My mom and I were talking and we decided that any floral arraignment or something like that for my aunts funeral would be a waste of money. Neither of my cousins would take care of them and my uncle wouldn't want it. So we were thinking of making a memorial contribution to the American Diabetes Association in my aunts name. We'd have the card sent to my uncle because we have no idea where either of my cousins live. They'll be in contact with him so they'll learn of it through him. Her funeral is Friday afternoon. My mom asked my uncle how the girls were doing and he told her the same as when my grandparents died--horrible. I remember my grandfather's funeral (when I was in high school) and they had to take the younger sister out because she was such a mess (she was about 14 at the time and had to get special permission to even come because she was in a hospital on suicide watch). It was awful. I can only imagine what my aunt's funeral is going to be like.

So do you think that'd be appropriate?

By Emily7 on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 - 10:13 pm:

I think it is a great idea & very thoughtful.

By Rayelle on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 - 10:25 pm:

I think that is a wonderful idea. I had an aunt and uncle doe from complications of diabetes and that is what their families did in lieu of flowers.

By Rayelle on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 - 10:26 pm:

I meant to say aunt and uncle "die" not doe but I don't know how to fix it.

By Crystal915 on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 - 11:24 pm:

That is a wonderful idea, very appropriate.

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 - 11:33 pm:

Sounds like a great idea!

By Reds9298 on Thursday, January 24, 2008 - 08:12 am:

Very appropriate. We almost always make a donation instead of doing flowers when there's a death of a family member. I really think it seems more meaningful.

By Happynerdmom on Thursday, January 24, 2008 - 08:19 am:

Ditto the others. Great idea.

By Karen~admin on Thursday, January 24, 2008 - 09:03 am:

Totally appropriate. MANY people, at lesat in my area, prefer that in lieu of flowers, and state it in the obit. I have made contributions on behalf of a number of people who have passed away, and when my own mom passed away 3 years ago, I did the same thing.

I gotta say, something that always amazes and puzzles me is, even when an obit or the family specifically says they prefer donations in lieu of flowers, it's amazing how many people flood the family with flowers anyway.

By Tunnia on Thursday, January 24, 2008 - 09:58 am:

I think it is a wonderful idea!

By Cat on Thursday, January 24, 2008 - 12:03 pm:

Thanx, everyone. We (my brothers, mom and I) did go ahead and contribute in her name. My uncle will get a card from the American Diabetes Association in her name.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Thursday, January 24, 2008 - 11:09 pm:

Great idea Cat. (((BIG HUGS)))

And Karen, I do not get that either.

By Bea on Friday, January 25, 2008 - 01:15 am:

I think it's a great way to remember your aunt, Cat, but, if he doesn't mention the donation to you, be sure to follow up. They are notorious for not sending the family the notification of your donation.