What is Military Base Housing?
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What is Military Base Housing?
I honestly have no idea what this is or what it looks like. I realize it's housing funded by the military, but is it a whole block of homes? Is it a group of apartment buildings? What is 'base'? Are they generally nice homes? Small homes? Large homes? Just really curious!!
It really depends on the base/post what kind of housing it is and how nice it is. A "Base" is what the Air Force calls its installations. Like Peterson Air Force Base is where my dh is officially stationed. A "Post" is usually what the Army calls its installations (we were once stationed at Ft. George G. Meade--refered to as "post"--dh was in a tiny Air Force office there) It also depends on wether or not it's officer or enlisted housing. (officer housing tends to be nicer) It's really like any other neighborhood, it's just on a military instalition. They have single homes, duplexes (what we had in Montana), town houses (what we had in Maine, Panama and Maryland) and fourplexes (my brother lived in one in Lousinia--two on bottom, two on top). All the ones we've ever lived in have been nice (although in Panama they were small--3 bedroom was only about 900 square feet). Our house in Montana was by far the nicest we lived in on base. It was about 1200 square feet (finished--full unfinished basement), all hard wood floor and attached garage. I know when we were stationed at Ft. Meade in Maryland years ago when we first got married we rented off post because the housing there was what was considered "sub-standard" and people still got partial housing allowance to live there. They were townhouses that had nails holding tiles down, paint peeling off the walls, etc. I don't think they're still there now and I don't know if the Army still has any like that. The way it works is if you decide to live off base (if you're eligiable--single lower ranking people usually have to live in the dorms) the military pays you what's called BAH or Basic Allowence for Housing. Sometimes it covers your rent/mortgage, sometimes it doesn't. If it doesn't, you have to pay the difference. If you choose to live in base housing, you don't get that money, but you don't have a house payment/rent. There's been talk for years that the military may change that (pay everyone BAH and charge people rent that live on base), but nothing has come of that-yet. We'll have to wait and see. My dh has been in the Air Force for 19 years this summer and we've been married 12 (this past Feb). This is the first time we've bought a home. We've always lived on base until this assaingment. Here we rented for a year and then bought. SOOOO, anyway, you asked. I hope I answered any questions you may have had. The military is a different world and sometimes it's hard for "civilians" to understand.
I use to live on base housing and it all depends on the base you are at and which house you get put in. But I think Cat explained it the best...its differnt everywhere you go. I personal didnt like the house we were put into but now we own our own so I dont have to worry about it.
The base housing on the two military installations that we have lived on was very nice to me. They were very spacious, with self-help or maintenance available for repairs/problems. We live in a 4 bedroom now, which gives each of our boys their own room. The last base house we lived in (the one that caught fire) even had an extra living room which we made our office, as well as a HUGE internal storage room that we made into a playroom for the kids. I love living on base. It's closer to my dh's work, and it's much cheaper than living off base and you get more than your moneys worth.
So, they look like normal houses on normal streets in normal neighborhoods then? Is there anything that would give it away that it's military? Or it just looks totally suburban and typical? Also, if you're really high ranking, do you get a fancy house in a civilian neighborhood, or do even the high ranking people live in fancy houses on fancy bases? Sorry for my ignorance and if I sound obnoxious!! I'm just really clueless and curious. Thanks!!
They look like normal houses on normal streets on normal neighborhoods. The houses on a street typically look similar, though not exactly alike. Everything looks pretty normal around here, LOL High ranking officers get much nicer (and bigger) houses, but they still live on base. And I don't think there are any *fancy* bases, LOL
Oh, and don't feel obnoxious or ignorant, I didn't know anything at all about things like this when my dh joined the military.
Sorry to post again, but I was just wondering what sparked your interest?
