We will be married 18 years on 2/22. We have known each other for almost 22. We met when we were 16 and I had sworn off guys (at that young age lol)! I really hated the whole dating process, I was really shy.

I went to work at dh's brother's restaurant. Dh was really nice, but I was not looking to go out with anybody at that time I was tired of guys and their attitudes. Dh and I became friends and one Saturday afternoon when mom came to pick me up he went out and asked her if he could take me to the movies. She said yes. This was over two months since we met. He also asked mom and dad if he could marry me before he asked me. I was a senior in high school and mom said I had to finish college before I could get married. That didn't matter cuz dh was in the Navy anyway! Now we are living happily ever-after

Just excited about our anniversary and I don't know why. I always had to work over our anniversary because it was tax season and I wasn't allowed to take off. I would like to take a 3 day mini-trip somewhere so I am planning. Actually it will probably be to Virginia Beach! But I'm not sure yet!

By Sue3 on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 04:25 pm:

what a nice how we met story marge !
Dh and I will be celebrating our 13 year of marriage this April the 13!
We met on the golf course.
That seems sooooo long ago.we dated for 4 years before we got married.
He is a great Husband and Father!

By Marg on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 04:31 pm:

We had often teased my mom and his brother that they "set us up)

By Bea on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 04:35 pm:

I was dating a guy named Ed. He wasn't anyone that I was serious about, but we were dating pretty exclusively. One Sunday he asked me if I'd like to go water skiing. He and his friend Karl co-owned a small boat. It sounded like fun, so Ed called his friend, and asked him if he could get a date and join us. Karl went to Penn State, and had just gotten home from summer term. He didn't have anyone he wanted to ask, but volunteered to come along as driver or spotter.

Ed and I drove over to Karl's place, rang the doorbell and his mother answered. She said, He isn't ready yet, but come in and wait". He mustn't have realized we were downstairs waiting, because with no more than a towel around his waist, he dashed down the steps, yelling, "Mom have you seen my suit"? I'd seen a lot more than he intended, and I liked what I saw. Red faced, he scrambled back up stairs.

We had a wonderful time water skiing that day. The sun was hot, and the water glassy smooth. We took turns on the skis all morning, and by lunch time we were tired. I’d packed a picnic lunch, so we pulled into a lovely cove with a sandy beach, waded ashore and chowed down. After a beer or two we all decided to nap a bit in the sunshine before we started again. (Besides, you know what Momma said about swimming after you’ve just eaten). We stretched out on towels with Ed between Karl and I. I awoke, and slowly sat up to find Karl staring at me. It was as if an electrical current passed between us. Neither of us said a word, just kept looking into each other’s eyes. Ed woke up and that moment ended, but despite the danger of losing his close friend Karl called me that night.

I’d heard that Ed had taken out a girl I knew, so I asked him how he’d feel about me dating someone else. He really didn't mind. Karl was in a wedding that next weekend, and he asked me to go with him. His parent were there also, and I ended up sitting with them since Karl was at the bridal party table. His mother asked prying questions the entire time and made me feel so very uncomfortable. I should have run for the hills then, as she only got worse later on.....But that’s another story. Karl and I were very careful to spare Ed’s feelings and their friendship survived. So did my marriage with this guy with his electric eyes. We were married 36 years this December.

By Bea on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 04:36 pm:

By Bea on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 04:43 pm:

Then


Now

By Jodie on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 05:10 pm:

Love that story Marg, And Bea , your lovestory and pictures are lovely!I 've been married for almost 13 years. We got married when My husband was 18 and I was 20.I had accompanied my best friend to her brother's dorm on a visit and while snacking in the dining hall, my husband Al, says he noticed me and it was love at 1st sight for him. I didn't even know he existed at this point. To date, Al even remembers the outfit I had on back in 1989!Anyhow, Mr lovestruck ended up bribing my friend's brother(agreed to do his laundry for a week! yuck!!) to get more info on me, got my phone number and we started dating .He was so cute , and shy and just adorable. I fell for him like a ton of bricks and we eloped 6 months later! We are each other's firsts in everyway.I haven't really dated anyone else and wouldn't change a thing if I had to do it over. I know he feels the same way. We have our first child 2 years ago and it's been wonderful.Didn't really have time for a family before then. We migrated to the United States in 1992, moved to London ,UK, for a couple of years, came back to New Jersey, and finally bought a house,, got permanent US residency and had a baby!It's been rough a bit as we have absolutely NO family in this hemisphere ! A wonderful set of friends got us through after the baby and we do have family come and visit.
We've been through college, international migrations and ups and downs over the years . I think thoose only make you stronger and cement your relationship if handled the right way.I look forward to growing old together.

