I know many of you probably dont know that Oct is Infant loss(miscarriage and Stillbirth also)awareness month. Ihad no idea about this until I had miscarriages myself. Many dift states do different things for this, some have special walks, our town is doing a memorial service. I went last yr for the first time.I went alone last yr as my husband didnt seem very interested in it, and its not something you want to force upon people. Ive gotten the invitation again..The invitation was touching and reads
"You are cordially invited to attend our 16th annual Memorial Service honoring the special babies who were carried with hope, born in silence, and remembered with love always. Sunday Oct 17th, 2004.
There isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about my 4 miscarriages, and they still make me cry. Although I have 3 beautiful healthy children, I still am saddened by my losses,and unfortunatly if I didnt have those 4 losses, Faith would not be here with me..I dont know why things happen, but those losses have changed me forever.
This yr I will go with a friend of mine, she is the cubscout leader for my son, and she has lost several babies herself. I saw her last yr there, and yesterday I asked her if we could go together.
I know alot people dont understand why I would have a need to go. I dont "dwell" on my losses, but they will be forever with me.

By Kaye on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 09:53 am:

Jackie, i think it is wonderful that you are going. My mother lost twin girls at over 5 months pregnant, it was her first pregancy, 4-5 years before I was born. She carried this with her all of her life, it was not OK to talk about it back then and she hid it for awhile, or maybe just couldn't talk. But when I got pregant, her twins were something she did talk about often, it changed who she was and what she did. After them she had one boy and one girl and made dad get the big v, she said her family was complete and she never wanted to go through that again. On my mothers death bed, I fully believe that she saw her babies, at the very least she was asking about them, asked "is daddy wathcing them?" and then smiled and said "ok". Those were her final words she died the next day. Anyway, the point of my story, is it is good to express this and there is nothing you can do to erase it. How touching I think the invitation was worded.

By Emily7 on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 10:11 am:

In 3 days it will be the anniversary of the loss of my baby boy. He was lost in the 4th month of pregnancy 8 years ago. I think about him often & never foget Oct. 15.
I now have 2 beautiful children, but can't help but wonder what my 3 would be like at times.

By Rayanne on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 10:26 am:

I think that it is great that you are attending. It's a comfort thing for you and if that's what you need to help you than go. I do not know what it is like lose a baby/child, but I do have friends and family that have gone through this. (((((HUGS)))))

By Cat on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 01:22 pm:

{{{{{Jackie}}}}} You may not dwell on your loses, but they're always going to be there and I think this is a great way to help deal with them. I still think about the two pregnancies I lost and it's been 10 and 12 years. More hugs, Jackie.

By Mommyathome on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 02:08 pm:

I have heard of this. It sounds like a really great program.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 11:28 pm:

Jackie, being with like people is very healing. This is why the start support groups. It does the mind and the heart good to look across and know they feel your heart and know your loss first hand. It is very healthy and not at all dwelling in your loss. It is accepting it... Big hugs to you hun...

By My2cuties on Wednesday, October 13, 2004 - 12:00 am:

I do not know what it is like to loose a baby, I could only imagine how heartbreaking it would be. I have had dreams that I lost my baby and woke up balling my eyes out, I can't even think about it without crying. My heart goes out to all the women that have lost babies during pregnancy, and after. I am glad you are going even if your DH doesn't go with you. Lots of Love and support to you.

By Andi on Wednesday, October 13, 2004 - 09:19 am:

I saw something about this on a news show a while back, what a wonderful thing.