Just curious...

Dh's mom was in a coma. Dh's stepdad was happy we were married (but I think he was happy he did not have to worry about dh anymore - I'm putting that nicely). And dh's dad was happy, he was an alcoholic and I think he felt the same way as stepdad.

Though dh was more responsible than his stepdad or dad, dh was in the Navy at the time. And dh's stepdad and dad would brag about how he grew up to be a fine boy and how they did a wonderful job raising him.

Dh literally raised himself starting in the 7th grade (very long and sad story).

Anyway dh told me (only once) that if his mom were still alive she would have fought us getting married. She was very controlling etc. She had anger issues.

So that's my story. My mom and dad were happy I married dh. They always treated him like one of the family ever since I met him.

By Paulas on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 10:45 am:

Yes and No.

I think they were happy for their son to be married..just not to me!

I had MADE (in their eyes) their only son move across the country so that was a big no no.

My parents were happy. At first my mom thought dh was lazy b/c all Smith's apparently were (LOL) but she was happy I got married before she was gone (she passed away 3 months later). My Dad and dh always had lots in common so they got along great

By Trina~moderator on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 10:46 am:

YES! Both sides were very happy.

By Fionadeassis on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 10:56 am:

Guto's mom(in Brasil) was SO happy.....she always wanted Guto to have a nice wife.....

My parents(and all my relatives)loved Guto so they were very happy too. We got married after being together for only a year but no one thought that was wierd.....

fiona

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 11:11 am:

Both sides were happy.

By Karen~moderator on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 11:16 am:

Mine were thrilled. DH had never been married before, and he was 46 when we got married. My MIL kept telling me over and over and over *I never thought I'd live to see the day....* LOL

By Juli4 on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 08:01 pm:

no my parents were not happy, but could you blame them I was 17. Best decision i ever made though.

His mom went to the psych ward a couple days before and his dad was happy in a way, but then again I don't think he liked the circumstances.

By Kristie on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 08:17 pm:

I don't think my mil was happy. She has a tendancy to be racist against white people (shes hispanic) because of how she was treated growing up by white people. And I am 17 yrs younger than my DH. When we got together I was 20 and he was 37. We had both been married before, and he has kids with his exes. His mom didnt think it would turn out to be any thing serious. When we would go to her house she would say mean things about me to my DH in spanish and then in the same breath ask me in English is we wanted to stay for dinner. Dh told her she would not be seeing him any more if she wouldn't accept me. 3 yrs later I got pregnant, 7 days later he officially proposed, and 3 days after that we got married. She isn't smileing in any of the pictures.
My mom was worried cuz of the age diffrence. (what do 2 people have in common when they are that far apart in age) She was my maid of honor and when she saw how hard Albert was crying when he said his vows she finnally got it. His mom is still hard to be around though.

By Cakekisses324 on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 08:22 pm:

My parents were thrilled. My dh has been married before, and his parents seem to really like me alot. I know that my m.i.l. did not get along at all w/ dh's ex. We dont talk to her too often, but I really feel like we have a good relationship.

By Gammiejoan on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 08:27 pm:

My dh's mother seemed happy for us. She didn't attend the wedding, however, because she lived in Maine and we were married in North Carolina. I don't think she ever traveled further away than an adjoining state her entire life. We did go to Maine on our honeymoon and spent some time with her.

At the time of our marriage, my dh had not had any contact with his father in over twenty years and had no idea where he lived or even if he was alive. His parents had divorced when my dh was three, and he and his siblings had gone into foster care.

My parents were very happy for us. They had met my dh less than five months before we married, but they quickly grew to love him too.

By Kaye on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 08:41 pm:

In a word....NO. My parents were very happy, my hubby is just what they hoped for me. His parents on the other hand were not, first they are divorces, so we had two sets to deal with. FIL and SMIL are both jewish lawyers, they hoped hubby would find a nice jewish, professional girl to settle down with, I did not measure up, small town girl who wanted a family before career (although I do hold a college degree). Anyway it was a bad experience from the engagment to the wedding, nothing measured up for them. As for MIL, her other two children married young and divorced within the first year, she just felt obligated to say something. We were very young, 20 and 22, but he was a college grad and I was half way, it was a good start. Also I grew up quick because of my upbringing, etc. Anyway, she eventually came around, but she was worried. We have now been married almost 13, so people finally are on our side. Of all the kids, my kids fit the mold they both wanted better than the others (we can go out to nice restruants, be seen and not heard, etc) so now they do all think we did the right thing...crazy crazy world!

By Rayanne on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 10:44 pm:

They were very happy. My MIL, just the other day, told me thank you for being such a great wife to her son. It really made me happy to hear that. She apologized for not raising him better, he's not too romantic, (although when we were dating he was) and I told her that it is my turn to train him now. LOL.