By Jackie on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 05:20 pm:

We have been married for 10 yrs. We only dated 3 1/2 months before getting married, and I wasnt pregnant , many people did ask us that though.Before him, I dated a guy for 4 yrs, and I knew he wasnt the right guy. Yet, it was easier to be with someone then to be alone. Well, so I thought, back then. After 4 yrs we broke up, and 3 months later I met my husband 3 1/2 months after that we gotmarried. It wasnt a rebound thing at all. I fully believe when your with the wrong person for so long, you know when the right person comes along.

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 06:07 pm:

Two friends of ours co-conspired to fix us up! LOL!

We went out on the first date, went out to eat and then back to my place, where he proceeded to tell me all about his camera equipment! LOL! I guess that is what he knew a lot about!

Then we went out again because we decided to and I think we went to a movie. Shortly after that, I showed up at a basketball game he was covering for the paper. I talked a co-worker into going with me. It was a basketball game at the 2 year college in town! LOL! He did see me, too!

We went out the first time on November 11, 1986. He proposed on a bluff overlooking Lake Michigan on March 14, 1987, and we got married October 24, 1987.

The whole complete story is here:

Wedding Story

We have been married for 16 years.

By Cybermommyx4 on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 06:09 pm:

DH and I will celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary in February - we've been together a little over 17 years. We were high school sweethearts, and got married at 18 (3 wks. after DS #1 was born ;) Best decision we ever made !!

By Jbarrj2112 on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 08:54 pm:

Hi there, I'm new to the boards, but I figured that I would just jump right in, if that's okay! Well, I guess I am one of the whippersnappers, LOL, but that's okay......I have only been married to my husband for 2 1/2 yrs., together for over 3. I was working for my Dad when my future husband, who had worked for my Dad before, came back to work there. I guess it was sort of a "love at first sight thing" - we met one week, went out on our first date a few weeks later, and married 9 months later! Didn't have much of a honeymoon, because of my husband being in the Navy, but it didn't matter to us. It's sad what a lot of marriages nowadays come to, and we heard a lot of negatives when we first got together from a variety of people, but we both have parents that have stayed together through thick and thin, which is a good start as an example, and we also know that you can't just give up. We are best friends most of all, so that makes it easier when problems do arise. I wouldn't say that things have been easy by any means since we came together, but we both agree we would rather go through hard times together than apart. We moved from Ohio to San Diego the week after we got married, and then were apart for several weeks due to my husband's job. Then we got to remain together for a year before he was shipped overseas for 8 months. I became pregnant with our daughter right before he left for his deployment, and had her 2 weeks before he got home, this past May. We both wish he could have been there for the pregnancy and the birth, but I think it helped bring us closer together, in spite of being apart. I have to say that I wish he never had to leave, but we made the best of it. Now we are back in San Diego (I went home to Ohio while I was pregnant and he was deployed), and we just concentrate on one another and our little one. It is really touching to read all of your stories - you have all been together for quite a while, and I'm sure that there are many more happy years ahead. That is a real encouragement to young couples, thanks!

By Brandy on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 10:26 pm:

Me and Daniel have been married for 10 years as of June 7th of 2003 = )

By Kay on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 10:30 pm:

We've been married for 22 years, but began dating 29 years ago. Back then, I was 16 and he was 19. We waited to marry until after I graduated from college.

By Bobbie on Sunday, December 28, 2003 - 10:32 pm:

I actually had a crush on my DH for two years before we started dating. But I knew he was older than I was and figured he would have no interest in me and my parents would have had a huge fit. So I just kept my crush to myself. I would run into him every so often and we would chat for a few minutes (had mutual friends). Then the summer of my Senior year I ran into him while I was out with a couple of my friends. His brother asked us if we would like to come by and hang out and we agreed. DH and I sat and talked the whole night. The next day he showed up at my house. Talked to my mom about going out on dates with me and the age issue (didn't want her to have him thrown in jail or anything). Turned out he was 6 years my senior, which at that time he had just turned 23 and I was getting ready to turn 17. We started dating that day and have spent almost every day together since then. We have been together for 16 years and married for almost 14. We had planned on getting married the June after I graduated but I ended up pregnant. My dad's insurance would cover the baby and DH's wouldn't because they considered it a preexisting condition. So we didn't marry and oldest DD was born and we decided to wait a year to get married. My parents got married because of me. I didn't want my child growing up thinking we had only married because of her. So we got married the week after she turned a year old. We originally had planned to marry on her first birthday but the timing wasn't right. But anyway, I am a firm believer in soul mates. I knew after our first talk that there was something there. Deeper than a physical attraction. Something electric. And come to find out after we started dating he had felt the same thing. It was like we were drawn to each other. I wouldn't change a moment of my life with him, everything we have been through and everything we will go through just makes that commitment all the more stronger. He is my life, my soul mate.

