My dh has been putting in for leave now for over a month. He was supposed to have the first 2 weeks of July off and then they asked him to take the last 2 weeks cuz someone had an emergency in the states. Okay i understand...well now it was the last 2 weeks. Today they now have asked him to wait till august cuz someone else really wants leave now..no specific reason given. UGGHHH i am pregnant and would really like to go on vacation before i get to far along. The worst part is that August is when the British kids are out for summer before moving up a grade and the travel place that has bben patient enough changing everything says that its virtually impossible to get reservations anywhere in August by now. So thats great...we get to spend our vacation sitting around the house if he doesn't stand up for himself and say that he put in first so the other guy is out of luck, he thinks the other guy wants these 2 weeks for the same reason. I need a vacation..i am going out of mind cooped up in the house! My kids are driving me nuts wanting to go out and do all this stuff!


Thanks for letting me vent...no one here to listen, lol!

By Ladypeacek on Monday, July 12, 2004 - 10:27 am:

I am not done, lol....i have been killing myself cleaning all day, pulling out furniture, ovens, refriderator...ect. For all my efforts my dk's (andi don't mean dear) have come right behind me and tore it all up again. My ds just pulls out anything i put away. my dd is just throwing fits cuz she does not want to help cuz this is summer and summer is kids time to play not to clean...uggghhhhhhhh..then of course my dh calls with the news of postponing my vacation AGAIN.. I think i might just go insane. I can literally feel my blood pressure sky rocketing at this very moment. My ds got his hand smacked for taking his food and throwing it and now wnats to be up my butt. I can't believe i agreed to have another one! I am so stresses i just want dh to get home so i can leave, i have not had an hour to myself since ds was born 2 years ago. We have not even gone out without the kids but atleast dh goes to work for 8 hours!

Okay i think i am done for now..if not i could go on forever at this point!!!!!!!

By Amy~moderator on Monday, July 12, 2004 - 03:07 pm:

Kenna - I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. My dh says he doesn't get any time away either. I say at least you get to get out of the house - regardless of what you are doing. I look forward to dentist appointments or going to the grocery (he keeps all 3 kids) because I can at least get some alone time without having to stop and do something for someone else ever 10 minutes. You should find something to get involved in - or at least set up some time for you at least once a week where your dh keeps the kids and you go shopping or to the library to read or SOMETHING, if you know what I mean.

Regarding dh's leave, I know how that is with the military. My grandma's 80th birthday party was this past Saturday night. My dh was ON LEAVE and they called him in the day before her party because the guys were coming in from Iraq that day. Fine, no big deal. I took it in stride. But what killed me was that they told him they would be working all weekend - well Sat and Sun he was "on call", but no one called him. So, technically we could have travelled the 5 hours to her party and back, and no one would have even known. So, basically I missed her party for nothing! Ugh, it kills me - but that is the military for you.

Your dh should try to be a tad more assertive and explain your situation. That may not help, but its better than getting walked all over. I hope your day starts to improve. Go sit in your bedroom for 5 minutes and think. Consider that everything that has happened today is not going to kill you or ruin your life. It is actually not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. Take a deep breath and go out and try again to have a good day. I hate the days where you just keep getting knocked back down. Hopefully things will get better. (((Kenna)))

By Emily7 on Monday, July 12, 2004 - 03:25 pm:

I have the same problem with my dh. He thinks work is not time away. It sucks.

By Tink on Monday, July 12, 2004 - 08:52 pm:

I'm so sorry that your having such a bad day. I hate busting my rear just to have it torn up. I can literally go to the bathroom and come out to a disaster. It is infuriating! Can you take the time that your ds is down for a nap or in bed for the night to read, paint your toenails (while you can still reach! LOL), or do something else that is just for you? I give my dd a list of things I expect her to do on her days off and tell her that it has to be done before bed that day or she has to do it before breakfast the next day. It could be worth a try with yours. Sometimes nothing helps and you just have to get through the day without doing anything that could have result in CPS being called! Hugs to you, Kenna! I think we have all BTDT and can sympathize.