By Theresa_Momma on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 11:15 pm:

No, my in laws did not care for me then and they still don't. Actually my FIL likes me but not my MIL. Although dh and I got married when we found out I was pregnant (we had been together for three years and talking about marriage) and my MIL is convinced that I trapped him. AHHH, I don't even want to get started!!

By My2cuties on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 12:05 am:

Well, considering that Dh and I were only together 3 months before we were married, I think my MIL and FIL took it very well. MIL had a harder time with it, but now all she talks about it how happy she is he found someone like me, and I am a good mommy, etc. AWWW! How sweet.

My parents were just ok with it, but they love him now.

It just took everyone a little time to get to know each other. We knew we were in love (and still are) and that is all that mattered to us.

Now we are happy with 2 beautiful girls.

By Imamommyx4 on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 02:45 am:

DH had been married before and had custody of his 3 boys. DH and 3 sons were living with MIL and FIL. MIL liked me but we didn't get along too well to start because I had taken her family away from her. But it got better. I always made sure gifts were gotten for all of the important events and MIL knew it was me even though I made dh present the gifts. And I was always good to her no matter what. She came around.

My mom did not like it one bit that dh was divorced with 3 kids. But she loves him to pieces now bc he's been good to me, good to her and doesn't fuss when I want to do something outlandish for one of my family

By Bellajoe on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 07:31 am:

I know my family was happy.

I think dh family was happy. I think his parents would have been happier if he married an Italian girl though They are immigrants from Italy.

By Feona on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 06:51 am:

Does he mean no one would have been good enough for her baby boy? Some people are like that.

My cousin married a lovely woman. His mother didn't come to the wedding.

By Tink on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 11:06 am:

FIL thought I got pregnant just so his son would marry me, even though we had been engaged for 6 months before dd was conceived. He adores me and his grandchildren now.
MIL was so happy that dh had gotten his life on track and was happy with his choice in wives.
My family was a little concerned. They thought I was too young and dh wasn't in a strong enough place in his life but they liked him, just wanted me to wait until he was a little more "together".
I think everyone is happy with how things have turned out. I know that dh and I are and, really, that is all that matters.

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 12:10 pm:

I think my parents were relieved when "college guy" and I broke up. I don't think they liked him that much.

They love Gary and sometimes when we are all together, I want to tell him to be quiet and let me talk! They are my parents, after all! LOL! He and my parents get along really well and I would rather have this "problem" than a lot of other problems!

I have always gotten along well with his family. I never met his mom, though, since she passed away a year before I met Gary. My SIL got along with her fine, though!

By Yjja123 on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 01:17 pm:

My parents were thrilled. They love John as their own son.
His parents hated me. In particular his mom. I do not know why. I have spent years trying to be the perfect daughter in law and recently have given up. I doubt anyone my husband married would be good enough. His mother is constantly complaining and putting him down. He will be forever the black sheep in her eyes and I guess that makes me one too. The funny thing is we have been happily married 11 years this week and her daughter who married a guy she (mother in law) adored has divorced and now is remarried. They never expected us to last (once again something I do not understand) and we are still going strong. As my mother said "A happy marriage is the greatest revenge for rotten inlaws)
Yvonne

By Cat on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 05:06 pm:

I get along great with my inlaws (well, mil and fil--sil's are another story! lol) and my dh gets along well with my mom (and did with my dad when he was still alive). My mom did tell me a few years ago that while they love my dh and think he's a great guy, they wished all of us (I have two brothers) had married people closer to our own ages. My dh is almost 7 years older than I am, my oldest brother married a girl about 6 years younger than him and my other brother's first wife was I think 9 years older and his current girlfriend (lives with and has a 20 mo old) is about 8 years older. My mil has told me several times I'm good for her son. Dh has told me they didn't particularly like his first wife (they weren't married long). I never met her, so I wouldn't know!

By Insaneusmcwife on Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - 09:00 pm:

We ran away and got married so my dad was a little disappointed. Everyone else took it really well. My dad thought my dh was out for my money (I had recieved a settlement from a car accident). Now he feels really bad about it and spoils him rotten. Sometimes I feel like he has traded me in for dh, lol.

By Bea on Wednesday, October 13, 2004 - 05:46 pm:

Even though he wasn't our religion, my parents thought Karl was a lot better than the other guys I'd brought home. (at least he'd be able to support me) LOL They were fine about us being married. His mother didn't seem to dislike me, but she was a prying, needy person who intruded into our lives, and later said and did hateful things. She was like that with everyone. I didn't take it personally, but I did resolve not to be around her any more than necessary.