By Hol on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 02:43 am:

35 1/2 years. We, too, were high school sweethearts since age 14. (We are eight months apart).
He was in my study hall. I wrote him a note, because I thought he was cute.
The Vietnam War was raging when we graduated, so we waited two years after graduation to get married. I was 19 (almost 20) and he WAS 20. We have been together ever since.
We have survived many things, including 7 moves,the birth of two children, one miscarriage, many deployments, the death of three out of our four parents, the death of an adult son, and the adoption of two teenaged sons.
This Christmas just passed was our 36th MARRIED Christmas.
We are fatter, greyer, grumpier,(LOL), but, hopefully, wiser and more compassionate.
P.S. I STILL think he's cute!

By Amy~moderator on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 06:48 am:

Mike and I will be married 3 years on April 25th. Like Hol and her husband, it seems like we've been through so much in so short of a time. We've moved 8 times, had to go thru Mike being in Iraq while I stayed home with 2 kids and being pregnant, the surgery of our youngest in September, and the recent fire in our new home where we have lost almost everything and which put Mike in serious critical condition. I love him more and more every day. These hardships have definitely strengthened our marriage and have made us better people.

By Feona on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 07:37 am:

We have been married 11 years. We met playing soft ball. I thought he was very nice and I liked everything about him. Our first date was at an ice cream parlour. Wow, that was a long time ago...

By Karen~moderator on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 07:58 am:

We've been married 4 years, but have known each other for almost 7 years. I keep saying this is the man I *should* have met 25 years ago, but then I wouldn't have the kids I do, or Madison.......so things happen the way they're supposed to. :-)

By Marg on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 08:06 am:

Hol, that is really sweet, do you let your husband read these boards? That is really cute! BTW, I think my dh is still cute too.

Amy, when Mike gets well, I hope you let him read yours also. Tough times only make a marriage stonger

Ladies you have really neat stories.

My story is I never thought I would marry a man younger than me, dh knew that and kept his birthday a secret for a long time. He is 1 month and 9 days younger than me. And when he gave me his high school ring, I was the one to tell him I love you first!

By Trina~moderator on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 08:15 am:

15 happy years!

Back in college (Keene State in NH) we had what we called our "lust men" - Guys on campus who we thought were particularly attractive. I had a serious boyfriend at the time, but sophomore year I noticed an absolutely GORGEOUS freshman!! OMG, he was the most attractive man I had ever seen!! Something about him really caught my interest. I looked him up in the Freshman Register and learned his name was "Mike". I would see him in the dining commons and follow him to the salad bar just to get a closer look. LOL! Even though I had a BF at the time I was disappointed to learn Mike was also involved in a relationship. Throughout college I admired him from afar. Fast forward to senior year - During lunch one day, while BF and I weren't getting along, Mike walked by our table. I sighed to myself and asked, "God, why can't I have him?" Minutes later Mike caught me checking him out! I was SO embarrassed yet when our eyes met for that brief moment I felt an instant connection with him. I got goosebumps all over and shook it off as being embarrassed. A week later BF and I were visiting a friend and guess who walked in? Mike and his GF! AWWW!! It was exciting yet awkward for me. Here I was with my BF yet seriously attracted to Mike, who was with his GF. Vibes were definitely going on between us but neither let on. A few months later BF and I broke up. I dated a few other guys but nothing serious. One night I went to the College Pub and bumped into a friend of mine (Tina) who I hadn't seen for awhile. I was very surprised to see Mike sitting amongst all the people at her table. I said, "I didn't know you knew Mike?!" Tina replied nonchalantly, "Oh yea, we're the same major so he's in a lot of my classes." Me: "Tina, he's MY ultimate lust man!!" Of course I wanted to lay low and be cool about it, but Tina called across the table, "Hey Mike, this is my friend, Trina." AWWW! I felt like crawling underneath the table! He smiled and waved. Later that evening we chatted and he asked me out on a date. We instantly clicked and have been together happily ever since. We met in 86, got married in '88. I consider him an answered prayer.

