Christmas parties
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Christmas parties
Does this seem odd? Would your spouse still go to a Christmas party after first the kids were invited, then not invited.
My husband has 2 jobs. His 2nd job is a mechanic job. He told me a few days ago that his boss of the 2nd job is having a casual Christmas party at their house, and me and the kids were invited.
I know they are older then us, so they have no kids at home. We had planned to drop my son off at his boyscout event, then go to the party then pick son up at 8. Today my husband is gone and the wife of the boss calls. She said to tell Steve that they would put their dogs in a room while the kids were there. I thought this was odd. I told the lady my kids were not afraid of dogs, but whatever she thought was best.
My husband gets home, and I relay the message to him. He said today at work the boss was saying, he spoke to soon about having the kids come over to the party. He went on to say that he has 2 pittbulls and although they are nice, have growled at other kids, so he prefer no kids. My husband doesnt tell me this until after the wife calls. He said but its ok now since they agreed to put the dogs in a room. I thought about it. I told him I did not feel comfortable going with the kids. I said they probably really didnt want kids there, and that their house was not kid friendly. In those cases, I end up following them around making sure they dont touch or break things. I said he should still go.
I am not mad that he is going. I just find the whole think sort of odd. Does it sound odd to all of you????
Sounds to me like poor communication, between Boss and Boss's Wife. I can just hear it now:
B - I invited the guys from the shop and their wives and kids to come over for an informal Christmas party. BW - Are you crazy? You know our dogs have growled at children before and these kids are strangers to our dogs. I'll have to shut the dogs up so there's no risk. B - Oh, gee, I forgot. Yeah, that could be a problem.
And then they don't talk it out further and agree on a strategy, so BW calls you to tell you the dogs will be shut up so kids will be OK, and B tells your dh that because of the dogs maybe kids shouldn't come.
All in all, I'd chalk it up to poor communication between B and BW, and be glad that you found out well enough in advance so that you can make other arrangements for your son. Your dh has to work with the boss, so you should go and make nice for dh's sake. And be glad that BW cares enough about the safety of other people's children to be willing to shut her dogs up so there is no risk. Some people would put the dogs ahead of the children.
I was just about to say the same thing as Ginny.
Just poor communication. I'm sure the boss and the wife will feel bad that you just decided not to come, but I do understand why you did not go. I wouldn't want my kids around growling pit bulls either!
I think that is totally how it happened. My husband went by himself. My husband said his boss asked him a couple of times why didnt the wife and kids come too? Apparently my kids would of been the only kids there.
It was just as well we did not go. My husband said the house was very smokey from the people smoking cigarettes in there. I do not like to be around that, and I never let my kids around that many people smoking.
It was fine, my husband had a nice time, got a 100$ Christmas bonus and was home by 9;30
A smokey house? Ugh. If your kids were going to be the only kids there, then they would have been bored silly, too! It really was just a grown-up function!
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