Amy, I'm not sure what sparked my interest tonight! Truthfully I've wondered all along since posts from you and Crystal, and when you moved and described getting a four bedroom this time around....I just began wondering exactly what military housing was! So I finally posted. Now, the bigger, nicer houses for the higher ranking people...are they in the same 'neighborhood' as everyone else? Are there better neighborhoods for the higher ups? Or are there lots of different sized homes on one street? If you have civilian friends who want to visit you, can they just drive on over or do they need special clearance? Do you have a gate and you have to tell the gateman in advance that you're expecting so and so? If that's the case, how do friends just 'drop in'? OH, I know what sparked it TONIGHT! It was your post mentioning the kids playing on your outdoor toys! I wondered the set up. Now, how does it work in other countries?? Are there still bases with houses on them? Or are people scattered in civilian neighborhoods? Is the only way to get in a civilian neighborhood to do what Cat mentioned and forego the base housing and take an allowance or whatever and get your own civilian home? Thanks to all who responded!!
I can chime in here as a military wife of a higher ranking officer. My DH is a Lt. Col. and we have lived on Army posts or have been in lots of houses on post when we lived off post. My DH is a Reservists so, though we have only lived on two posts, he has traveled a lot and we have seen lots of post houses. Here on Ft. Lewis, a very few Majors, most Lt. Col., and all Col. and above live in brick colonial houses of at least four bedrooms. These houses have full basements, screened porches off the living rooms and master bedrooms, a maid quarters (and, no, no one has maids anymore, so these become the guest rooms or another bedroom), large country kitchens, hardwood floors throughout, lovely stairwells with banisters that overlook the entry hallway, lovely multipaned windows throughout, huge master suite, double garages in the back on the alley, nice lawns on front and a sidewalk that runs through the neighborhood. Really, really lovely homes and neighborhoods. Now, in Germany, it was another story all together. First, if you were a "new" Col. or below, you lived in what is called stairwell living. Stairwell living is just like some project housing I've seen in the US. Plain, ugly concrete buildings with two stairwells and either 2,3, or 4 bedroom apts. based on how many children you have living with you. Laundry rooms are in the basement, sometimes 4 stories down. Hopefully, you get a parking space for your one car in the parking lot in front of your building at the end of the day. There are dishwashers in the remodeled quarters. These quarters were, without a doubt, the ugliest things ever. So, even with a higher rank, life differs from post to post. Just my experience.
Kate, the higher ranking people's houses are seperate from the lower ranking. We have a term in the military; RHIP--it means Rank Has It's Privilages. They get bigger, better houses with bigger yards, etc. Most base housing is pretty much the same house over and over on the block. There may be several differnt kinds on one base, but usually each neighborhood will be lots of the same. Like when we lived in Montana, we lived in a duplex--one of many on about 8 streets of all the same. There was another area of base that was townhouses. And there was yet another that I think was modular homes. In Panama there were two different kinds of housing in two different areas. If civilians want to come on base, yes, you need to clear them to do so. It used to just involve a call to the gate, but I haven't cleared anyone to get on base since 9/11 so that may have changed to a trip in person to the gate. They can't just 'drop in'. Some bases do have housing off base. Andrew's did (Maryland). I never went there, so I don't know if it was a gated community or not. It wasn't a mix of military and civillian, though. So if you want to lived in a mixed neighborhood, yes, you have to choose to live off base and buy or rent. There are several military people in my neighborhood. There are three Air Force bases, not including Cheyene Mt and an Army base within 45 minutes of my house. I enjoyed living on base. There's an atmosphere there that I'm just not getting where I live now. Yes, I have a lot more privacy now, but I don't have as many friends and even though there are a lot of military here, there are also a lot of civillians, and like I said, it's a different world and most don't understand. Especially when a spouse is deployed or something like that. Dh retires next year, so I'd better get used to this civillian life again. We'll still have base privilages (like shopping, etc), unless we move far enough away from a base to not make it worth the drive. I was just telling someone yesterday I've never had a local library card because we've always just used the base library. I don't even know how to get one! How sad is that??? lol Bases are designed to be self sufficiant. That doesn't mean you'll have the selection of let's say, Wal-Mart, but you'll survive. If you have any other questions, please ask (and be prepared for the long winded answer! lol). It's fun to share.
