gloves, hat and some clothes that could send you that were my dd's last year. They look like brand new. I also have a leap frog table that was given to us and I would send to you if you would like that for your dd for Christmas? You can email me if you are interested in any of those things. My address is chubbuck @ nycap .rr .com Minus all the spaces

By Emily7 on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:34 pm:

Around here we have a coat drive & a Secret Santa, do they have those programs in your area?
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. I have kept you in my prayers. I know you will find something soon.

By Tonya on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:35 pm:

I'm sorry aldies I didn't mean my post about to come off like I needed things from people. i have always made ends meet and I will agian this time do it. there are allot of people out there in allot worse shape than my family so it you guys have things donate to good will or Purple hart or something please. I needed to vent more than anything.

Thank you Kelly for the offer but give them to someone who really needs them. I love hand me downs but some one else can use them more. An Jade is already in 12 month cloths so I bet our DD's are in the same size right?

By Boxzgrl on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:36 pm:

(((HUGS))) Tonya. I hope you get what you need this year. You've been through a lot and you sure deserve it. I still have my DDs Precious Moments snowsuit from last year as well. I think it fit her up until she was about 9-10 months old. If you want it let me know as well.

By Boxzgrl on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:37 pm:

We were posting at the same time. Well (((HUGS))) anyways and keep your chin up.

By Vicki on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 02:42 pm:

I am sorry that your going through this rough time Toyna. As far as Timmy's meds, maybe you can call his Dr and explain what is going on right now. I know they always have samples, and maybe they would be willing to give you some of those for a couple of weeks or something? Can't hurt to try!!

By Brandy on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 03:00 pm:

If you need things and people are willing to send them i would accept them..Just my humble opinion of course = )

By Tonya on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 03:04 pm:

I know I am all set on the snow suit thing she needs cloths from 9-12 months in size more 12 than 9 because she is so long if anyone has anything my address is:

My e-mail is therrmann0376 @ wowway.com.

If you send me a note I will give you my mailing address and I will reimburse you for all shipping hcarges. Thanks ladies you are all awesome.

By Cat on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 03:13 pm:

{{{{{Tonya}}}}} I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now. It has to get better, though. Like you said, you will get through this. Vent away any time.

By Kellyj on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 03:18 pm:

((HUGS)) I don't know how you can be so strong through all of the things you have been through. It is amazing to me.
My dd is 19 months and I had to get her a new snowsuit this year. I don't think that I've updated my profile in a while. This suit is for 12 months and its adorable. Those things are just sitting around crowding dd's closet so I thought that I would offer them to you.
I hope that I didn't offend you. I didn't think that you posted looking for anything more than to vent.
Best wishes and I hope that you can find a job soon.

By Tonya on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 03:42 pm:

Kelly, I didn't take offense to anything if you wish to pass them along thank you just drop me an e-mail and I will send you my address. I can for sure use what you have and when they get to me I will send you a money order for the shipping charges. thanks.

And I am strong because I have to be! My kids need me to be strong and if I'm not then I am not doing them much good.

I have worked hard for what we have and I will be dam@ed if I am goign to lsoe it all I will get by I always have. My dads says I am 1 of those people who can turn a nickel into a quarter. And I will thanks ladies for the support.

By Kernkate on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 06:50 pm:

Tonya, This time of the year with the holidays always seem to be the hardest. Keep you head up and things will work out. We are all here for you so vent away.

By Karen~moderator on Tuesday, October 26, 2004 - 11:18 am:

bump

By Insaneusmcwife on Tuesday, October 26, 2004 - 11:24 am:

Is this this post you were referring too?

By Tonya on Tuesday, October 26, 2004 - 11:36 am:

Sure is it was gone but I think Karen put it back?

By Bobbie~moderatr on Wednesday, October 27, 2004 - 12:18 am:

It is common practice for a thread to be moved off of the board if a moderator is concerned over the content and then placed back (or removed completely which ever the case) when the rest of the moderators have had the time to read the thread and decide what to do with it. In some cases we have to involve the administration and list owners which can delay the thread from being put back even further. Things aren't always clear cut when it comes to the rules of what is allowed and not allowed. So, we as a group (the moderators) will have to break down many of the post and agree with the manner of which each situation should be dealt with. The removal of this post to you may seem to be a personal one but if you look at it from our point of view and the potential issues that could arise from a thread such as this you might see it differently. We have people (non members, inactive members that most of you forget are even out there reading) that come here and read every day, we don't want people thinking they can say I am having a hard time lately and that the group will send them things.. Yes we all know Tonya (many of us for a long time) but we don't know everyone out there that is reading. And what if the next person is a troll (someone trying to create problems) and they come on and use the group for personal gain through lies and manipulation. Who do you think will get blamed? The person that did it or the moderators that allowed it? Do you honestly want a person to join and chat for a couple of days and then come off with a I am having a bad month and my kid really needs diapers and then they turn around and leave the group? That is exactly what a post like this can lead to. I understand everyone wants to help Tonya and I fully support your decision. But instead of replying here on the list, I suggest you email her off the list, through her profile, with anything you might want to offer her. Because you might think it is not an issue today but in a month when everyone gets Christmas in their sites you might be wishing that we would not have (hmm, word??) encouraged (if leaving it here is what we are doing) this type of thread. Because one will lead to another. Anyone that has been around very long should know that is a definite issue with boards like this.. Think about it, you all joined this for a reason, what makes you think that someone wouldn't join just to use us for personal gain. Thus the rules...

Members of this message board are not permitted to post messages soliciting tangible items for sale, swap, or giveaway, nor are they allowed to request tangible items from other users that they or someone they know may be in need of. This policy will be strictly enforced. Anyone deliberately violating this policy will be subject to revocation of their posting privileges.

Unfortunately, this policy had to be placed into effect due to the fact that we have had recent activity of this type on the board from some members with less than honorable intentions. In order to preserve the sense of trust and friendship we have enjoyed here at Momsview, the Staff feels it is best to prohibit such posting from this day forward.

This board is primarily a mothers support board, mainly empathetic and emotional support, shared joys and sorrows, and advice when requested. It was never intended to allow the members to trade personal items. There are other boards on the internet designed specifically for this purpose, and members interested in participating in this type of activity should seek out such boards.

We feel that the majority of our members will agree that this is probably for the best and appreciate your understanding.

So Tonya, it wasn't personal and by leaving this here we are in violation of our rules, the rules that were drawn up to protect you. And no you didn't ask for help but to someone with a personal agenda (using us for gain) it will look like we have left the back door open and the lights on for them...