I just had to share this! I was so upset, but couldn't help laughing.

I got up this morning and was trying to find a particular pair of jeans. I looked in the closet, where I thought they would be, and they were no where to be found. I checked the laundry....not here either. Checked the dresser...nope! Checked in the kids rooms', just in case,...not there either. Hmm...where in the world could they be?
I called DH and asked him if he had seen these particular jeans. "no, I haven't. Did you check the laundry/dresser/etc."
Yep, I looked in all of those places. This is so weird, where could they be?
DH says "Did you wear those jeans up north when you had your surgery?" (ALMOST 3 WEEKS AGO!!!) Yes, actually I did wear them up there. Why do you ask?
"Well, they are probably still in the suitcase"
What? You didn't unpack the suitcase? Where is it?
"I put it in the back of the closet where it goes"
So, I hang up with him and go find the suitcase. I open it and it has ALL of our stuff in it, including my jeans, from almost 3 weeks ago!! What the heck???
DH was supposedly taking care of everything those first couple of days while I was recovering. I spent most of the time in bed. I guess I just assumed that he would dump the suitcase in the laundry at least LOL.
He actually did a very good job taking care of me as well as the kids and the house. Guess he just let the suitcase thing slide. I told him next time he doesn't empty it, to just leave it out so I can take care of it LOL
Just wanted to share my frustration

By Dana on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 12:43 pm:

Men!

By Sunny on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 12:44 pm:

This may not be the case with your DH, but I have found with mine that if I don't ask him specifically to do something, half the time it doesn't get done. LOL

Glad you found your jeans, though!

By Colette on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 12:49 pm:

lol!

By Mommyathome on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 12:49 pm:

Yep Sunny....he's a lot like that LOL

By Ginny~moderator on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 01:18 pm:

Men - ditto!

What I found with my ex and my sons was that if you ask them specifically, half the time it DOES get done. The other half the time either reminding (a/k/a nagging) will produce results about half the time - the rest of the time, forget it!

By Melanie on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 01:31 pm:

LOL! That is so funny!

By Mommyathome on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 01:45 pm:

Hey Melanie...do they make a L&L series for DH's?

By Angellew on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 02:01 pm:

Sunny is right! If you don't specify every little thing, they won't do it!!! My husband had a day off a couple of weeks ago and asked if there was anything he could help me with! I said "Yeah, can you do a couple of load of laundry!" Well... ten hours later, when I got home, he was sitting on the couch watching Sports Center and there were FIVE LOADS OF CLOTHES DUMPED ON MY BED!!! Just in a big, ugly pile! Sure, they were washed, but wrinkled beyond recognition from lying there all that time! When I asked what he was thinking, he said "You asked me to launder them, not put them away!!! I didn't know if you had a special way of doing it!" Yeah, I like to tap dance my way to the closet and hang them!!!

They just don't think!!!

By Babysitbarb on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 02:09 pm:

This sounds so familier, my DH and my DD's are just a like, they have to be told in detail every step of the way on how to do things and it's so frustrating. I just tell them all if you wonder why Im so grumpy it's because I feel like Im the only one around here who knows how to do anything. I can't complain about my Dh when it comes to the outside work to be done.

By Bellajoe on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 02:10 pm:

LOL, Robin, i thought you were going to say that your dh was wearing your jeans (on accident of course )Too funny.

Yep, you do have to remind the men to do the stuff that WE think is pretty darn obvious...like emptying the suitcase before putting it away ! LOL

Angela...LOL!! "Yeah, I like to tap dance my way to the closet and hang them!!! " too funny!

When you ask your dh to do something, and they don't so you ask them again, do they call that nagging? My dh does. I tell him, well if you did it in the first place i wouldn't have to nag now, would I ? LOL

By Mommyathome on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 02:29 pm:

ROFL Patti...now *that* would have been very funny!

And I thought that I was the only one that did a tap dance routine on my way to the closet ;)

By Babysitbarb on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 02:55 pm:

I thought you were going to say you DH had your jeans on also. When I ask the DH and the DD's to do anything and have to ask more then once they say Im nagging (•••••••• is what they really say).

By Ginny~moderator on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 03:08 pm:

When I was pregnant with my second I had to spend two months flat on my back because of some bleeding. One day my then dh and now ex fixed Kraft Macaroni&Cheese - after he boiled the macaronis, he mixed in the butter and cheese powder, but did not first drain off the cooking water.

!!!!!

By Dawnk777 on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 03:14 pm:

Ginny, ewwww! I would have thrown it out. My DH just likes to be creative with the measurements of the butter and milk. One time we were making it together and he left me to measure the butter and milk.

Mommyathome, I thought you were going to say that your DH had the jeans on, too. Sometimes DH is good about seeing stuff that needs to be done and other times he will miss the most obvious thing, or, his timetable to do it is FAR different from mine. (like now!)

By Bea on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 03:21 pm:

I really believe they do things like this to discourage us from asking them for help. DH does the same type of jobs for me. Sometimes I think he's deaf, blind and asleep when he helps me.

By Ginny~moderator on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 04:16 pm:

I did throw it out, Dawn. And advised my engineer husband of the importance of reading the directions.

Bea, I agree with you. What strikes me as odd is that my generation of women married when there was still a draft, and most of the men we married had learned how to make beds, do kp, clean their living spaces, and do laundry and ironing. But suddenly when they got out of the service, they forgot.

By Jodie on Thursday, February 26, 2004 - 05:31 pm:

OMG! this is insane. This is exactly what my gf and I were discussing a couple hours ago. Men!! Almost all women I know have had a similar tale to tell at one time or another. My dh needs about 12 reminder and 7 days to take out todays trash along with the last 6 days !! UGH!!. The trash just accumulates outside and he'll walk by in every evening and claim he missed and just doesn't want to go back out in the cold, will do it in the morning the cycle continues until i lose it and do it myself. I did let it sit for a week once when I had the flu and then out came the truth. DH says he just wouldn't do it because he thought I had been nagging about it !!I really vented on him that day and we take turns now but it's just so silly. Sometimes he'll do the exact opposite of what i request him to do if I ask him to do the same thing more than once ??!! he says he'll do things only if he wants to do them and not because he has to ??! LOL. Trash is a must do and so is getting groceries if I have the flu and not a tender feelings issue !LOL .I tease him he's having a midlife crisis!!

By Eve on Friday, February 27, 2004 - 11:06 am:

Too funny! That is a great "MEN!" moment.

BTW- Love and Logic does work on DH's! Until they start reading more and more, like mine has. Now, he uses it on ME! He even said that it's helping in certain areas at work.

By Mommyathome on Friday, February 27, 2004 - 12:29 pm:

LOL Eve...I'll have to remember to try it out on DH then!

By Eve on Friday, February 27, 2004 - 01:22 pm:

Try it Robin! "Would you like to put your laundry away now or wait until later?" All the choices work for me! Tee hee!