A Little Vent About Moving
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A Little Vent About Moving
We are moving today!!!!! (yes-I shouldn't be on the computer-but everyone is still asleep and I thought I would have a little 'me' time before all Hell breaks loose!)...
As most of you know, I am about 36 weeks pregnant and this is a hard move for me.
That being said-we have a lot of great friends coming here to help today!!
We went a barbeque last night put on by one of the couples who are helping us. My Dh is Brasilian.All thes people are from Brasil-and they are SO NICE and so helpful.
My vent?
One guy who is helping comes up to me and says...I hope it is ok for me to leave my daughter with you(she is 3) while I help you move......
My mouth dropped in shock......how can I babysit a 3 year old when I am heavily pregnant and trying to move and clean? All the food is packed..90% of the toys are packed....there are boxes and sharp things all over the place..we would have to leave the tv and couch and stuff till the last minute so she could have somewhere to sit and something to do....
I am getting my parents to watch Ds(who is 4) because I don't want him around for this. So I told the dad-"No. Eliah is going to be gone and I don't know where I will be-either at the new house or the old house or what".....I told him nicely.....he understood and said he would try to find someone to watch her...(his wife is out of town-I am sure she would KILL him if she knew what he wanted me to do).
To make matters WORSE!!!!! On our way out I was saying goodbye to another Brasilian guy-and he says-"Oh-I will see you tomorrow.....you don't mind watching my kids right?" !!!!!!!!!!!!!
I tried to tell him the same thing-but he got kind of mad! (I think he was a little drunk). He is the kind of guy who is very nice and helpful-but flies off the handle easily and gets his nose out of joint! His 2 kids are 8 and 10. They are nice kids, and pretty easy to keep amused-but I have no food, no treats, and no time to deal with a bunch of kids!!
Has ANYONE every heard of such a thing? Running a daycare in the middle of a move when you are pregnant? Now I am wondering just how many kids are showing up at my disasterous house today? Maybe someother guys just forgot to mention it to me?
Don't get me wrong-I am so grateful for them coming here and helping me-but I can't belive that they think I can move,clean, and babysit all these kids in a house that is full of boxes and garbage and stuff(I am a very disorganized mover)..
There-that's me venting!!!!!!!!
I am sure that Dh was telling ALL of them..."Sure! Sure! Bring your kids! Fiona can watch them all!!-OH-your not bringing your kids? Why not bring them over- they will have fun! The more the merrier!" (this is the kind of thing my Dh does all the time!) LOL!!!!
fiona (yes I am done venting-I will now go tackle my kitchen)...
Geez.......first of all, you need to give DH a clue! LOL NOW, before they all arive! Maybe he was assuming that you wouldn't be doing much since everyone was coming to help. He probably doesn't realize the stress you are feeling, being pregnant, moving, etc.
If I were you, I'd stick to my guns about not watching anyone else's kids today. Be nice but firm. You could even say something like *I'm sorry if DH misunderstood what *I* would be doing today, but I cannot be responsible for anyone's child today. I really appreciate your help but if this means you aren't able to help today, then I understand.* You can do something special for all these people who helped you move AFTER you are settled in. If they get offended, OH WELL!
BTW..........take it easy on yourself today, and good luck! I hope everything goes smoothly.
I agree with Karen. I hate when people assume things. They should have asked you a few weeks ago! I guess if the kids show up you could always entertain them by handing them a dust rag!LOL
I totally agree with Karen. If any children show up and you are expected to watch them, tell the parent just what Karen suggested: "I'm sorry if DH misunderstood what *I* would be doing today, but I cannot be responsible for anyone's child today. I really appreciate your help but if this means you aren't able to help today, then I understand." This sounds very polite, but gets your point across. My dh and I have moved 8 times in the past 4 years, and all 8 times we had our children with us. Let me tell you - you DO NOT want to be babysitting on your moving day. And you are pregnant! I DON'T think so! Please, Fiona, take it easy today. Do what you can, don't push yourself. And good luck, I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible. 
Update-just one kid right now(the 3 year old). She is keeping Ds very busy and happy right now so it is ok. I cant send the guy and his kid home(they drove from far away). his 11 yr old daughter is also coming-she is with them picking up the truck.her soccer was cancelled. so I will have 4 kids(5-if my parents dont come pick up Ds soon!).....
Fiona!!! I can't believe they brought their kids after you told them you wouldn't watch them!
I bet you can't wait until this is over. (((Fiona))) 
How did the move go? How many kids did you end up with? I can't believe they did that to you! Its nice that they helped, but you should not of been expected to watch them!
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Hope everything is okay, Fiona!
Wow! I am stunned! I hope the move is going well! Those guys better have moved some really HEAVY stuff to make up for the babysitting!
One word for you MEN!!!! You can't live with them....
Honestly, i am not surprised. I'm appalled, but not surprised. They probably thought you would be lounging all day with nothing to do while they moved your stuff! They just don't have a brain in their heads sometimes. Where are the mothers of these kids? Do they know that you are watching their kids 7 months pregnant on moving day??
Fiona, take it easy today. Try not to stress out, it will be over soon and you will be settled into your new house. Sorry to hear about the babysitting thing, that is ridiculous!
Maybe it's a cultural thing. DH should be telling them to wise up. I hope it all goes smoothly. Don't do too much.
I believe Bea is right. It is probably a culture thing.
everyone is right that is tooo hard on you !1 iwas not preg when we moved the first time & with kids is was SOOOOO hard. the last time that we moved i was 32 weeks & no kids & it was H*ll!!!!
good luck !
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