A friend of mine offered to take my DD for the day today and have her spend the night. I don't know if I should, she's never been away from me longer than five hours. I think it's more me, I trust her completely, but I don't know.....I know I'd like a break though! This is a hard decision.

By Mommyathome on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 10:57 am:

Your profile says that she's 6 months old. (not sure how long ago that was!) If it were me, I don't think I would do it. I would let her take her for the day and then pick her up tonight.

By Robyn on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 11:13 am:

Personally...I would have her spend the day but I would pick her up tonight!

By Kate on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 11:27 am:

No, I would not do it.

By Karen~moderator on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 11:32 am:

I wouldn't do it either. If this were a close friend, I might be comfortable with letting her take her for a few hours in the daytime, but I wouldn't leave my 6 m/o over night.

By Bea on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 12:12 pm:

I would, if this was someone I knew well and trusted. I guess my generation wasn't as dedicated as you gals are. I took any break I found that wouldn't hurt my child. We lived far from relatives, so I didn't have that option. My husband worked long hours, and went to night school. I needed help to retain my sanity.

By Karen~moderator on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 12:22 pm:

LOL Bea! I think one of the main reasons I feel that way is that both of mine had health issues when they were infants. I guess I was a bit over-protective. But that's the only experience I have to go on.

By Mommmie on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 01:40 pm:

If you trust your friend and you need a break, I say, Go For It. I don't think you get any Life Bonus Points for Never Separating From Your Kids.

My guess is the first time it won't be a pleasant experience for you. You'll worry the whole time and won't enjoy your break. But, if she offers again and then again, you'll be more comfortable with your Break Time.

Maybe your friend sees you are stressed.

By Melana on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 02:14 pm:

OH....LOL she is a year old! My friend called today to say that she can't do it this weekend anyway as her DH is sick and her sister came to visit. So I have a little more time to think about it. Looks like I need to update my profile!

By Happynerdmom on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 02:27 pm:

If she is comfortable around your friend, by all means, take her up on it!! It's not like you are going across the country...if she needed you, you could be there quickly. I was more like Bea...I took advantage of every opportunity to let people watch my kids! (Those I trusted, of course.) Sometimes, especially when you're a sahm, it feels so good to actually MISS them! (Esp. when they get to that toddler stage!)LOL IOM, it's good for the kids, too.

By Dana on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 05:39 pm:

If the friend was like family, I would do it. If something is needed, she can always call you and you could pick your child up.

By Christylee on Saturday, September 4, 2004 - 08:05 pm:

I say go for it! I work weekends and my mom has been watching Brendan overnights since he was 2 months old (of course it is my mom). I can say that once you are away from them for just that little time you'll miss her and feel refreshed when you pick her up.

All of us moms need our batteries recharged and I bet your friend knows that.

By Feonad on Sunday, September 5, 2004 - 07:15 am:

I know lots of people who would do it. If you feel okay about it than do it. You can always change your mind and pick her up.

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, September 5, 2004 - 09:00 am:

I would trust my friend Edie, with my kids overnight, even if they were that young. She is very good with kids. My kids spent an occasional night over at her house, even when they were little.

By Karen~moderator on Sunday, September 5, 2004 - 09:19 am:

OK, in my mind, there's a huge difference between 6 months and 1 year. 1 year - I would possibly do it.