Too Sad ...
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Too Sad ...
This past January, my sister in law buried her husband and daughter after their deaths from carbon monoxide poisoning. She and her 13 year old son were just getting their lives in order after narrowly escaping death themselves.
On Tuesday, my sister in law passed away, leaving her son the only surviving member of their family. She was only 37. She suffered from epilepsy and other health problems, some related to the CO2 poisoning.
How devestating to this young boy to lose his family this way! Of course we will be there for him, as will the rest of his extended family.
But truly, what a tragedy!
We've spent the entire week in a daze.
The only good to come of this is to remember how short life is and how in one instant everything changes. All of my "huge" problems now seem very minor to me.
Treat each day as a gift.
Ame
I am so sorry to hear this, Ame. I will be praying for all of you and especially for your nephew.
I will also be praying for your whole family. What a tragedy. Hugs to you and your nephew.
I am at a loss for words. I cannot imagine. Who is going to take care of him? MANY prayers....
I am so sorry about your loss.
My husband and I both lost a parent within months of each other and we attended a class at our church called GRIEFSHARE it really helped.
Also, there is a group (I think) for kids and teenagers offerred by the church called RAINBOWS and it may help your nephew, it is for kids and teenagers who have lost a parent through death or divorce. I know he is devastated. One of the things these groups helped my husband and I to understand is that we were not alone in our anger, depression, bargaining, acceptance, etc. and that other folks had the same thoughts and feelings. I felt abandoned by God and very, very angry and then other times I just felt depression like a physical weight. I even tried to bargain with God "maybe if I am good enough....God will help me feel better...." etc. But mostly I was mad at God for "abandoning" me. These emotions and feelings were pretty overwhelming for me and led me to question my faith but then when I discovered that I was not the only one to feel that way, it helped diffuse the emotion and make it less intense and more manageable.
I am not suggesting that your nephew's situation is not unique, because it is unique and he will probably have to have some major individualized help and support. Whatever your faith, I would suggest your turn to your church and see if someone there might be willing to extend themselves for his sake. I am just saying that sometimes when a person has been dealt such a hard blow it helps to know other folks understand and have had some of the same feelings. Please keep us updated from time to time and I will pray for your family.
Sympathy and prayers to you at this time,
AJ
Thanks to all. Audry, my sister in law and her family were Born Again Christian, and her faith saw her through the death of her husband and daughter. Our nephew is receiving counseling and is under the care of a doctor. Kim,he is living with my husband's older sister and her family, who also share the same faith as our late sister in law, so he does have a strong faith based support system. Fortunately, they live only half an hour away, so we can also be present in his life.
That is heartbreaking. 
Prayers for this little guy.
Oh no! Many prayers for your family and especially for the son.
(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry. With Gods strength her son will make it through.
And (((HUGS))) to the rest of you for the recent tragedies and the strength to make it through, and most of all for creating such a strong support system for this little boy.
This is such a tragedy. My prayers are with this boy and all of you in your loss.
That is really heart breaking. Prayers for your family and specially for this little boy.
Sorry for your loss, I could not imagine what your family is going through, thinking your family.
I'm so sorry, sending many e-hugs and prayers to your family.
That is very sad. Must be terrible to lose your brother, niece and sil. Lots of prayers for the whole family.
I'm so sorry. I am praying for all of your family.
I don't even know what to say. Just be there for him.
Dh grew up in a disfunctional family and he pushed it all inward, never speaking of his mom or dad. Only at the age of 38 and realizing he might die young did it all come out.
Dh works with troubled youth. Audrey J. is right. Your nephew does need outside family there for him also. Sometimes it is easier for some people to talk to nonfamily members about their situations.
How very sad...so sorry for your loss
Thoughts and prayers.
So sorry to hear this!!
So sorry for this poor boy. How sad.
I will be praying for him and for your family.
Thank you for your prayers. Of course it's never a good time for tragedy, but I'm a week away from my due date ... It's been very stressful, and I can't help but be a little sadder that this tragedy has taken a great deal of the joy from the anticipation of our daughter's birth.
Ame
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