By Marg on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 08:20 am:

Too sweet Trina, does he know this story?

By Trina~moderator on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 08:44 am:

Marg, YES he does! We reminisce of those days often. He rolls his eyes when I tell him he's an answered prayer. He said he noticed me long before we actually met but thought I was too "hot" for him. ROFL!! Claims he was VERY nervous when he first asked me out. On our first date we lost track of time and were happily chatting until 3 a.m.! We both had to work the next day. I came home from work that night and found flowers by my door with a poem he had written for me. *Heavy Sigh*

By Trisa on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 08:51 am:

I have been married to Shaun for 15 years.
Our first date was on valentines day. We saw a movie then went out for Pizza and when they brought it to us it was in the shape of a heart.

By Bellajoe on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 05:20 pm:

trina, that's so sweet!

We've been married for 5 busy but great years. We married and got pregnant a month later! HAd isabella and started building our new home. When Bella was 9 months old we found out i was pregnant again. We moved into the new house and a week later Joey was born!! It's been a fun, great and happy five years. It will be 6 years on July 11th!

By Mommyathome on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 05:36 pm:

We've been married 6.5 years.
We actually grew up together starting in 7th grade. He moved into a house on the street directly behind ours. Our bedroom windows faced each other ;)
I had the biggest crush on him for the longest time. Shortly after graduation, he asked me out to the movies and dessert. The rest is history! It seems like that was so long ago. And, typing this now, I get those butterflies in my tummy all over again. LOL What a great feeling!!

By Smartypants on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 05:52 pm:

You guys have some of the sweetest stories. I am new to the board, but I figured I would just jump right in. I met my husband when I was 16. We dated almost 8 years. He was in college and then went to Med. school before we married. Now- we have been married for 11 years and we have a daughter 8 years old. I feel like an old married couple. Does anyone else feel that way. I don't get butterflies anymore when he is coming home from work. I miss that feeling. Smarty

By Boxzgrl on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 06:31 pm:

Wow, I have a long way to go to catch up with all of you. DH and I have been married for over 2 years but dating for over 5 years.

But I promise all of you that I will gladly post the day we've been married for 50+ years.....

I love my DH to death even though he's going bald at 22!!!!!!!! (LOL )

By Marg on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 06:37 pm:

Smarty,

We had a recent post about this...


I'm like Robin, I get butterflies thinking especially when dh was in the Navy, and I don't know why...

Dh went away for a 5 day training this summer and I got butterflies when he returned and I missed him too much and he felt the same way. We're 37 and like I said we have known each other for almost 22 years. I love him soo much and I don't know what I would do without him. I believe at last count we have had 22 relatives pass away, those are the worst things that have happened, but we have been sooo blessed

By Gammiejoan on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 06:46 pm:

My husband and I have been married thirty-two years. We met when I was in college and he was in the military. He was introduced to me by a guy who was dating a friend of mine. We dated for a few months, but in the beginning he seemed to like me a lot more than I liked him. He wanted to come see me at my home that summer, but I declined because I was interested in a guy back home and was planning on dating him that summer. It was almost a year before I heard anything else from him, and then one day a letter from him arrived from Vietnam. I wrote to him the entire time he was in Vietnam because I felt it was the right thing to do. I really didn't think anything serious would come of it. By then the old boyfriend back home was history. When Jim came back from Vietnam, he got a month's leave before having to report back to his home base. He spent the first two weeks at home in Maine with his family and then came to North Carolina to spend the remaining two weeks with me. The strangest thing happened almost as soon as I laid eyes on him for the first time in almost two years. Something just seemed to change almost immediately about the way I felt about him. My feelings for him grew rapidly over the course of the next two weeks, and by the time he left to go back to base we were engaged and he had bought me a ring. About three months later he got out of the service and a month later we were married.

By Marg on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 06:58 pm:

That is sooo sweet Joan

By Dawnk777 on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 08:22 pm:

I knew hubby, sort of, when I was in 7th grade. I lived in Port Washington, WI and he lived in Waubeka, WI (just a few minutes from Port Washington.) We both attended the same middle school! LOL! We had band together. He was an 8th grade saxophone player and I was a 7th grade trumpet player. I vaguely remember a red-headed saxophone player many years later! Isn't that weird how we ran into each other so many years later and in a city about 200 miles away from Port Washington?

