As most of you know we relocated to Southern california 3 years ago. I have been fine for the past year settling in and such. I have made some friends and I truly love the area we are in. Well, this past week some of our family came to visit and we all went to Las Vegas. My husbands parents, his sister(17) brother (23) and his wife. It felt so nice to do things with family again and have help with our own kids. Since we have moved we do everything solo and it feels pretty akward. I was used to my highschool friends that had kids of their own, and going to visit and just hanging out etc.
Since our family left I have looked up housing in our old area which we could afford now if we sold our house here, and low and behold my husbands old job is hiring his exact position! My sister-in-law expressed the fact that she may be able to get me a job at the local hospital there and if not the lady that employes my mom would hire me a few days a week to take care of her mother. So, we would have two incomes there! I need to go back to school, but here I could only go the spring semester of every year because of my husbands schedule and working is near impossible because of my children's schedule. The schools in our old area are only good for grammar school and then they really turn horrible. That is one of the main reasons we relocated. Last night hubby and I spoke and he has really noticed a decline in my health and my weight in the past 3 years. He truly believes it is the stress of the move and such. But he says we should suck it up because our kids have great schools, and the area is much more upscale then where we used to live. I think I may just be sensitive this last few weeks because I was sent for an ultrasound of my kidneys, liver and ovaries and the results aren't in yet. I'm nervous about my health, and our life and it just seems overwhelming! If you read this far, thanks for listening to me ramble!

By Eight_Kids on Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 02:07 pm:

(((((hugs))))) to you!!!!
If it really seems like something you think you might be interested in....moving I mean...I don't necessarily think the school thing would hold you back. I live in West Virginia..the middle school here is on some kind of 2 year probation and listed as a school of choice...not the best school you could possibly send your kids too I guess but I have a 17yo who finished her junior year with a 4.4 and a 13yo who got inducted into the Jr. Nat'l Honor Society this year with a 3.6 and a 6yo who is starting first grade this year...I have been advised by 2 teachers to look into a gifted program for her. I think school is what you make of it and how much time YOU put into it with your kids. I'm not sure I'd let that be a drawback. Depending on the kids ages why couldn't you ask them how they would feel about it.
Hope things work out for you!!

By Sue3 on Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 02:28 pm:

(((((Stori)))))

Ramble on , that is what we are here for.When do you get your test results back? (soon I hope).
I know what you mean about doing everything solo also.We only moved 40 miles away from family
and they make it seem like we moved 2oo!
So we don`t see them as often or nearly enough.
I bet you had a great time in Vegas.
Maybe you could go home and visit soon?
I bet that would lift your spirits.
Did your kids start school yet?
I am sort of dreading it because I won`t know what to do with my time!LOL.
I`ll know what to do , it`s just that I will have to adjust to a different schedule AGAIN !
Well I hope your feeling better and let us know about your test results.
You took a big step just getting tested ,most people (myself included) just shrug it off or think it will pass.
and moving IS a huge stress on people.
We have lived here for 6 years and I finally now just feel settled.
That`s a long time.Plus you don`t have the support of family close by ( a major stress also).
I think you should go get a massage !
Why not?
I wonder how much they cost?I might just look into that also.

By Melanie on Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 03:54 pm:

((((HUGS))))

I know I have asked you this before, but where were you before you moved? There are quite a few towns around the Bay Area with excellent school districts. I would explore all the options as I know how much you have missed it ever since you moved.

I hope you feel better soon.

By Mrse on Tuesday, August 17, 2004 - 04:08 pm:

I think, you should definately go home for a visit, you are home sick. We have never moved more than 20 min from our family, and I always wanted to move, but dh said I would not be able to hack it since I am very close to my family, and I know he is right. If the your dh thinks the move caused your health problems I think the subject of moving home should be put back on the table, because what good is living so far away, new house etc,, if you are sick?, It sounds like to me, that it would be an excellent opportunity to move back especially if the jobs are their, talk to him again, tell him how important it is to you. Maybe he could just enquire about his old job, etc.. Thinking of you, now hope all turns out in your favor.