My MIL and I are "throwing" a long distance baby shower for my SIL. First baby, they live on the other side of the country. Anyway, the shower will be mainly for MIL's side of the family, and gifts will be shipped during a specific week. The parents-to-be are registered at 2 different places.

MIL wants to mail, along with the invite, the complete registry lists. Like print the registries online and make copies for each invitation. She wants to make the buying process as easy as possible. ?#$%@! Whatever. Not only will the envelopes look like a package in stead of an envelope, I think it's silly and obviously not up to etiquette standards. All of these people know how to use a computer or get themselves to a store.

It's just irritating dealing with her. Some of the things she comes up with...yikes.
Thanks for letting me vent!

By Jjandmom on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 10:12 am:

Well me and my daughters put my baby shower together and had it at my house. I did not do a registry list bacause I felt alot of people don't use them anyway. I know it felt odd to have my baby shower at my place and be involved with setting it up but my last son was born in 1994 and deceased in 97 so I didn't have anything to start all over and this was my husbands 1st baby so he also wanted to be a part in it and he did cook for it. We had about 9 of our friends at our house for it and we told them odds and ends to get cause when things were on sale I got them. I told them it was ok for gift cards cause I would buy the baby things I didn't have.

By Amecmom on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 10:54 am:

Tell her that sending the registry list owuld be useless because no one would know what's already been purchased. Just registry info is more than enough. For those that don't use the computer - there's always the telephone or going into the actual store.
Hugs
Ame

By Enchens on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 11:54 am:

I agree with Ame. They would have to look at the updated registry anyhow, to avoid duplicate purchases.

Hang in there. When is the shower?

By Dawnk777 on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 12:13 pm:

I agree with Ame. I don't always follow the list, because it often seems like the things I would buy from the list have always been already purchased. I like buying little board books anyway, and would probably do that regardless, since you can never have enough books for a little kid and I enjoy picking them out!

By Reds9298 on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 02:13 pm:

I know!! I tried to tell her that once, but I'm going to REALLY tell her that the lists won't work very well. She's frustrating...I've mentioned her before.

By Nicki on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 02:49 pm:

Maybe if you can convince her that the recipient will undoubtedly end up with duplicates if done her way. Some people may not check the store list because of the one she would be sending them in the mail. Your SIL will then have to return to the stores herself and do some exchanging, etc. While you MIL thinks she's making it easier on the guests, it may turn out to be more work for mom-to-be. How's that?

By Kay on Sunday, August 26, 2007 - 05:44 pm:

I'm afraid that I would just say 'That's not how it's done now, and it would be considered tacky'. But then, I'm 48 years old and I've gotten more stubborn in my old age. (I also care a lot less about whether or not I'm offending someone when it comes to just getting something done the way it should be.) LOL