I have a good friend that has lived on base for the past 10 years. The pictures she sends of her houses look nice. She has lived in duplexes mostly. The only thing that I've wondered about is the flooring. In every picture she has sent of every house she has lived in, the flooring has always been linoleum or concrete looking....even in the living rooms/bedrooms. Never with carpet. I'm wondering if that is normal, or if that is just what she's ended up with each time. I guess it's probably more economical and sanitary with families moving in and out so much?? Amy...you are lucky to have a 4 bedroom! I wish I had 4 bedrooms in our house LOL
I cannot account for other posts, as we have only lived on two installations. Everyone has to enter through one of the many gate entrances to the base (not all bases were like this before 9/11 but they are now...I *think*). They can get a temporary pass with a valid drivers license or ID. However, in order to get on base, ALL passengers must have a valid ID. Even military and their family members must show their military IDs at the gate, even if in uniform. As far as different ranking service members' houses, this definitely does differ from post to post. At Ft Hood, TX housing was separated based on rank. Generally, similar ranking soldiers lived in the same neighborhoods. Here at Ft Polk, LA it is definitely mixed. However, generally very high ranking officers live in nicer neighborhoods in beautiful large houses away from lower enlisted members. I have no idea about overseas installations, because we have never lived on an overseas base, but I have heard that families live on the base in base housing. Of course, the military can't stop family members from living off base. In Korea, however, families usually don't accompany their soldier because it is a hostile environment. They CAN move their, but there is no base housing for them, so they have to live on the outskirts of the base, which can be very dangerous. Thus not many families do. As far as living on base or not, that is entirely up to each family. They can choose to live on base and not receive BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing). Or they can choose to live off base where they receive BAH in order to cover their rent and utilities. However, BAH is a flat rate based on rank, and if one decides to live in a huge house or fancy house, their BAH may not cover their expenses. Actually, in my experience and through what I've heard, BAH rarely covers rent and utilities off base anyway. That is why so many families want to live on base. I would be more than happy to answer any more questions that you may have about military life.
Cat, we had TOTALLY different answers as far as the gate question. At Ft Hood and here at Ft Polk, we never had to call to the gate or go to the gate to let a civilian on base. The gate guard soldiers just required a valid ID and gave them a temporary pass (24 hours) and they were required to keep that pass on their dashboard when parked. Prior to 9/11 at Ft Hood, there was NO gate where people were checked. It was just wide open. There WERE gate "shacks" at each entrance, but they were RARELY manned, unless the president or some other special individual was going to be on post. It is odd how almost every installation is different in almost every way, isn't it? Robin, most base housing has linoleum flooring. It's horribly ugly, but I think your reasoning as to why is accurate. You *can* put in carpet, but it must be removed and the original tile restored before you leave that house.
You guys are so sweet! I'm still confused as to 'base' and 'post' and the difference there. Now, this 'base'....it has a whole world on it?? Shopping centers and hospital and doctor's office, dentist office, police station, library....???? Really?? What else?? Can civilians go to these places? Can they buy things from them? What about schools...are there base schools? If not, do public buses come onto base and pick kids up and take them to school? This is all so fascinating!! Fortunately, for all of your sakes, I am going to bed now. But I can't wait to come back tomorrow and learn more!!
ROFL Kate, it is kind of exciting to be able to tell a civilian about the military. Base and post and installation all refer to the same thing. The base is like it's own little world. Bases have hospitals, doctors offices (unless the hospital is big enough to have all patients seen there), a grocery (sometimes 2), shoppettes (convenience stores) with gas stations, car washes, car repair shops, some have dentist offices for family members, fast food resaurants, police station, fire station, shopping centers (called PX's or BX's depending on what branch you are in), schools, library, do-it-yourself centers (self-help for housing maintenance), veterinaries, parks, bowling alleys, animal shelters, pools, gyms, youth centers, etc. They also have many programs for families such as ACS - Army Community Service that has a lending closet for household needs when you first move on base, and many other services, also Family Advocacy programs, mental health programs, youth programs, pottery classes, exercise classes, car maintenance classes, and the list just goes on and on. Many programs are free and some cost a small fee. Each holiday, there are many events to take part in, such as balls, visits from Santa, Easter Egg Hunts, etc. Civilians cannot buy from military shopping centers, groceries, etc. Only military or military family members can and they have to present their military ID at the register. Also, on base, there is no sales tax. You can *enter* shopping centers, etc but you must be with a military member or their family member. Civilians cannot take part in military programs, though. They can attend some events however. Also, there is usually a bus system set up to transport kids to and from school. Some bases even have a bus system for any military member or their family members to get from here to there on base. I'm ready for more questions...LOL
