Well my dh had to go out of town to find work, he went to stay with relatives, his uncle drives logging truck, and dh has to get some more experience so this is a good way for him to get it, he is hoping that he can get on with one of the companies, but this means he will be staying their all week,and we will be lucky if he will be able to come home on the weekends, for the training part I know he will be gone for two weeks straight, not looking forward to dealing with two teenagers and a 11 year old going on 19 , all by myself. To make matters worse, I called up to the uncles house,just to make sure he made it, and as dh was coming to the phone, I heard his uncle say,well their goes their phone bill. This makes me angry as it is a 5 hour drive, and our truck is not the greatest thing with four wheels,just wanted to make sure he at least made it their. Now I wish I never called
the girls are pretty quiet tonight as I keep getting teary eyed, I hate being away from my dh. The thing is, if he does get a job thier, it is not like we can pack up and move, as my job, is to good to pass up. Also one dd is starting college next sept, so it is not an option for us to move at this point. Well going to go, getting myself all upset, and my stomache is starting to burn, so going to go have a cup of tea, Thanks for letting me get this off my chest, this is just not the way I want my family to be, split up like this. Is any one else in this situation?

By Amy~moderator on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 01:03 am:

(((Hugs))) I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Mike, my dh, is in the military, so he has been gone for months at a time. It gets very lonely, even with kids at home. But look at it as a time to do something that you've always wanted to do now that you have more "you" time. Watch "your" TV programs, listen to "your" music, etc. Keep your mind off of it by absorbing yourself in projects you haven't gotten around to. Just remember it won't be forever. We are always here to talk to.

By Mrse on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 02:01 am:

Thanks, he only lelf this morning, just feel abandoned, but I guess I should not whine when lots of wifes like your self are talking months at a time. I guess I will get into a routine, but it is going to get some getting use to, as normaly I wait for him to come home, then we sit at the table and have our coffee, and tell each other about our day. Maybe I will start ripping out my kitchen cabinets!! Hey he better get a job, so he can afford my renovation projects. Feeling better about it, but I know I will have my days, thanks for the support.

By Trisa on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 08:22 am:

Its so sweet that you miss him so much.
I know what you mean about having it all
left up to you. My hubby works a weird shift from 1 pm to midnight. He is never home and it is hard to have to do everything. The kids, the house,
Some days I wish he worked normal hours. But that will never happen since 3 months ago he was made the supervisor of that shift. I am happy he has a good job but sometimes I wish he were here at night. Your hubby will have to buy a phone card so
the uncle doesn't get mad. And yes we are always here to talk. Don't you just love this place!!

By Mrse on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 10:33 am:

HI, dh would just call me collect, if he wanted to talk to me. But I do know one thing, I am not calling back thier unless their is an emergencey. His uncle has stayed here before and his aunt, would call here several times and he was only down here for a weekend.
Well the first night alone has come and gone, youngest dd slept with me, ah not comfortable, she moves around to much! Tonight the whole bed is mine! lol.

By Mrsclark on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 11:21 am:

My opinion -- I would totally ignore what the uncle said. If you feel better calling, do it! Nothing wrong with it. If it is okay with your dh, then do it. Possibly if you do not and your dh expects it, he may miss it! This is new to you -- just because an uncle has his ideas and opinions, do not make them right or true or yours! It is your life -- call your dh -- do not sit home and wonder or worry or miss him unnecessarily! Go see a movie, too! Something funny -- not necessarily a romantic one though. Enjoy the time and pamper yourself if you can!

By Bobbie on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 02:35 pm:

I agree Call him when and if you need or want to.

By Luvn29 on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 06:12 pm:

I agree, call him and don't worry about what others think. It is your phone bill, not theirs. Besides, using something such as the 10-10-811 or something that is only 5 cents a minute won't add up too quickly.

You guys need to stay in touch, and if that is only a possiblity be phoning each other then do it. It will be better for your relationship. I know there is no way I could go days without talking to my husband.

He, too, works an odd shift. He leaves the house at 6:30 p.m., gets home around 6:45 a.m. and sleeps till 2:00 p.m. so I am home alone every evening and night. It gets lonely, and I feel like, hey, this is not what I signed up for when I got married. I thought I would have my husband here with me every night. But this is the best job in this area, and in a marriage, especially when you have kids, you do what you have to do.

Stay in touch with each other, and do things to pass the time by...read a good book, watch some good movies, etc.

Good luck with this, I really feel for you!

By Kate on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 06:18 pm:

YOU placed the call. Unless you called collect, the uncle has no right to say anything! It's not HIS phone bill, it's yours! I'd call as often as you like, without tying up their phone for an unreasonable amount of time. It's normal to feel weepy when you're suddenly missing your spouse.

By Dawnk777 on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 07:22 pm:

Yeah, it's not his phone bill. Yes, you are going to call and they will have to just get used to it.

By Mrse on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 08:27 pm:

Thanks for all the support guys, yesterday was not a good day for me, just knew I was going to break down. Feeling ok today, even though my car died this afternoon, good thing i have a brother in law!! he is going to take it in, to get the alternator tested and put on some new battery cables for me. Thanks again, and yes, I think I will call him, whenever I feel I need to, at least once a week.

By Mommyathome on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 09:00 pm:

Definitely call as much as you want!
(((hugs))) Hope you feel better soon.
I really hate being away from my DH too.

By Feona on Tuesday, January 20, 2004 - 07:18 am:

If the phone becomes a huge issue, he can get a cheapy cell phone and call you. It could be his christmas/birthday present for the next 5 years if need be. I think you might be able to get a plan for $20 a month including free phone.(12 month lease probably.)