I am a cashier in a elementary school cafeteria, my position is not limited to simply cashiering, there is food preparation, cleaning, lifting, constant movement, by the time that I leave I feel like I have been put through the ringer, I work alittle over five hours a day, no evenings, weekends, holidays and summers off but boy does it put you through the paces. Then after school there is no shortage of things to do after school, music lessons, errands, dd's church activites, making dinner, laundry, pets to take care of, tidying up the house. At the end of the day I am tired! All I want to do is retire to my room about 7 or so, I dont go to sleep but I have my quiet time and read or use the computer, this drives my dh crazy because I am not physically downstairs with everyone else, they are all doing their own thing and I figure why can't I do what I want to do? Dh and ds are in the basement watching the football game, dd is watching a show on tv after her shower. Just felt like venting, lol, thanks for listening...

By Rayelle on Tuesday, November 6, 2007 - 08:30 am:

I can relate, my dh is the same way sometimes! He and the kids might be watching show I don't especially care for or everyone doing their thing and I "sneak" upstairs to chill out for a little and dh wants to know what's wrong? Why don't I come down with everyone, etc. We do make a point to do things together, so I don't understand it either.

By Luvn29 on Tuesday, November 6, 2007 - 09:03 am:

I completely understand about being completely wore out after working with kids all day long! But...I would be the one that would be aggravated if my dh went to the bedroom everyday at seven. Of course, I am pretty clingy. I like to be together, even if he is watching television, and I'm reading a book or a magazine. Maybe on days that they are watching the game, you can retire to the bedroom, but other days, you can get your book, or if you do knitting or anything, grab it, and sit in the same room with him relaxing and doing your own thing...

I understand the need to have your "me" time, too, but maybe if you went up a little later, or every other day or something, he wouldn't feel so neglected.

By Sandysmom on Tuesday, November 6, 2007 - 10:53 am:

I understand too! My DH is a TV-aholic, and for years, prior to our getting a computer, I put up with it. When we finally got a computer, I found that I loved it as much as he loved his TV, and boy, did he get a taste of his own medicine! He would get angry at me for being on the computer and finally, I had to tell him that me being on the computer is no different than him staring at the TV all night. That shut him up fast! LOL! At least we are in the same room, and I'm not on the computer as much as he is watching TV. I feel like, all day long, I am taking care of my 2 dear girls, preparing dinner, cleaning, running errands, etc..... Why shouldn't I be able to spend an hour or so in front of the computer if I want to? I understand that sometimes he just wants me there next to him. I do try to just be near him, and sit next to him for a little while. That usually makes him happy.

By Dawnk777 on Tuesday, November 6, 2007 - 02:42 pm:

I would get off my computer to watch TV with DH, but then I'm watching TV by myself, because he dozes off quickly, in front of the TV!

When we do watch a movie together, then I think we should do it more often, but sometimes, I'm just too tired to watch a movie and I know I'm going to be the one dozing off.