Go to http://fort.monroe.army.mil/housing/Sample%20Pictures.htm This is the housing at Fort Monroe, Virginia. Go here to see an example a company grade officer (below the rank of major) Air Force Housing at Langley AFB, Virginia. http://www.langley.af.mil/1msg/1ces/bethel_cgo_3br.shtml This is a field grade officer's housing at Langley. Major or higher. http://www.langley.af.mil/1msg/1ces/bethel_fgo_3br.shtml
Here's how we lived in Germany
My post housing on Ft. Hood was quite old, and I lived in a duplex. I wasn't impressed by the upkeep, but then again, they are slowly remodeling each old area on Ft. Hood. We had some flooding/mold problems, and some roaches that came through the drains, both of which were the worst part of base housing. We did have 2 bedrooms, and a decent size yard. Amy's Ft. Hood housing was quite new, so it was much nicer, but sometimes I wonder if the people who made the floor plans had half a brain. For instance, some houses had virtually no storage space, which is kind of important for military families!! All in all it was nice, but by all accounts post housing areas are total soap operas. If people can't find something to gossip about (which is not hard to do) they will make stuff up. Privacy is a lost cause here. You also see a lot of unsupervised kids, like Amy was talking about. Amy... remember those 2 kids out back of my quarters? Where the mom was passed out in the house? Just awful!!! All said, I do miss some aspects of military life, not enough to convince Nate to go back in though!!
Crystal, about the unsupervised kids issue, it is about 50 times WORSE here! I swear to you. It is insane! I am *this* close to calling CPS on this one lady. She has a bunch of very young children. They are constantly outside, only wearing a diaper, the diaper is sagging so low because it needs to be changed desperately. They are always walking all over her car on the roof and trunk - 2 and 3 year olds mind you! If they are not doing that, then they are in everyone else's yard on their swings, kids' play equipment or playing with other kids' toys. She sits outside with them sometimes, and they often stay up outside until midnight or later even on weekdays with the kids having fun, screaming, laughing, and generally being loud and obnoxious while the rest of the neighborhood is trying to get some sleep. These kids have been playing and jumping on our swing out front many times. Mike tells them they have to get off and they just look at him, they don't get off. We can't even solicit the help of their mother because she is in her house doing Lord knows what! It's ridiculous! Mark my words, I am calling the police or CPS VERY soon. Ugh!
Well here in England we live in base housing-off base! WE actually live about 30 minutes from the base and we share our development with the british community. We have a beautiful townhouse in a beautiful neighborhood. We were very lucky. It does depend on what base! I like that we have a self help store to do things in your house and repair things, even replace light bulbs and its all free!! The kids here are fairly good, compared to other places we have seen! I would probably not live in base housing back in the states but over seas it is very helpful and much cheaper usually! Don't feel silly for asking all these questions cuz i am a military wife and i am still learning, lol!
Right now we live in housing with 1 joining neighbor, is that a duplex? The house is 25 years old and our housing area is supposed to be for Staff and Officer, hower they have torn down one of the housing units that they call low rank housing so right now it is a mixed community. I believe this is the only mixed community on the base. And it is waiting to be torn down as well. They rest of the housing units are really nice and since they have redone a lot of them lower rank housing and are just as nice as the Staff and Officer housing. In some cases nicer, so it really does depend on the base and where they are as far as remodeling. I think we have close to 10 or 11 housing communities that belong to this base. Some are apartment complexes, some are single houses, some are multiplex, some are duplex. It all depends on your rank, dependents and what area there is a unit available as to where you are placed. In Okinawa, they had multiplex's and towers. There were several bases that had housing on them and they had a live where you work policy. You were given housing dependant on which base you worked on, then by rank and dependants. Okinawa is a mixed community with all branches abroad. I had Airforce, Navy and Marine neighbors. I have found that no matter wich base you are at there are always problems with chideren running wild. I think parents are under a false security about living on base. It really isn't that hard to get on base. If you have a valid I.D and proff of insurance they will let you on. They don't run your ID to see if you are a child predator and there are so many in our area. I looked on the map and there is a pin for every 1/4 mile from here to 30 miles away. That is pretty scary.
