Major Bummer

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I lost my diamond while working at a car seat check today. It fell right out of the setting. I'm so bummed. I didn't make a big deal about it because I had already been in several cars by the time I noticed. Like looking for a needle in a haystack! My instructor made me pull out all the check sheets and call all the owners of the cars I had been in. Of course no luck there. It didn't really hit me until I got home. DH hugged me when I teared up. He said, "Don't worry, Hon. It's insured and can be replaced." Me: "I know, but that won't be THE diamond you proposed to me with." *Heavy Sigh* A hard lesson learned: DON'T wear wedding rings during car seat checks!! WAHHH!

By Colette on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 07:39 pm:

Oh Trina, I am so sorry. I've btdt, but w/Dh's wedding ring, he lost it and couldn't find it anywhere. It turned up though, he sold a set of speakers on ebay and the ring had fallen off into the box he shipped them with. The buyer called us at home and shipped it right back. I hope you have the same luck.

By Tink on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 07:40 pm:

You must be heartbroken! Lots of hugs are being sent your way. I'm so sorry. It may still turn up when someone cleans out their car. I certainly hope they would be honest enough to contact you!

By Karen~moderator on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 07:42 pm:

{{{{{{TRINA}}}}}}} I'm so sorry! I can only imagine how upsetting that would be.

By Kristie on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 07:48 pm:

Oh sad,((((Trina)))). My dh lost his wedding ring the summer of 2002 on a trip to Arizona to get his daughter. We were so heart broken. We thought about getting one made just like it but it still wouldn't be "the ring". We ended up doing nothing cuz we couldn't afford to get another ring anyway.
Then a month ago his friend that he went on the trip with couldn't get his window to roll down in his blazor. So he took the door pannel off and there, jamming the window was dh wedding ring!!! I screamed and cried and put it back on his finger and said our vows all over again. We had lost hope and now it's on dh finger again. You never know, maybe someone will find it and return it to you. Good Luck.

By Boxzgrl on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 07:52 pm:

I'm sorry Trina. I've lost a diamond in my ring but it wasn't the "main" diamond so it was easy to just rake in. Those things hold such a great value to us women!

And Kristie, that is an amazing story! How neat!

By Kristie on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 08:08 pm:

I hope Trina has good luck too, I'm sitting here crying for you Trina!! DH's laughing at me. I just can't imagine how I would feel if it were my ring that was lost. I will pray for the safe return of your diamond! (man I hate my hormones, I cry about everthing)

By Insaneusmcwife on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 09:18 pm:

{{{{Trina}}}} I'm so sorry. I hope you find your diamond. I know how heart breaking it is to loose your main diamond. I lost mine while moving back from Okinawa. Somewhere between the shower and getting on the airplane. I know I had it in the shower because I remember looking at it and then once we got seated on the airplane I looked down at it again and it was gone. I cried from Japan all the way to Korea. I called Dh as soon as we got off the airplane and all he laughed at me and said he would buy me another one, that it was just a diamond and that the ring isn't what makes us married....I went from sad to furious. That was December 02 I just finally got around to replacing the diamond last month. I had been wearing a ring my bio dm gave me as a temporary until we could afford to get it fixed....well that never happened so I took the big diamond from that and put it in my wedding set, it only cost me $50 and its a bigger diamond.

By Dawnk777 on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 09:28 pm:

Oh, I'm so sorry. A few years ago, the diamond fell out of my wedding ring. We searched some places in the house and didn't find it. Later that day, I was on the computer and looking around while a page loaded (darn dial-up) and I saw something sparkly on the floor. I looked closer and there was my diamond.

So, we took it in, got it fixed and they made my setting a 6-prong setting instead of the 4-prong one that had been there.

I was so lucky!

By Cat on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 10:04 pm:

Oh, Trina. That is a major bummer. It would be so nice if someone found it and turned it in so you'd get it back! I lost a diamond out of my anniversary band about 4 years ago. Dh was out of town and one of his friends was in Maryland for business and he stopped by to see the kids (the boys love this guy!). We were sitting in the living room and I looked down and yelled, "Oh CRAP!!!" Fred had no idea what was wrong. I told him and next thing you know he's on his hands and knees, crawling around my living room looking with me! We never found it (I may have lost it while out earlier that day) and I eventually got it replaced (next time I visited my mom, with a jeweler I knew I could trust). My mom's diamond fell out once, too, but she saw it in her lap (black pants) and she sat very still while my dad got a piece of tape to pick it up with so they wouldn't lose it. I'd REALLY suggest a six prong setting. I'm constantly bending one of my prongs, but my diamond is secure with the other five. {{{{{Trina}}}}}

By Imamommyx4 on Saturday, October 23, 2004 - 10:06 pm:

Not lost a diamond from hubby but I did lose a set of beautiful pearls that my best friends gave me for being their maid of honor. She was my roomie, her dh sat behind me in class and I introduced them. So the pearls were pretty special to me. It hurt but I also tried to not make to big a deal about it. I was pregnant at the time. I know I had them when I got out of the car. They were missing 5 minutes after we got to dh's Christmas party. DH looked and looked but no luck. Losing the pearls isn't quite the same as your engagement diamond but I sure sympathize.

