This week has been awful. We finally got moved, but everything has went wrong since. Last Thursday, I had a miscarriage. This week, our family room(that is being used as a playroom) has water coming up through the carpet. I've spent hours each day sucking the water up just to have even more the next morning. The little girl I babysit for during the mornings is driving me insane! This morning(she's almost 6), I found her walking on the top of the couch!! She brings toys but won't let Kolby play with them but expects him to hand his toys over. It's driving me nuts! On top of all of this my DH hasn't been home before 8-8:30 this week, and tonight he goes on call. Sorry, this is just a big, long vent. I just hope things get a little better this weekend.

By Karen~moderator on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 08:53 am:

{{{{{{{{{{Nikki}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry.

By Eve on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 08:55 am:

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. I'll be thinking about you. I hope things look up soon!

By Fraggle on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 08:56 am:

Hugs from me. I'm hoping things get better for you.

By Trina~moderator on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 08:57 am:

Oh Nikki, I'm sorry to hear you lost the baby, and lots of other things going wrong on top of it. Many {{{HUGS}}} and prayers coming your way.

By Marg on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 09:15 am:

((((Nikki)))) I'm so sorry about the baby, prayers going out to all of your family.

By Trisa on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 09:18 am:

I am so sorry.
I hope you have a better weekend.
((( HUGS ))) Vent anytime. We all need to once in a while!!

By Texannie on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 09:19 am:

I am so sorry to hear about your loss!

By Pamt on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 09:21 am:

I am so sorry about your miscarriage. That's awful enough and then to have all of this other crud on top of it (((hugs)))

By Jackie on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 10:15 am:

Oh Im so sorry about your loss . I completely understand, Ive had so many myself.

By Debbie on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 10:24 am:

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like you have a lot of other stuff to deal with too. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

By Mommyathome on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 10:27 am:

((((hugs))))
I really hope things get better for you and your family soon.
More ((((hugs))))

By Bellajoe on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 10:32 am:

I am so sorry about your baby, Nikki. What a hard time for you. I hope things start getting better for you soon

About the girl you babysit, i would tell her that she can't bring her own toys to the house unless she plans to share them.

By Yjja123 on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 11:18 am:

I am sorry about your loss! You are in my prayers!

I babysit and my rule is "you bring a toy you have to share it". Since they play with *most* of my kids toys.
BUT....my children are allowed to put there special toys in their rooms that are not to be played with. They only have a few but I think its important for them not to share every single thing they own (in particular because in the past they have had favorite toys broken)

By Gammiejoan on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 11:43 am:

Nikki, I'm sorry about the baby and everything else that has gone wrong for you. You have my prayers.

By Kolbysmom on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 12:41 pm:

Thanks everyone! It means a lot! I am feeling better now.

It's so odd. DH and I had been TTC since Sept. with no luck. Then a few days last week, I was wondering if I wanted to even have any more babies at all, then I have a miscarriage. I didn't even know I was pregnant. However, now I feel like I really want another one. I do believe everything happens for a reason, and I have found peace in that. Thanks again!

By Ginny~moderator on Friday, February 6, 2004 - 06:45 pm:

I am so sorry about the miscarriage.

Please believe I mean this out of concern, but why on earth are you babysitting a child (especially an obnoxious and rude child) when you just moved, have water in the playroom floor, and just had a miscarriage? If there is any way you can stop babysitting that child, I urge you to think seriously about it.

In the meantime, help your kids gather up their special toys and put them in a private place, and tell her tomorrow morning that if you bring a toy into this house it will be shared or it will go into the closet until you go home - your choice. Them's the rules and you play by them. If her parents haven't taught her good manners, then you have to at least enforce the kind of behavior you can tolerate. Walking on the back of the couch should certainly mean a time-out, minimally, plus a report to her parents. She sounds like a badly spoiled kid, and I marvel at your patience.

By Kolbysmom on Saturday, February 7, 2004 - 08:04 am:

Ginny--Here's a little more background on my situation. The girl I babysit, I've been watching her for 2 years(she was 4 and my DS was 6 months at the time). A few months prior she had a 2 yr old sister who died of Hurler's Disease. All of the sudden, she was the baby again, and her parents def. spoiled her.

I really have been considering giving up the babysitting thing. It does pay for our groceries, gas for the car and a little for savings. We're going to start saving as much as possible just to see what it would be like if I did quit. If I know we can swing all the bills and not be completely broke...then I will. I KNOW I'm going to give it up before I have my next child, whenever that may be.

By Bea on Saturday, February 7, 2004 - 10:21 am:

I'm so sorry Nikki