Kate, if it's Army it's a post. If it's Air Force it's a base. Don't ask me why. lol As for kids running wild, yes, it happened a LOT on pretty much all the bases we've ever been to. I think Kristi hit the nail on the head when she said people have a false sense of security when living on base/post. It really isn't hard to get on either (although it sounds like Air Force bases are harder to get on than Army posts--maybe because Army has security people at most buildings and Air Force doesn't), and you know what? There are sick people in the military, too. Trust me. Dh has been an investigator for 13 years and oh, the stories he could tell. Just because someone is in the military doesn't mean they are an honest, trustworthy person. There's abuse, neglect (just look at all those kids running around!), murders, rapes, drugs, etc. We had a murder on base when we lived in Montana. A 15yo girl shot her dad with HIS duty weapon (handgun--he was law enforcement). He lived long enough to call 911 and tell them who did it, and then died in the ambulance. It was just 3 or 4 streets away from us. There was also rumored gang activity on that base. It really is just like everywhere else. I'm not trying to paint a bad picture of the military, just a "real" picture.
Hmmmmm...okay, so a base is actually a whole CITY?? Is it TRULY a city, such as, is Ft. Hood the name of a city? Is it like 'I live in Ft. Hood, Texas' or is it 'I live ON Ft. Hood IN Dallas, Texas'? I know Ft. Hood isn't in Dallas, but I have no idea WHERE it is, so I just chose any Texas city. So are military bases real cities then?? I assume you have to be married to live together on base? You can't have a live in girlfriend or boyfriend, can you? Have you been happy with the medical care/facilities? These places must be ENORMOUS, then!! If you blindfolded me and dropped me down in the middle of a base would I KNOW just by glancing around? What gives it away? Do you have people patrolling the streets or anything? It seems vulnerable to have so many women and children living together and alone while their husbands are deployed. If your spouse is NOT deployed, what does he/she DO on base? Are there jobs there? Training facilities? SEE how clueless I am?? Thanks to everyone! And thanks for the pics, Bea! It's all so interesting!
Bea, those Ft. Monroe ones in Virginia....those are apartments, correct? If those are single family homes, they're mansions!
Kate, most bases do have their own zip codes. Like when we lived in Maryland our address was "Andrews AFB, MD 20762" (or something, can't remember the exact zip). Most would say "I live ON Andrews AFB (or whatever)." They are usually on the edge of a city or town, but not really IN the city/town. Like Peterson AFB is on the south-east side of Colorado Spring, The USAF Academy is on the north side of town, Shriver AFB is on the east side of town and Ft. Carson is on the south side. Technically, you have to be married to live on base. If someone has dependants, though, but isn't married (single parent--active duty military) they can live in a base house and I suppose they could have a bf/gf living with them, but I don't think they're supposed to and may get into trouble if they got caught. And yes, you can get kicked out of base housing for many different things. Not keeping the yard neat, doing unlicensed child care in your base house, having too many pets (I think the limit is three in most places), damage to the house, etc. Most bases/posts have hospitals that have everything you might need. Some have limited medical care (like the basic stuff, but not specilized services), or they may have enough docs for active duty personel but not their families. Most base hospitals also have dentist for at least active duty (very few state military dental clinics see families while overseas do). They also have eye docs for active duty. For example, when in Montana, that base had a hospital with a small ER that if there was something seriously wrong with you they'd send you downtown. They also had GYN, but no OB so my youngest was born in a civillian hospital (so was my oldest while we were stationed in Maine, but for different reasons). Some base/post hospitals have surgery clinics, some don't. For the most part, I've been happy with the care we've received. There are always exceptions where ever you go, even in the civillian world. Sometimes you have to play military hospital politics. Like when dh and I were first married and stationed at an Army post. I went to the hospital on post for an appointment and they were very busy. The receptionist asked me my name and I told her. Then she asked me what rank my husband was and I asked what difference that made. She said, "Well, I just need to know." Because of my dh's job we don't give out his rank and I tried to explain that to her. She wouldn't budge and I knew if I said he was enlisted I'd be waiting there for hours. So I just said, "Fine, he's a Major." and was see right away. The Air Force doesn't play that game as much, and I refuse to play those games anyway. I'm not going to be treated any less just because of my husband's rank. HE'S military. I'M not. lol If you