By Paulas on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 03:43 am:

The year after Dh and I got married I was away for 3 weeks taking university courses. He was playing ball and when he took off his ball glove his wedding ring came off as well. He looked everywhere but couldn't find it. He later borrowed a metal detector and found it. Of course, he told me the whole story AFTER he found it.

By Melissa on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 08:51 am:

I lost mine too, it was my fault as I was lazy about geting the prongs checked. It wasn't a rock but it was a nice 1/2 ct. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack. I never found it, but a year later I did get a new one a 1 ct with smaller ones on the sides. I am still sad over losing the original though.

By Feona on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 09:42 am:

Sorry about your ring, Trina.

By Trina~moderator on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 10:16 am:

Thanks everyone. I'm trying not to be too upset. Definitely not the end of the world. I doubt it will turn up. The car seat check took place an hour away from where I live and the people who came were from all over the place. My diamond is not big (1/3 ct. pear shaped) and is probably buried deeply in the bight of someone's vehicle seat. Or it could be outside or in the garage bays where we were working. Which BTW, happened to be at a business where they work with glass. As we were cleaning up and sweeping after the check we were laughing because there were little sparkly pieces everywhere. At that point we gave up searching because it was hopeless. LOL! Anyway, we're going to call our insurance company tomorrow to make a claim. I don't want anything bigger, just to replace the original. I'm not wearing my rings because the prongs keep getting caught on things and my wedding band (a wrap) looks sad all by itself. Oh, my engagement ring does have six prongs. I check it often, and it was not loose. Just that installing car seats, especially using LATCH, can be rough on the fingers. As I said before, a hard lesson learned. I should have taken my rings off before hand.

A little blurry, but here is how my rings are supposed to look. *Sigh*

By Karen~moderator on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 10:28 am:

Sadly, a hard lesson learned. I often take mine off at my office when I'm filing, because I *catch* them on files or file drawers. Once I caught another ring I was wearing and it totally bent the prong and the stone fell out. It dawned on me then, that *could* have been my diamond.

I know it won't be the same diamond, but with insurance, at least you can get it replaced, so you can wear your rings. I've never lost my wedding diamond (which happens to be the diamond my dad bought for my mom 50 years ago) and I know I'd be crushed if I did, but I do have a ring that's *missing* - a ring that had been in my dad's family for a few generations - it was given to me by my dad's great aunt on my 16th birthday, and a few years ago it just disappeared. It makes me cry to think of it, because I had planned to give it to Jen.

{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

By Melanie on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 11:57 am:

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry.

By Happynerdmom on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 12:16 pm:

I'm sorry, Trina. I'm glad your DH was understanding. Who knows, maybe someone will find it and turn it in?? Stranger things have happened!

By Sunny on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 01:22 pm:

I'm sorry, Trina.

By Missmudd on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 04:00 pm:

I'm sorry about your ring trina, BTDT. DH when he proposed gave me the most beatiful hard to take care of ring ever. I have lost the center stone out once and probably 4 other diamonds, bent it so that I had to almost have it cut off to remove it, the whole thing. I started to think of it this way and I hope it helps. When dh and I married we were the people we were then, as our marriage evolved we changed and grew closer together, we also gave up things, just like my ring, some of the stones are the same, some are different, but it is still a testament of our love and commitment to each other.

By Jelygu on Sunday, October 24, 2004 - 07:54 pm:

So sorry Trina... but at least your dh was so sweet about it! I hope it turns up.

By Rayanne on Monday, October 25, 2004 - 11:14 am:

(((((TRINA)))))

I'm so sorry sweetie. My DH lost his ring after 3 months of us being married. He was at work, and took off his ring to wash his hands. He put the ring on the back of his work truck since he was using a hose to wash his hands. Needles to say, he forgot about it and drove off. Later he realized it, and drove back to where he was, but it was not there. I bought him another one for our Anniversary, but it still isn't the one that we said our vows to. Plus...his I had engraved inside with "Today, Tomorrow, & Forever. 10-14-00. The one he has now is not engraved. I might do it again one day.

I hope that your ring does turn up.