Hello everyone, well my oldest daughter is graduating this saturday!! My sister is making the dress, it is a dark blue. We are just in the final stages, of getting everything prepared, we are now trying to find some bobby pins with diamonds on them, ( which is proving hard to find!) after the grad dance the kids are all going on a cruise. It is called the dry grad crusie, their is a ferry that they go on, and their is activities to do on the boat, like games, and a bucking bull, you can ride. My dd, went last year as a guest, and really had a lot of fun, so that is what she wants to do for her grad.In october she is going to start college,she is going to be a home maker, looking after the elderly in a home. She is doing her volunteer time right now, and she seems to really enjoy it.
Just think in two years, we will be going through all this for my next daughter, two years after that my sister's daughter , and two years after that my youngest daughter. MY dh's mother is making every excuse in the book why she can not go to the ceremony, she said she is going out of town but we know better, my dd is very upset. When my dd called her to tell her the date and time, she said oh, I am invited?? acted like she was going, then backed out. But this is all the story of our lives, she always thinks that just because the other grandparents are going, that that is good eneough. very dissapointing, but you know we seen it coming!!

By Emily7 on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 10:22 am:

Its her loss. I am sorry that this has to happen on an important day. Maybe your MIL feels insecure around your parents, that is no excuse, just a thought.
Congrats to your daughter!!

By Bellajoe on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 11:00 am:

Why wouldn't a grandmother not want to see her grand daughter graduate? That makes no sense to me at all.

Congrats to your daughter! Sounds like a fun time for her!

By Rayanne on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 11:52 am:

Form the boby pins, buy some rinestones from a store, like Michaels, and glue them on.
It is her loss, and I am sorry.
Cngratulations to your daughter.

By Kernkate on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 12:50 pm:

Congrats to your DD My oldest son will graduate on Friday June 11th. Isn't it all so exciting!
As for your MIL it is her loss and I can not imagine why she wouldn't want to go. I have my relatives calling me to see if their is enough tickets for graduation. My DS will get 9 tickets for graduation 3 reserved and 6 general.And its just not enough for everyone.
Have a great time on Saturday.

By Bea on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 04:16 pm:

Stupid Grandma. It's her loss. Enjoy your daughter's wonderful day and don't give Grannie another thought.

By Mrse on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 04:22 pm:

HI, I talked to mil today, and I told her I was getting extra tickets, just in case she changed her mind, she said the reason why, she does not want to go is because she feels so fat, and she hates getting pictures taken of herself. I told her that, we promise not to ask her for a picture , and not to buy a grad present for my dd, that her going to the graduation would be her present, of course she is still humming and haweing, about it, but well we tryed. I did tell her that if she does not go, she better not go to the other grandchilderens graduation, or my dd will be really upset!! anyway, we were aloud 8 tickets, and put on a list for as many more as you wanted, I just called the school, and their was no problem getting the other two tickets. It is a small grad class 250 students, so they have lots of tickets available the school said.
I will have to go on that search tonight for thoses diamond's ( not real lol) to go on the bobby pins, we do not have a michael's here, that store is two hours away from here, so I will have to search here first. I will keep you updated as to how it all turns out, and I will try to post a picture of dd, with her dad and I. thankyou for all the well wishes.

By Kay on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 04:26 pm:

I put up hair all the time for my daughters and their friends....I've gotten my rhinestoned bobby pins at the accessory places like Claire's or Afterthoughts.

By Tink on Wednesday, June 2, 2004 - 09:46 pm:

Any craft or fabric store should have rhinestones if you really can't find them. I can often find them at drugstores in the hair accessories area. Good luck and I'm glad that MIL is being a little more open to the idea of going. I'll keep my fingers crossed.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 01:21 am:

YEAH for DD....... You go mom!!!!!!

By Mrse on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 02:52 am:

Ok, after my talk with mil this afternoon, she is definatley coming!! my dd is relieved, ( what she told me). I told mil, no pictures of her, and she can run out the back as soon as dd, goes up to get her diploma. The other thing that could have presaded her, was we invited her best friend to go, to the grad, and she excepted. The funny thing is, mil friend is well up in her 80's and when I talked to her about it, she said she would go, etc.. but I found out from mil, once I had told her we invited her friend, and they had talked, she thought that we had invited her to a garage sale, not a graduation, lol. TOOOOOOOO funny!!!! she is more excited to find out it was a graduation, than a garage sale. Most likley more updates to come. lol

By Dmom on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 02:58 am:

I am just glad she is going. That's great news.

