Bobbie
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Bobbie
Any luck on the job search?
Ha, no.. I am still applying though. I know several people that are dealing with the same issue, as far as not being able to find a job in our area. So I am not too surprised with the fact that I haven't gotten a job yet. I sent out ten more applications with in this past week. I have applied at so many places that I have lost track of the number of applications I have out there but I haven't given up yet. We have several new places that are supposed to be coming into town after the first of the year, so if nothing else I will start applying at those places too.
I haven't even been called in for an interview. *shrugs* I have a feeling that this will be a "when it rains it pour" situation. I will get an offer and then they will start rolling in. At least that is what I am praying will happen.
thanks for asking...
I've been thinking of you, too, Bobbie. I know Christmas is tight for you this year. Were you able to get some gifts for your kids?
I've been thinking a lot about you and your situation .Were you able to get Christmas gifts?
It can be so difficult! Just remember, a very important part of the application process is following up after turning in your application. Give it a couple of days, and then go back to the place where you turned it in and check up on it. Let them put a face to the name. It makes it more personal. And they feel you are very serious about the job.
I worked in HR at a hospital, and I know that 9 times out of 10, we interviewed those that brought the application in personally and that followed up with us afterwards.
I know the hospitals around here are very short on people in the kitchen. But I'm not sure that is something you would be able to do with your health issues...
No, I wasn't able to buy Christmas for the kids.
A very dear friend of ours, adopted grandparents of the girls, bought presents for every one. My sisters', my grandparents and my mother got each of the kids a gift. AND Callie took her last three pay checks and bought presents. Christmas dinner is being provided by our church.
We have a sibling group that has been here since school let out. Their mother has some serious issues going (verbally abusive boyfriend) and they needed to be away from the house they are living in. So, they will be here for Christmas. The church found out that I had taken them in for the Holidays and they insisted that they would be providing Christmas dinner for the kids. Callie bought these kids presents also, by the way... So we all insisted that the kids (the ones staying here and my own) didn't need gifts from the church. However, I am under the impression that a couple of the families are planning to give each of the kids something tonight at our Advent Service.
So, through the grace of God and the generosity of my 18 year old daughter, the kids are having Christmas and they are fully aware that it isn't coming from me/us. I want them to understand the sacrifice their sister/friend has made for them. Callie bought a full Christmas not only for her 3 siblings but for 2 additional children and if it wasn't for her having a giving heart it would have been a pretty grim Christmas. And she got top dollar gifts for these kids, she wanted them to have nice stuff..
She bought Dill (15) and Daniel (16) a Nintendo DS Lite, a couple of used games and a new game each. Dillan will be pumped, he has wanted one of these since they came out and he has no clue he is getting such a nice gift. She bought Nicole (17) an Ipod Nano, a gift card for music and a CD. Daniel and Nicole have never had such nice gifts. She got each girl a Nintendo Game Boy Advance SP, a couple of used games, a Light Sketcher and a couple other odds and ends for each of the kids.
Wayne, her boyfriend told me not to worry about Callie's gifts, he and his grandmother did it up for her. She got her first gift last night, a digital camera, her old one is wore out and she loves to take pictures.
So, we are having Christmas in spite of the difficulties I have gotten us into. This will never happen again.... This is such a double edged sword. A blessing seeing my daughter give so freely and a point of pain because I wasn't able to do it myself.. 
I am planning to pull out all the stops after we get through the Holidays to find a job. And DH, even though I am a bit concerned over it, is planning to go back to work. He wants to get things back under our control and he says he will do what he has to do to do it. Basically if I have to work, with my physical problems, then he can suck it up over his issues. Just more stress for me but I am being supportive because he is insisting he has to do this. Physically he is strong, emotionally will be the test for us both. But he is driven, so hopefully he can find a decent job that will not be a stressor on his emotional well being. So we are both looking for jobs effective the 26th of December. God willing we will both find work quickly..... And we can both shoulder the stressors on our bodies...
I'm so sorry that you are having to go through such a difficult time right now, Bobbie. I am so impressed with Callie and what a beautiful daughter you've raised. Hearing about how she stepped up to the plate and knowing how hard that must have been for you has moved me to tears. You and your family remain in my prayers and I hope your time of trials will be over soon. {{{Bobbie}}}
You DID provide the kids with gifts by surrounding your family with generous, loving friends and family and a supportive church who all helped out. Give yourself some credit. Really, you could make different choices and be very isolated. My son's ex-girlfriend, same age as Callie, has maternal grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins she has never met because "They hate my mom and my mom hates them." Her mother tried to keep her away from the father ("She hates my dad") but the law got involved and now that side of the family IS her family. The mother did go to church, briefly, but decided she hated that church, too. You have chosen to stay connected, Bobbie, and gave your children a support system.
Callie is breathtaking! How wonderful for her to do that. (If she were mine, I'd be so proud!!!!!)
Merry Christmas, Bobbie!
Ditto, Mlee!
Callie is a wonderful young woman. I imagine it made her feel good to be able to help. She sounds very caring and loving.
Merry Christmas, Bobbie!
{{{HUGS}}} Kudos to you and your daughter! Ditto on the support system!
What a wonderful thing for Callie to do, that is just awesome. You definitely did something right in raising her!!! Merry Christmas to you and your family, Bobbie! Big ((((hugs))))
You are rightly proud of your daughter. But, as others point out - don't forget who raised her. You have made the loving family you have, Bobbie. I am so glad things have worked out for you for Christmas, and hope with all my heart the New Year finds things getting better.
Bobbie, what a wonderful daughter you have! We had similar a Christmas this year. Next year will be better! My mom let us use her credit card to get stuff from Santa. We are paying her back, but she still really helped us in a pinch. Dh is on commission and this is usually a great time of year, however this time it is not so unfortunately. We didn't buy gifts for any adults, they understand. Then my parents gave dh and I $50 a piece for whatever we wanted it for - bills nothing fun- and dh is feeling really sad about not having gifts for anyone. I think it hits him harder than me with the whole breadwinner mentality and it being my family that was in a position to help and his was not. His new job starts after the new year and we'll be done school one of these days. Bring on the New Year! I need a clean slate.
Aw, Bobbie. You, your DH, and your daughter are amazing people. How are those kids now? Do they stay with the mom when the kids are in school? Why would the mom keep the boyfriend and not the kids? Confused...
Good things will be around the corner, honey...I've been praying for you guys. 
Heidi, Mom has to keep the boyfriend around because he pays the bills, or so he has her thinking anyway. He is a rat, a piece of ****... This is the stereo typical welfare family, no education, no jobs, state checks, recovering addicts, etc....
It is a long story but lets just say, the kids can't/won't leave mom. The offer is out there, I have looked into what I need to do to take them in but they have asked me to hold off. They are hoping mom will wake up, I as an adult know she won't. They call if they need out, I have a friend that lives right down the street and the kids go there during the evenings to sleep over if they have to (has only happened a few times) and they are here weekends, holidays and vacations (yes most of summer vacation etc.) This has been going on for the past three years. I am just doing what I can do. The kids are fine, the abuse is verbal and they know that the BF is an idiot so they don't take things personally when he is acting the fool. However, mom does. It just makes it easier for everyone if they are here with me, if they have to be home for any long amount of time because he picks fights/runs his mouth at everyone in the house and then he threatens to kick them out on the street, throw someone in jail, also more typical things for people in that stereo typical life style.
Thanks everyone, I am praying for good things..
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