NEWSWEEK ran a story about surrogate mothers, several of whom are women married to active military men. Newsweek

Ellen Goodman has written a thoughtful column about "outsourcing" surrogate pregnancy to India and other "third world" countries. Goodman

What do you think?

By Vicki on Saturday, April 12, 2008 - 04:06 pm:

I don't think that I could ever do it, but I am glad there are people out there that can. As someone who longed for a baby more than anything in the world and went through 4 years of infertility, I know what it is like to want one so bad and not have one. I was lucky enough to be able to finally conceive and have dd. I think it takes a special person to do it and I wouldn't want to stand in the way of any agreement they come up with between the "parents" and the surrogate. Frankly, it isn't one bit of my business!!

By Kaye on Saturday, April 12, 2008 - 10:38 pm:

I couldn't be a surrogate, a list of long reasons, but it isn't the right choice for me.

However I have a cousin, who is my age, who seriously looked into it. They are having big finacial issues, you can get paid quite a bit to do so, and it seemed like a good answer. They are finished with their family and she is still young enough to do it. After she had her first two kids, she donated several eggs to a friend, who went on to have a son. For me it is so weird, this boy looks like her son, she is good friends with the mom and dad. I don't think I could let go of those maternal feelings, but she doesn't have any problems. So I think she could surrogate just fine.

I do actually have less moral issues with surrogacy than I do with the egg donating thing. Just because you hatch a baby, doesn't biologically make it yours, and that is where things get fuzzy for me.