Worst Day Ever!
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Worst Day Ever!
I just have to complain about my day... I have had a rough one. First of all, I had a job interview today. I am trying to get a receptionist job or something part time instead of waiting tables (I've been doing that way too long). Anyways, I woke up sick and feeling horrible. I went to the doctor and I have a severe sinus infection. But, I took tons of sinus medicine and went to the interview anyways. When I get there, the guy who interviewed me was such a jerk! He only talked to me for a couple minutes, and the entire time her berated me! He said that he couldn't believe I expected him to pay me for a job I wasn't qualified for. Then he said I should just stick to the restaurant business. He also made some comment about childcare and who would be taking care of my son while I worked. Like I didn't even consider that facet of the job! I barely got out of there without crying. Once in the car though, I let loose. I don't know how I even drove home.
It just made me so angry and depressed. I got pregnant unexpectedly, before I finished college. My husband wants me to go back to school, but I'm not ready yet. I just wanted to find a decent, part-time job that would let me spend time with my baby. And now I just don't have the motivation to look.
I had always planned on having a good job with good money, and I didn't want my son to worry about money at a young age like I did. My mom didn't make much (she did the best she could) and I could tell she worried, which upset me. I don't want that for my son, but I am starting to think I have nothing else to offer him.
Sorry this is so long... and sorry for any typos.. I am too upset to type correctly!
(((Jelygu))))
I'm so sorry for your terrible day. I hope your sinus infection soon clears.
And I'm so sorry about the interview.
The only thing I can say is when you interview, it is best to know the person (how they are up front) then you will know how it is to work for them.
He doesn't know what he lost, but it is best not to work for someone like that, I did (for 15+ years).
I know you'll find something, chin up, saying a prayer for you
Jennifer, sorry to hear about your miserable day. On the positive side, it is a blessing in disguise that you will not be working for someone like THAT! Does not sound like it would have been a very happy, positive, upbeat place to work at. I don't think he had any business asking you about childcare. Telling you that you should "stick to the restaraunt business", my my. Be happy that you didn't get the job! Let it slide, your not well, so of course that doesn't help the situation, concentrate on getting better! I'm sure you will find something eventually, mabey take a couple evening courses to upgrade your resume. Your baby is so young, and you are so young. Give yourself a pat on the back for going to the interview period, most people would have probably canceled.
Jennifer, that guy was a jerk. One thing I always hated to hear when I was younger was that I didn't have the experience. How in the H**L was I supposed to get experience if no one was willing to train me. I vowed when I became an employer that those words would never come out of my mouth. Guess what though, now that I am older the words I hate to here is that I have to much experience!
Lynn is right, at least he saved you the pain of having to work for his sorry A**. Keep looking, there is something out there.
Bless your heart! What a jerk asking illegal questions like that. Poop on him. You're better off not working there.
How much college do you have? How close are you to graduating?
I was a waitress for about 10 years (most recently was 10 years ago). Waitressed my way through a Bachelors degree and grad school. It's a good money, but hard!!!
Keep looking. Hang in there. Don't let one jerk get you down. When I was interviewing for my first paralegal job I emotionally detached myself from the process. The attorney on the phone who said, "I need to know how old you are before I can tell you if I'm hiring" I hung up on and never looked back. The attorney who returned my call at 9:45pm, I told him I was no longer interested in the position and never thought about it again. I just kept going. Stay focused. I kept my eye on the ball. I got an offer after 2 weeks at a firm with NO dress code, NO set hours, FREEDOM to attend school functions during the day no questions asked, full benefits, my own office, a great easy going boss who'd rather be home with his kids and TOP salary. So keep your chin up. You're interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. You deserve the best! You deserve the perfect opportunity!
I am sorry you had such a bad day but please don't let one person discourage you. Just because you wait tables certainly does not mean you are not qualified to work in an office. I waited tables when I was in college and then I went to work in an office.
There is something out there for you, please don't give up.
Thanks for all the support. I feel much better now, thanks to all your comments and reactions from my family. (I had to keep my husband from calling the guy!)
I have almost 4 years of college under my belt, but I never went full time (I was also working full time). So I probably have 1 to 1 1/2 years to go. Not too bad, but still kind of long considering how slowly I will have to go. My major is elementary ed, which is also not good because of the state of the education system in Alabama (no jobs, no money, etc).
Anyway, I am going to start the search again, and if nothing turns up I will probably stick to waiting tables until I get through with college.
What a jerk - and speaking about your childcare arrangements is illegal.
Time for a little role play before your next interview.
If another interviewer starts something like that jerk, you politely say "I came here to interview for a job. It is clear that you don't want to do a serious interview. Thank you for your time." And get up and leave. There is no rule that says you have to sit there and be insulted just because the interviewer is a jerk.
Now, take a look at your resume. If most of your work has been waitressing, just list the dates and employers. Then do a list of skills from other things - school, volunteer work, etc. For instance, handling people in person and on the telephone is one of the most important parts of being a receptionist - is there something in your life history where you had a chance to use people-handling skills? If so, list it, i.e., Volunteer work with XXX doing XXX.
As for learning a particular phone system, that takes 15 minutes, tops. If you are asked what phone systems you have worked with, you honestly say - I haven't worked with any commercial phone system but I am a quick learner and believe I can learn to operate your system in a short time. I'm sure I'm not the first person who would have to be taught your particular system, as there are so many different systems in use these days and many differences between them.
Good points Ginny.
I can't believe that guy would speak to you like that. He was aware of your experience from your resume/application so if he felt you weren't qualified he should not have called for an interview.
Does he have a boss? If so, I might consider calling and reporting this incident. How awful!
Hang in there!
if you have that background in el ed, have you considered working part time in a day care or preschool..maybe you could even have your son with you..that is how I got back into teaching after my children..worked in a preschool and brought them along..the money is not always great, but I never had child care expenses..best wishes to you and I agree with everyone else..you dont need to work for a guy like that
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