Actually, the co-conspirers both still lived in PW. They met each other in Dairy Queen one day and plotted our future!

By Pamt on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 09:20 pm:

We celebrated our 13th anniversary in August, but we've been exclusive for almost 19 years. Dh and I have known each other since 3rd grade when he sat behind me and taught me how to draw WW II biplanes. He says he had a crush on me way back then, but I was "going with" someone else at the time--LOL. Fast forward...went to different schools, I moved out of state and then back, we went to the same school in 6th and 7th grade but ran in different circles. In 9th grade we started having classes together and were in the same big group of friends. We started dating in 11th grade and dated all through college for a total of 5 years before we got engaged and then got married 11 months later at age 22. He was only the 2nd guy that I had ever kissed and we held to the "true love waits" philosophy until our honeymoon. It's funny because until we started dating in highschool we mostly went on large group dates or one-time kind of dates to dances, so we've each gone out with each other's good friends. It's great fun to get together with our old highschool buds and reminesce and so many of our friends we went to high school with married their high school sweethearts too. I wouldn't change a thing. I have people tell me all of the time how truly blessed I am to have such a wonderful husband and I try really hard not to take him for granted. He still makes my heart beat fast, makes me laugh, and holds me when I cry. I'm a lucky girl

By Truestori on Monday, December 29, 2003 - 09:21 pm:

I met my husband when I was 15. We both went to the same high~school and the saga began! LOL
My bestfriend was dating my dh's bestfriend at the time so we ended up dating! Needless to say after all the sneaking out, and midnight meetings we ended up preggo with my daughter. By the age of 16, Lotte was born and we still hadn't gotten married! We both knew that we loved eachother but we didn't want to marry just because everyone expected us to. We actually didn't get married until our second child was born. So, we have lived together for 13 years but have only been married going on four! He is truly my bestfriend and I could never ask for a better father or husband! Just like Amy, we have been through so much...His brother dying, me being involved in a serious accident while pregnant with my daughter..and we have made it through and learned to take one day at a time and appreciate one another!

By Hol on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 02:09 am:

Great stories! Isn't it fun to reminicse (sp)?

Dawn, I DO believe that we have "connections" with the person we will marry, and that is why we sometimes keep running into that same person over and over.

After DH and I had been going together for a while, our parents met. Our Dads were talking about their jobs, etc. Then, my Dad mentioned his cousin, Esther. She was married and lived in Providence, on the same street that my FIL said his brother lived on. (Aunt Esther wasn't really "blood" kin to Dad. My great-grandma took in foster children, back in England. She raised Aunt Esther's Mom, from a little girl, so Dad always called Aunt Esther his cousin).

Well...by now, you have all guessed it....Uncle Will, my DH's Dad's brother was married to my great-"aunt" Esther! There was a whole clan of people in this one section of Providence, back in the 20's and 30's, that had emigrated from England, to work in the textile mills. They all hung out and socialized together. Turns out, DH and I had been at the same functions when we were little!

We went to a big family reunion in Maine, ten years ago, for my side of the family. One of the teeneagers said to me, "You married your COUSIN, didn't you?". I said, "NOOO! I'm not one of the "Beverly Hillbillies". LOL! But, apparently, the "rumor mill" is alive and well, even in families. LOL!

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 08:31 am:

So, you have a situation similar to mine, too! I don't know that I ever even spoke to DH when I was in 7th grade. I just remember seeing him there. Little did I know I would end up married to him! LOL!

By Lauram on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 10:42 am:

We've been married for 8 years and have been togeterh for 10. We were engaged after 5 mo, but had a long engagement. I met him at a party a friend of mine from high school had at her house. I hadn't seen her in many years (I was 24) and was also "sworn off men." I had just gotten out of a bad relationship with someone who my friends were all friends with as well. I was looking for a new group of friends! I went to the party and my friend was DETERMINED to set me up with someone. I really could have cared less about that. It was a "sleepover" party- everyone just crashed on couches or the floor because people came long distances. There were about 30 people there. In the AM, this guy named "Doug" went to the GROCERY store and bought flour, eggs, syrup, sausage, etc... and made pancakes from scratch. He was bald and I figured he was in his mid 30's or so. He certainly wasn't my age, because I didn't know any males my age who would do THAT! He made breakfast for everyone there (it was AWESOME) and I helped him by making the coffee. We chatted a bit, but not that much. I just thought he was "nice." Well, a few days after the party, my friend called asking me who I wanted to be set up with. I had no idea. She was SOOOO insistant that I finally said, "Doug was nice." Well, then she called Doug and said that I had the "hots" for him and that I couldn't stop talking about him. He thought that was pretty bizzare since we'd only chatted briefly while I made the coffee, but nonetheless he was flattered. (BTW- he was 24 too!) Then she called me and said that he couldn't stop talking about me, blah, blah, blah. Both of us thought the other was stalking us! So he lived in NJ and I in NYC and my friend said they were all coming in for the NYC marathon. I started getting nervous and kept questioning her about how many people were coming because I really didn't have much floorspace in my apartment! Anyhow, she ended up coming ALONE with Doug and we met a few more people at a bar in MYC called "Manny's Carwash." I was talking to him and then he said he had to go to the bathroom. I figured, oh well, that was that, but then HE CAME BACK! He passed the "bathroom test!" Anyhow, from there sparks flew, we went to the marathon with the friend the next AM and then he came in the next weekend and made me dinner (shrimp scampi!) That was the weekend before Thanksgiving. He then "happened to go to VT" at the same time for Thanksgiving with his aunt and uncle because he knew I'd be there with my parents. We've been inseparable ever since! Oh, and BTW, he STILL makes me GREAT pancakes!

By Conni on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 11:14 am:

Dh and I will celebrate our 5 yr wedding anniversary on April 17, 2004... We have known each other for 6 yrs. Thats right! We met, we dated, we married all in one short yr. LOL!

My story is kind of different from alot of yours as this is my 2nd marraige. I was seperated from my first dh and pursuing divorce. I hate that word 'divorce'. Its a sad thing. I had NO intentions of looking for another relationship of any type! I was enjoying entertaining thoughts of independance, life with just me and my 2 boys, finishing nursing school finally, after all those years of waiting.... Well, in March of '98 my sister begins calling me ~'Do you want to come eat lunch with me and my friend Dale??' (a guy she has worked with for 10 yrs and been friends with)
Me~ 'uhhhh NOOOO!' 'I am seperated and just ending a 6 yr relationship~ I have NO desire to meet your single friend!!' Another detail I left out, after I left my ex, I found out I was pregnant with our 3rd baby. I was ready to have this baby by myself and go on with life. So, I was also telling my sister (who continued to call for an ENTIRE MONTH!) that I was pregnant as well~ and this was yet another reason I had not wanted to meet anyone. 11 weeks into the pregnancy I started having these little contractions and long story short~ I miscarried. I was pretty sad so I didnt leave my house for a solid week. It was spring and I decided for the sake of my boys I needed to count my blessings, cheer up, and get on with life... Then my sister calls again asking AGAIN 'Why dont you come to lunch with me and my friend Dale??' I finally said 'FINE I will come and I am bringing Bradley (then 4 yrs old) with me, and after this leave me alone. LOL!' I guess in a way I thought bringing my child along would get this guy to leave me alone??? LOL Anyway, we met at a nice restuarant that 4 yr olds shouldnt go to. Had lunch, had a great visit, he played dinosaurs with Bradley knocking things over at the table. LOL Come to find out he had a son of his own that was 15 yr old at this time! LOL So he wasnt scared off by my wild boys. He asked me to lunch for the next week, then he started calling every single night and talking all night long. After 3 weeks of knowing each other he planned a nice drive to the nearest Olive Garden for my birthday dinner and had a dozen roses waiting for me in the car. I wasnt really as serious about him as he was me at first. Then by the end of the summer I started really falling for him and after 6 mos of dating he asked me to marry him. We had so much in common~ He came from a deeply religious family (I did too), He moved around alot as a child due to his Dads work (I did too), He hated that he was divorced (I hated that my marraige failed too), He was raised with very good manners (I was too~ my ex husband was not!), He was born in a small farm town in Texas about 3 hours from the farm town I was born in, in Texas! We had lived in Arkansas about the same number of years, We both anjoy the same activities/hobbies, He is the oldest of 3 children and I am the youngest of 3 children, etc... He had also just ended a 5 yr relationship with someone he had been dating. I could go on and on about the similarities.

He told me on many occassions early in our relationship that he felt like he had known me forever. I felt the same way but hated admitting it. After all I was the one that didnt even want to go to lunch with him in the beginning.