were dropped in the middle of a base/post, you probably would know you were someplace "different" only because of they way things are labled. There are big signs (usually brown) in front of buildings that tell what the building is and they're all the same. Also, most base housing has a name plate for your house--some with the military memeber's rank on it. Most people aren't worried while their spouse is deployed because military people in base/post housing take care of each other (for the most part). When my dh was in Saudi for 6 months, my neighbors would do things like mow my lawn for me (without asking first--I'd hear a mower and look out and there they'd be!), shovel my sidewalk, things like that. It's usually a very tight knit community (and like I said, I do miss that). Oh, there are so many jobs on base. All the hospital, law enforcement, maintainace, civil enginering, motor pool (where all the military vehicles are maintained), communications, personel, headquarters, etc are manned mostly by active duty military people. There are also lots of civilians that work on base/post, especially in the hospital. So there's lots to do when not deployed. As a matter of fact, when so many people are deployed there's a shortage of for instance, doctors and medical people. When dh had his gall bladder surgery last year it took them a few months to schedule it because so many doctors were deployed. That's one reason so many reservist are called up to active duty during war time/conflicts. As for training facilities, there are some bases/posts that specilize in training. I went to tech school at Shephard AFB in Texas. That's where most crew cheifs for fighter planes, medical and dental assistants, and communication people (which I was) are trained. My brother was a crew cheif on a C130 and he trained at Chanute AFB, IL (no longer there now). Dh's first career field was a Vietnamese linguist and all linguist start their training at the Defense Laguange Institute in Moneray (sp?), CA (used to at least--don't know about now--that was 19 years ago). Don't feel bad about being clueless! lol We all start that way.
Ok, Ft. Hood is the post near Killeen, TX. Ft. Hood has it's own zip code, post office, police (military police) etc. So if you live ON Post, you live in Ft. Hood. If you live in Killeen or one of the surrounding cities, and are a soldier, you are stationed at Ft. Hood. Make sense? And yes, you must be married to live together on post, there is a waiting list for eligible families, the soldiers who are stationed here have jobs on post, usually exactly what they would be doing in wartime. Example, my ex works on the Avenger missile systems. When in Iraq he worked on them to maintain them for battle if needed. He also pulled guard duty, and various other tasks. Here on post, he has a motor pool where he works on the systems to maintain them for training. Then they go out to the field for a week or whatever time frame, train out there, come home and fix the stuff they broke. It's funny if you really think about it. Others, like Nate, can't really perform their MOS (assigned job) He was infantry, so his job was to fight. He was a gunner for the commander, so he would be in the field a LOT more, and did more deployments. When not in the field, he would fill in on other tasks around the post. (Mind you, I'm a little less clear about what he did everyday since I didn't know him then) Then there are people who work in finance, supply, the hospital, etc.
Crystal's right. My dh work in Supply. In Iraq he supplied the troops with what they needed, signed out high valued items and signed them back in, etc. He also pulled guard and other duties. Here on post he is in charge of the supply room for his unit and does the same exact thing here. Just like military installations are like one little world, it takes service members working in different areas to make it all work just as it does in the civilian world. BTW, there is no one patrolling the streets here, LOL. We are eagerly awaiting more questions!
Kate, where do you live?
When we lived at both Patrick AFB and Eglin AFB we LOVED the housing! It was very large and modern. Eglin even had carpet and lynolium ( sp?) in the kitchen. Even out stove/oven was brand new and we even had a nice deck in Eglin. Both of these bases are in Florida. The were both duplexes and both of them had a HUGE yard!
Here in Washington, Ft. Lewis and Mcchord Airforce Base are right next door. The whole military communitee is HUGE!!! Huge hospital, commissary, etc.!!! Parks, clubs, and even a lake with boat rentals. Amazing and very spoiling. We bought surplus carpeting at an outlet when we started living on military posts. We just kept cutting it up to fit rooms until it couldn't be cut any more and got rid of it. I didn't like the tile floors. In German we had hardwood floors. Very nice and warm. Bea!!! That looks like our housing in Germany!!! No luxurious balonies!!!! I loved Germany! I got used to the housing and well, everyone else lived that way so, there was no escaping it. Make the best of it. There are lots of aspects of military living I miss. I made my very best friends there.