By Palmbchprincess on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 07:15 am:

Congrats to your DD!!! Glad everything worked out with MIL. You must be so proud of your DD, be sure to post pictures!!!!

By Kernkate on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 07:26 am:

Glad she has decided to go. You said your DD class is small with 250 students. My sons graduating class has 47. You must have a very big school district.
Best of luck finding those diamonds

By Peggy13 on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 09:13 am:

My oldest daughter graduated last year from h.s. (just finished her Freshman year in college) - my MIL probably didn't even know she graduated - she really has nothing to do with my children (she only lives 4 hours away, and always has the excuse she can't travel). We see her maybe once a year, but my kids don't know her - so it's better off anyway her not coming (husband doesn't seem to care either). She sends no birthday cards, nothing - not even to her own son. Very strange woman!

By Mrse on Thursday, June 3, 2004 - 09:41 am:

Yes, I am really proud of my daughter, she has it together alot better than alot of her friends. I told my girl's the three of them, that I am putting their dipolma's up on the wall with their grad picture, I told them all I have the spot all picked out. So while thier friends are quitting school, they know that how much it means to me to have them graduate especially because of the way the world is now. Yes I find my mil very strange also, but she has had this thing about going to functions, she said that she had made up her mind along time ago that she was only going to go to funeral's. I told dh that I was going to tell her the next time that she really should be showing people the respect when they are alive, and not to wait untill they are gone.( I think it would mean alot more).We went for another dress fitting for my daughter, it is really coming alone nice. I am going to talk to dd, and get her to buy a card for my sister and put some mushy stuff in it, just to let her know how much dd appreciates all the time and effort she put into the dress.
Did not get a chance to look for the hair pins yet, last night I went to sann's and got some dress slacks and shoes, so my outfit is done, but middle dd, decided last night at bed time that she needs new pants as well, so here we go again. Time is running out, and money is getting thin, but we should be able to pull it all off.

By Kernkate on Saturday, June 5, 2004 - 07:56 am:

Best of luck today at your DD's graduation! Take lots of pictures!

By Karen~moderator on Saturday, June 5, 2004 - 08:02 am:

Congrats to your DD! And I hope her grandmother does go.

As for the hairpins, definitely check an accessories shop like Claire's or Afterthoughts - they always carry that type of stuff.

Also, some of the larger department stores have them too. We bought some over 15 years ago that we still have!

By Emily7 on Saturday, June 5, 2004 - 08:26 am:

I hope all goes well today. Congrats again!

By Amecmom on Saturday, June 5, 2004 - 09:36 am:

Congrats on today. You certainly worked very hard to make it come together. I hope all goes well.
Ame

By Mrse on Sunday, June 6, 2004 - 01:48 pm:

Well it is all over now, oh by the way mil, did not bother to show up, she came earlier in the day and gave dd, a gold ring and 100 dollars. She said she was going, but did not bother her excuse was that her dh had a dizzy spell, driving up the road to the school, so they thought they better not go. dd, was looking for her in the crowd, and was so upset.So that is it. She is not going to be invited to anything anymore and I mean nothing.
Anyway....... dd looked beautiful, they had a grad parade they all came in old vehicles, my dd was in the back of a truck with all her girlfriends, they did the ceremony, which was 2 hours then we had snacks, the grad dance then they took off to the grad crusie. My sister and I went into the dance long enough to get a picture of the crowd dancing, and we went out to the ferry that the kids were crusing on, got a picture with dd and all her friends and the boat. My sister is making dd, a grad photo album with all the pictures from the night.
Yesterday I bought a thankyou card, as I was waiting for my hair appointment, I started to write in the card, well I broke down bawling, so I had to stop and wait untill I got home. When I got home, dd was getting ready I finished the card gave it to dd to give to my sister, well I was out the living room, and I heard this hysterical crying coming from the bedroom, ( the card worked!!) but of course as I heard her crying I started up again, it was a very emotional day/night and we are all exhausted. dd had a great time, she is sound a sleep on the couch right this min. I will post a picture when i get them back. thankyou for all the congrat's

By Emily7 on Sunday, June 6, 2004 - 05:04 pm:

That really sucks that she didn't stay. I feel bad for your dd & dh, I imagine that hurt him too. It sounds like the rest of the day went good though. Can't wait to see the pictures.

By Pamt on Sunday, June 6, 2004 - 06:01 pm:

Congrats to your DD! Sounds like a wonderful day of celebration!