You would think it would have been really scary getting remarried so quickly after my divorce. But it all fell into place so well. I met this person that I wasnt looking for at all,
and I felt like he was made for me. I never felt that way with my ex. I did feel that way about my first boyfriend~ but he was killed in a car accident when he was 18 yrs old. It's a really good feeling to have. The last 6 yrs have been great. We have been through some VERY trying times-- but we come out of every one of these times feeling so much closer than before. It's really a great feeling and I couldnt be happier!!

Of course neither of us wanted anymore children (he had 1 ds and I had 2 ds--perfect, 3 kids, we love having boys and were done having children), but God had bigger plans for us, he had a special gift he wanted to give this family, another precious little boy!! He was concieved after dh's vasectomy. (One of the 'tubes' dh's doc. clipped wasnt a tube after all???) Dh got divorced when his little boy was around 3 or 4 yrs old. So, he missed out on alot raising him. He has told me on so many occassions that he is really enjoying getting to do all the everyday Daddy things with our ds, that he always felt like he missed out on with his oldest ds.

By Kernkate on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 02:14 pm:

Such great stories...mine is kinda long. My DH and I were childhood sweethearts. From probably when I was in 6th grade and he was in 7th. So that was probably in 1974, we dated all during high school until I was a senior. Things just seem to go in different directions once DH Dave graduated a year before I did. So we broke up. I met a nice guy and he met a girl. We were both married to these two people. I was married to Al for 5 years and he was married to Lynn for about 7.
Evenually my marriage ended in divorce and so did Daves. Two years after I was divorced Dave and I caught up with each other...both being from the same small town it seemed like we were always running into each other. So we started dating again. I had DS Tom who was probably about 3 at the time and he had a DS who was also 3 and a DD who was 5.
In 1991 Dave and I were married and have had 2 beautiful children. So weird how all this has happened. I guess you really do never forget your childhood sweetheart.
We are a very happy family. We have just experience the worse time of our life with the death of DH's son Josh on Dec. 13th. He was like my own being with him for 14 years. But we have all the happy memories and with a strong marriage we can pull through it.
So all and all I have known DH for almost 30 years and have been married for 12 years.

By Conni on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 04:01 pm:

oops my post should read 'I am seperated and just ending an 8 yr relationship'

... not that it matters. LOL!!! It was just bugging me.

By Hol on Tuesday, December 30, 2003 - 11:59 pm:

Marg- To answer your question....no, DH doesn't read this board, and I don't encourage it! This is MY place to "hang out" with some of the best people in the world.

I might SHARE something that's going on on the board, (like Amy and Mike), so we can all pray together, as a family. But, other than that, MV is MINE! Someting that I don't have to SHARE with the family.

By Bobbie on Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 01:02 am:

Hol. I am the same way. DH knows many of the ladies I have been posting with for years by name and situation. I have shared their stories with him. Like Mike and Amy for example. And he will ask me to check for updates or ask me how so and so is doing but he wouldn't come here. We have an understanding this is my place.. But I do know IF I told him to come here he does know how to get to the group and work the board so that he could post IF he had too. He also knows how to work my email for the very same reason. Just in case.

By Marg on Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 06:38 am:

Ladies, I didn't mean dh reading the boards, I meant does your husband know how you felt when you were checking them out while dating. Some of these are really sweet stories and I was wondering if dh's knew the real stories abouting how you felt when dating or before that...

My dh knows I post but is computer illiterate. I am trying to teach him but he doesn't enjoy it.

By Dawnk777 on Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 10:44 am:

My hubby would know how to get here and would know how to post. Everyone in my family knows how to use a computer!

By Wandilu on Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 03:07 pm:

i'm kinda getting in on this post late.but i love talking about how me and dh got together.i married my first husband when i was 16.we had 3 wonderful children together.but my husband was VERY abusive,controlling,etc.so after 15 yrs,i was finally able to divorce him.i started going to a night club with several of my family members,because we all loved music and we loved to dance(sadly,our father was a severe alcoholic,so somehow we could never show love for each other,or even say the word love,unless we were drinking.but on the dance floor,we could let ourselves go and have fun.but thats another story.lol).anyway,i started noticing this very handsome,well built guy that looked just like a younger version of Chuck Norris.he wasn't there every week,but i would see him quiet often.one night i pointed him out to my sil and said,"if i could get ole Chuck Norris for one night,i'd have him for life !!" well,he sort of dropped out of sight,and i ran into a guy that had been married to a childhood ex-friend of mine.david and i started dating,and we fell in love and after 6 months,got married.i had heard for many years how he was so good to his then wife,taking her back again and again after she would cheat on him,because he loved his children so much,and was trying to make a home for them.i wanted so much to give my own 3 children a dad like that.and i truely loved him.one day ,right before the wedding,i was working at a local factory in town,and i noticed this handsome guy walking by,and it gave me an "electric" chill !!now,keep in mind,that when i am involved with someone,i NEVER pay attention to other men,i'm so involved with them.so,when this reaction happened,i was totally surprised with myself !!and it happened everytime i saw him.anyways,david and i got married and i thought it would be forever.but,right away troubles started(as they always do in any marriage)and i found out that he wasn't as committed to the marriage as i was.i helped him take his ex to court and won coustody of his kids ,and proved her to be unfit.and then after he had "proven" his powers to her,he walked out on me and my 3 children and moved back in with her !!!needless to say,i was devastated!!!my grandmother-in-law(from my 1st marriage)that i dearly loved had just died,it was the day after thanksgiving,i had just gotten laid off from my job,and i had no christmas bought for the kids,and my teenage son had just been put in Vanderbilt Hosp.for drug abuse !!and we had been married less than 2 yrs.After the holidays,fri.jan 5 1990,a friend of mine was going thru hard times,and asked me to go out with her to our old hangout.i begged her not to go,even took her out to eat to get her mind off of it,but she finally said that she was going,with or without me,so i went just to make sure she wouldn't do anything stupid.long story short,she got drunk,i got very down because of the events in my own life,so we left.on the way home ,i decided to stop at a place that all the locals used to go.i was so hopeing to run into friends and change the mood of the night.what i didn't know,was it was going to change the whole course of my life !!!!it was late,so there wasn't very many people still there.i started to leave,but i decided to scan the room anyway to see who was there.and when i did,i saw this very good looking guy smiling at me!!and a very familiar "electrical"feeling shot thru me.he asked me to dance(my 1st dance of the night !!)and then we went to the waffle house for coffee.we hit it off great,and it felt like we had known each other forever.but the biggest shock came when i realized that he was "chuck norris" from 3 yrs earlier,and also was the guy that i worked with that gave me goose bumps prior to my marriage to david !!!!!!we've been together ever since then,except for a "short little divorce" of 7 months.we never stopped loving each other,we just had things to resolve,and in our case it took a divorce.i don't recommend it,but for us ,it was the best thing that could have happened.as much as we loved each other before,we love each other a zillion times more now .so,jan 5/6 (we count both days,since we went for coffee after midnight)will be 14yrs since we met,aug 19 will be our 13th wedding anniversary AND sept 14th will be our 7th wed.anniv !!what a way to get 2 presents !!!!!!!!!

By Bobbie on Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 10:18 pm:

Wow Wanda, what a life. lol

By Bethk on Wednesday, December 31, 2003 - 11:24 pm:

I first met my dh when I was 12 yrs old and he was 17. He asked my sisters husband who I was and if he could hook him up. My bil said man she's only 12. He just about died. Nothing was said to me until we left. He saw me 4 yrs later when I was working at Dairy Queen. Him and a friend kept driving through the drive thru. It was so funny cause he remembered who I was. He got my phone number from a friend and called and asked me out the next day. When he called he told me the story of him asking my bil to hook him up. I just said oh I thought you looked familiar. We have been together ever since. We have been married 9yrs.

By Babysitbarb on Sunday, January 4, 2004 - 04:09 pm:

My DH and I have been married for 16 years. We have been together for 19 years. We actually went to school together and he had a crush on me for like 4 years but, I didn't know this until we started dating. We became friends my Senior year through my best friend dating his cousin.He graduated a year behind me but, we are the same age.We dated for a couple months during his senoir year and while I was in beauty school. It just felt weird so we stopped seeing each other for about a year and a half.(My choice and he still reminds me of this). Anyways his cousin and my best friend at the time was planning their wedding and we seemed to see each other a lot and we started dating again. We are still together and they are not. He ended up proposing to me on Valentine's 1987 and we married September 1987 and I gave birth to our first child Valentine's 1989.

By Insaneusmcwife on Sunday, January 4, 2004 - 07:13 pm:

We have been married 7 years last October. We were togeather for about 7 months before we got married and had lived togeather for about a month and a half. We were not pregnant either when we got married but didn't waste anytime conceiving afterwards. It was less than 4 months after we got married that I got pregnant. I had ds a little over a week before our 1st Anniversary.