Are you close to Fort Lewis, Mary. DH had command of the Port Of Seattle, and we lived in Kirkland. I enjoyed stairwell living in Germany. We were young and used to party in each other's apartments every weekend. With me it was drapery panels....I bought beige panels, and hung them in several quarters and houses along the way.
Kate, I am completely clueless too when it comes to military life! Thanks for asking the questions that i have always wondered about!
The following is something that I read long ago. It touched something deep inside my heart. I think it captures much of what it meant to be the wife of a soldier during the thirty years I had that calling. I hope it also helps you to understand a little of what it means to be a military spouse.
Sisterhood Paraphrased from Debby Guisti © I am a military wife - a member of that sisterhood of women who have had the courage to watch their men go into battle, and the strength to survive until their return. Our sorority knows no rank, for we earn our membership with a marriage license, traveling over miles, or over nations to begin a new life with our military husbands. Within days, we turn a barren, echoing building into a home, and though our quarters are inevitably white-walled and unpapered, we decorate with the treasures of our travels, for we shop the markets of the globe. Using hammer and nail, we tack our pictures to the wall, and our roots to the floor as firmly as if we had lived there for a lifetime. We hold a family together by the bootstraps, and raise the best of "brats," instilling in them the motto, "Home is togetherness", whether motel, or guest house, apartment or duplex. As military wives we soon realize that the only good in "Good-bye" is the "Hello again." For as salesmen for freedom, our husbands are often on the road, at sea, or in the sky, leaving us behind for a week, a month, an assignment. During separations we guard the home front, existing until the homecoming. Unlike our civilian counterparts, we measure time, not by years, but by tours - married at Knox, a baby born at Portsmouth, a special anniversary at Yorktown, a promotion in McDill. We plant trees, and never see them grow tall, work on projects completed long after our departure, and enhance our community for the betterment of those who come after us. We leave a part of ourselves at every stop. Through experience, we have learned to pack a suitcase, a car or hold baggage, and live indefinitely from the contents within: and though our fingers are sore from the patches we have sewn, and the silver we have shined, our hands are always ready to help those around us. Women of peace, we pray for a world in harmony, for the flag that leads our men into battle, will also blanket them in death. Yet we are an optimistic group, thinking of the good, and forgetting the bad, cherishing yesterday, while anticipating tomorrow. Never rich by monetary standards, our hearts are overflowing with a wealth of experiences common only to those united by the special tradition of military life. We pass on this legacy to every military bride, welcoming her with outstretched arms, with love and friendship, from one sister to another, sharing in the bounty of our unique, fulfilling military way of life.
Wow, Bea, what a lovely essay! I may have run out of questions!!!! Thanks to ALL who responded and painted me such pictures. I had NO idea it was a little town/community with actual highways and stoplights and hospitals and stores and such. Now, does anyone have any civilian life questions? *wink*
Bea, Yes, we live near Ft. Lewis. My DH is a Reservist and is currently stationed at Ft. Lewis. We lived there when we were active duty and so, after Germany, we came back. My DH was stationed at Ft. Lawton in Seattle a couple of times as well as some post in Renton. We figure next post will mean commuting by plane somewhere because he's up for Col. Mary
We lived in Navy housing when DSH was stationed in Va 86-94.We lived near Little Creek...Port Lyaut..cannt remember the spelling. We had a 3 bedroom townhouse...it was HOME for 6yrs...we loved it then DSH retired and we moved home to Fl and now we have home of OUR own (5yrs now)..We also live in Navy house when DSH was stationed at NAS Kingsville Tx (82-85) (DSD2 was born here) This housing was older. We had a 2 bedroom apt, we lived on the bottom floor and had neighbors across the hall. It seems to be a problem all over with people NOT watching their kids, we saw it in Tx then Va. Remember its NOT only the MILITARY that lets kids run around...it happens everywhere!!! I was a NAVY BRAT and I have 4 NAVY BRATS. We enjoyed our time that we live in housing...We would do it again. Enjoy your time in housing BUT remember ONE DAY SOOOn you will be paying for it all again. Enjoy it Ladies....... Remember its WHAT you make it!!!
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