My daughter has beautiful wavy hair that I love and she hates. However it is only "beautiful" for about 2 minutes after brushing. I swear it looks like it has never been brushed immediately.

So I am looking for something to smooth out her hair and get rid of all the tiny kinky curls she has around her face and loose flyaways everywhere else. She has knots within minutes of brushing too. We use conditioner which helps w/ the brushing but not long lived.

Living in the humid climate doesn't help.

So any recommendations?

By Yjja123 on Monday, September 17, 2007 - 07:28 pm:

My daughter and I use Frizz-Ease

By Chai~latte on Monday, September 17, 2007 - 08:15 pm:

I have curly hair and I NEVER brush it. You might want to try and play up the waves rather than trying to tame them. I towel dry my hair with a super absorbent towel, then I use mousse and scruntch my hair with my head upside down. I either let it air dry or I turn my head upside down and with a towel over my head I use a blow dryer and dry upwards on a very low setting so the hair doesn't blow around too much. You can also use a difusser.

Pantene makes a great leave in conditioner.

If she doesn't want to wash her hair every morning then just take a spray bottle with water and spritz her hair in the morning. There is a company called Friz-ize (I think that's how you spell it) that makes a products for frizzy or curly hair.

Brushing curly or wavy hair just makes it more prone to frizzies and tangles. Hope that helps.

By Crystal915 on Monday, September 17, 2007 - 08:26 pm:

I use Biolage leave-in, and Catwalk root booster on Mads hair. She has super fine, super thin hair that has a angled, layered cut thanks to a couple of self-trims, and the stylist that fixed her hair recommended the root booster. Anyway, my point is she should be ok using any quality product that you would use, for frizz I like Biolage finishing creme. Matrix makes another line, in orange bottles, that has some awesome stuff for sleek looks.

By Sandysmom on Monday, September 17, 2007 - 09:33 pm:

I deal with the same thing with my girls. My 13 yr. old just uses gel or mousse and combs it through her hair and then lets it dry naturally. She never touches it during the day unless it is to put it in a ponytail. If she were to brush it, it would bush out. For little dd, I use African American hair products because her scalp is unusually dry and her hair tends to be very dry and brittle. It's the only thing that works for her, otherwise, I can't even get a comb through it. You may want to look into a good leave in conditioner. If a light-weight one isn't strong enought to tame the friz, then look into one that is more stiff or waxy, like a pomade. I have actually bought something like this at a salon and it worked real well. Also, don't wash her hair everyday. That will only strip her hair of her natural oils. Good luck.

By Dana on Monday, September 17, 2007 - 09:53 pm:

LOL, it is NEVER washed every day! But she always gets it wet no matter what I tell her.

I've tried Frizz-Ease and the Biolage leave in and both just make her look greasy.

And to not brush it just makes her looked very unkept. Very very messy. It's not curly enough to just leave it alone.

She would be happy if it were totally straight, which is fine with me. I just worry about the chemicals that could even do that.

By Enchens on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 12:17 am:

Infusium 23 leave in conditioner works for the tangles in my hair. I use it everyday. I've been without my spray bottle of it for two weeks and boy was my hair a mess. Finally got it back, thank goodness.

If there's ANY moisture in the air, I have a lion's mane! lol I've been told that frizz ease would help with that. To help keep it straight (with a blow dry of course) I've had Biosilk used on my hair and it was great. You only need some product the size of a dime in your palm for your hair, even if it's a bit long. I've also heard of Flat Out for straightening with a blow dry. HTH

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 01:36 am:

I am headed to bed.. but you shouldn't brush wavy/curly hair. The hair shaft on straight hair is different the shaft on hair with curl. Which is why a perm comes out of some hair faster than others, straight hair round shaft, not meant to curl, curly hair flat shaft meant to curl. which is also why people that flat iron curly hair tend to have patches where it starts to curl back up with in a few hours of ironing. The hair is shaped to curl and it will because that is what it is meant to do.

While you have conditioner in her hair use a wide tooth comb and comb through the hair. Do not rub dry curly hair either, causes knots, pat or wrap and allow to dry. IF you blow dry it is best to use a product in it as it keeps it from frizzing, how ever it is best to air dry if possible, less damaging.

My girls (Callie-curly and Emily-wavy) use Motions Hair Lotion, Luster's Pink - Oil Moisturiser (light) and a couple other brands for African American hair, leave in oil moisturizer... It can be put on either wet or dry hair and it does not leave the hair looking dirty. I generally apply a small amount to the root and more to the tip as that is where they get the friz from. with Callie she applies it and runs a wide tooth pick from root to tip, shoots a bit of hair spray into the top to give it lift and leaves hers dry naturally. Emily we use either a pick or a very wide tooth comb, Goodies makes one. I apply the product and pick through as I go.. If she is in a hury I use my fingers and blow dry it, if not she lets it air dry. it doesn't curl up Emily's hair, hers is wavy, but the friziness comes from the hair becoming too dry and the oil keeps it from drying out, in both cases.. (I will switch computers and post a picture)

Oh and I am pretty sure you know, but my girls aren't African American or Bi Racial. I had tried all kind of junk on their hair and nothing worked.. One day I was talking to a friend with three bi-racial children and complained about Callie's hair and through our discussion I thought.. There are millions of products for straight hair, marketed toward white people but only a few for curly and none I had found worked. I had nothing to loose and who would know more about curly hair?? Honestly.. and that is my tip for the day.. Can't fresh fruit at a shoe store.

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 01:40 am:

That is you can't buy fresh fruit at a shoe store.


This is Callie



This is Emily



And if I hadn't told you what I used you would never know... Your DD needs to learn to embrace her waves, women throw good money away every day trying to get their straight hair to curl up and have body...

By Bobbie~moderatr on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 01:56 am:

Oh and your daughter hates her hair because she is 7, probably close to 8 now?.. Emily just started letting me actually take care of hers last year with out a fight about it, 9 years old. It hurts, I don't want it up, I am busy, I hate it and I went through the very same thing with Callie. They both ran around for a few years looking like wild women.. But they out grew it and chemicals to straighten her hair is not a good idea, she is way to young. The stuff they use is some strong stuff..

By Dana on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 - 08:19 am:

Thanks Bobbie. That is all good info. DD is the same age as Emily. She turned 9 in May. I feel like I need to study it there is so much, LOL.

I love your girls hair! They are both so pretty!!!